Starting Over

“Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go but rather learning to start over.”   Nicole Sobon

I heard this quote at the end of a show I watched a couple of nights ago and I was looking for the author before I could write about it.  I finally found the author on Good Reads and liked it there immediately. I liked this quote because learning to start over is so much harder than letting go.  I am grateful that there is an acknowledgement of this in this quote

I am fabulous at holding on, I am very tenacious... I rarely let go because I often wonder if I can make the next dream I have even better than the last.  What if nothing else ever measured up to the dream you're trying to let go of?  What if there is only mediocrity?   I have to remind myself that I am anything if mediocre... I highly doubt that anything I was involved with would be boring. 

I want someone who can l laugh just as much as I do, I think if you have a lot of laughter in your relationship then you are better able to handle the lows that inevitably come along.  I think after being with Andrey who had absolutely NO sense of humor that I would be unwilling to settle for anything but the complete opposite. Having a sense of humor is a deal breaker for me, plus I think it keeps you young.  

I have been seeing the other side of learning to start over and although I know it is going to be difficult, I plan to start over.  I have set some of the ideas into motion, the plan to get healthy, the plan to move up in my career and then hopefully I allow myself to start over and find love.  I seriously wouldn't want to see myself alone, I have too much to offer and I am a lot of fun.  Sometimes I wish I had learned the art of letting go, like some people I see...  I don't know how they do it so easily but I would love to learn that some day. 

 I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future ♥
  

Marcia from 'Menopausal Mother'

Today I want to introduce you  to Marcia from Menopausal Mother... I can tell you this, I was instantly hooked as she has the most wicked humor, I know that when she posts that I am in for a hearty laugh.  Sometimes I laugh so hard that my belly hurts, in a good way.  Since I am in the starting phases of menopause, I get the greatest kick out of how she explains what a woman goes through.  I can tell you one thing, our mother's never explained how awful menopause is.... Basically when a hot flash hits, you are sure your body is on fire.... it usually starts from your head and moves down...

I asked Marcia to write a little about herself, so that you can all get to know and love her as I do.

     Hello Everyone! I am so happy and honored to be asked by the lovely Launna to share a bit about Menopausal Mother today on her blog! I'm a middle aged mama blogging about the good, the bad and the ugly side of menopausal mayhem. I have four children (3 young adults and 1 ornery teenager) and a husband who I'm pretty sure is Robin Williams' long lost twin brother. 

     Before I discovered the benefits of Prozac, I began blogging to restore my sanity. Between hot flashes, weight gain, night sweats and fatigue, I was stuck riding that crazy, hormonal train wreck known as menopause, until I discovered the world of blogging. It was comforting to find an entire community of frustrated women out there just like me, going through the same bouts of secret, chocolate binge-eating in linen closets and swilling cheap wine out of a box in the fridge. 

     When I'm not busy blogging, I'm usually playing with my five, furry chinchillas or changing diapers on my toddler pug. On any given day you'll find me baking (rum cakes are my specialty) or smashing my bathroom scale with a sledge hammer (we never seem to agree on numbers). I'm a nervous person who chews on her cuticles all day (my fingertips look like they've been through a cheese grater) and I have an unnatural fear of making left turns at major intersections. You'll never see me set foot on an airplane again (unless copious amounts of vodka are involved) and I have an overwhelming phobia of cockroaches. I also hate ear wax, un-flushed toilets and dirty toenails, but that's beside the point. I love squirrels, zombies, Johnny Depp, Godiva chocolates and Guy Fieri....but not all together and not necessary in that order. Starbucks is my crack and Pinot Grigio in my backyard garden is my favorite pastime. My blog is 95% humor, wanna learn more? Check out my site at: http://Menopausalmother.blogspot.com 

Here are a couple of my recent favorite blog posts of Marcia's:

Fly On The Wall: Life In A Loony Bin

Fly On The Wall In The Nut House

I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future ♥

I Matter And So Do You

Okay, I had two awesome things happen yesterday... first I was amazed and quite thrilled that I had 200 views on my blog in one day.  I remember when I had 30-40 views and then I went up to close to a 100 per day. This amazed me and I felt so grateful that so many people would be viewing my little blog.  I love this outlet that I have to just write whatever I want to say.  Sometimes I have to curtail it a little, even if it is my diary, it is open so I can't write EVERYTHING I want to but that's okay.

I write in a way that I know what it means and only people extremely close to me would ever guess exactly what I was saying sometimes.  There is very little that I don't open up to in this blog... just a few things, which I am sure will eventually come to light.  I just need to prepare myself before I bare my whole soul like that.  One day in the near future it will happen as I am an open and honest person.

The second thing that happened was so wonderful, as I have said in the past I follow a number of blogs, like 70-80 regularly.  I will tell you this, if I read your blog and I am touched, I will comment.  Some people have touched me and I read their blog whenever they open up and write something new.  I often wonder if they care that I comment as they never say a thing back to me....  there are times I think that I should just move on to people who care if I comment but I keep staying with certain people because they touch me deep inside.

So, one particular blogger who has never said anything to me (7-8 months), messaged me today and told me that she was truly touched by each and every comment I have ever written to her... which nearly made me cry.  I hadn't realized how much she liked it, how much she really appreciated it.  She made me realize that some people are going through a very difficult time and even if they don't comment back, they are still taking in what I write, knowing I really care.

If I comment on your blog, I care about you... I think about you and I am super excited when you post a blog.  I don't comment just because... I comment because I care.  So, I realized that there are a few blogs that I gave up commenting on, thinking they didn't care.  I am re thinking that and I am going to look back at a few of those blogs and comment again.  You never know how you can touch another person.

I know this to be true because when anyone comments on my blog... I am truly touched, truly grateful and truly thankful... I know that it is an effort to follow someones blog and to comment often... especially on mine, I blog so much.  I write everyday, I rarely miss a day... I would write more but I have to stop myself at times and save a few for another day.

All of this brought about a lovely ending to a wonderful day.  I had a very spiritual evening that uplifted and inspired me.  Then I had an amazing talk with my David, it was so funny that I honestly thought I wasn't going to be able to stop laughing... I am kind of chuckling at it even now.  My 'D' has such an odd sense of humor... me too though... which makes for some long hearty laughs.

Here is part of what we talked about... he asked me 'how my Wednesday night was?'  I laughed and typed... 'ahhh, it's Tuesday'... he said, 'I am officially nuts.. lmao..' Then he said 'it comes from being on exercise where they don't use the days of the week.. they use D day... D-3, D-2 and so on..'  So than I said, 'oh, they named it after you.. since I call him my 'D'...'  It kept going from there.  We are like that, the conversation flows from one goofy thing to another and we are both laughing hysterically.

I know, you had to be there... trust me... we are a hoot together, we get each others humor... Besides, I am actually pretty funny, especially if you listen to all the silly things I have done or crazy life choices I have made... I am pretty good at making people laugh... it helps that I am a people person.  If you met me face to face you would see I am just as open as I am here, maybe even a little more so.

Also, if you comment on my blog, I will look at your blog and if I am inspired, touched or if you make me laugh... I will comment back... I will continue if you grab my attention.  I just like to know that you care... that's all any of us want.

"Everything you want, also wants you" ~ Jack Canfield