Intentionally Flawed To Make Us Unique

 

This post was for last night, just as I was about to post it, my power went out and it was out for a while, I ended up going to bed... so today, I will post this one and another one later tonight. 

This phrase 'Intentionally flawed to make us unique' (Rick Warren) resonated with me... every person I know has what they consider to be flaws but what if those so called flaws are what makes us unique...  Why are we always trying to fit in, be like other people?  I have been guilty of this is the past but not in the past ten years or so.  I want to celebrate what makes me unique, the older I get the more that I believe my that unique qualities are what makes me special.

I don't want to be cookie cutter person, I want to be me, my quirkiness and all.  When I tried to be like others, following the pack... I was just very unhappy, I didn't even know who I was... it is a very long process to get through, learning to be comfortable in my own skin.  I tell my Valentina as I told Andrea to love themselves for who they are, I needed to take my own advise.

What if the very thing I have been fighting and disliking about myself is really what will make me a better person?  All those so called flaws are just our weaknesses or fears that try to hold us back... I don't want to be held back any longer... I don't want to be held back with what if's and why's?

Going forward, my flaws will become my strengths... I will love my flaws, give them light.... hiding them will only hurt me... I am bringing them into the light one at a time.

I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future ♥

Your Own Self Rejection Is Turning People Away

I heard this phrase the other day 'Your own self rejection is turning people away'.... I was incredibly  struck by it, every time I think the least bit negative of some body part or quirky quality I have, I am turning people away.  WOW, I have seriously done this all my life.  I know that I have become more positive about what I deserve but I constantly have self doubt about my looks, not that I think I am ugly... I'm not... I am just a heavy girl.  This phrase made me realize that since I was rejecting my own body daily that I was turning people away from loving me.

So I have been thinking that I really need to do is love those things I have disliked about myself. I know when I focus on the great things about myself, they seem to stand out.  I have fabulous hair, really amazing... I have been very blessed, my hair is long, thick and soft... it only becomes more beautiful since I like it so much.

 

This reminded me that I have changed things about myself that I didn't like before such as I was SO shy.  I could barely talk to anyone unless you were family or a good friend.  When I was 25 years old, I decided enough was enough... I just started conversations with anyone.... it was hard and scary but I started telling myself that I was good at this, I was comfortable with this and one day I realized I was good at it.

I stopped disliking that shy quality I had, it had held me back for many years.  Job hunting was difficult when I had very little self confidence that I could handle speaking in the interview.  Now I ace interviews, love interviews.... I am really comfortable in them.  If I have a strong desire to get a certain job, all I need is the chance to have an interview and then the job is mine.

I never would have gained that great quality if I hadn't decided to love myself and open myself up for new experiences. I'm doing that again now... I have a date set for my operation, it is going to be January 31st, I'm finally getting the opportunity to have my leg healed after 11 years.  I am going to take the time to heal and relax.

I am grateful that I am having this chance, I am lucky that I am where I am at this moment because I have people that are going to be there for me, dropping by, checking in on me.  I am sure I won't be lonely for company.  I will get to read and catch up on my writing.

That little phrase 'Your own self rejection is turning people away' has really made me think about how I am projecting myself out in the world.

I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future ♥