Can Time Heal All Pain? Or Do We Just Bury The Pain?

I didn't even know what I wanted to write tonight, I just felt the need... it has been few days and I have been really busy. Unfortunately it hasn't been with a lot of exercise.  I still try to get in as many short walks as I can but the weather has not been conducive to me walking.  We have had a lot of rain, snow and ice, thankfully it has not been as cold as it is in other parts of the country. The contest has started and I did really well the first week, I will update every two weeks, sometime this weekend.

I have been pondering that thought about if time really heals all pain?  Or do we just bury it?  Maybe it is just me... I still haven't really slept and I am not handling that well.  It is exhausting to keep going everyday since I never sleep for more than two hours at a time and maybe 5 hours for the whole night.  It makes for a lot of time for me to think.

I saw a TV show about a guy who hadn't slept for 3 months as he was dealing with grief and he said he didn't let himself sleep because he didn't want to dream.  It struck a chord with me... I don't think I allow myself to sleep because my dreams would be something that I had to wake up from everyday and realize it was only a dream.  I am not sure what is worse, having to wake up from my dreams or not sleeping for long periods of time.
I rationally know that I have to sleep, it is a necessity of life.  Sure we are able to function on little sleep but I don't want to just function, I want to live life fully.  This weekend I am going to clean my room and make it media free, even my phone. I am going to make it a calm and peaceful room, I want to make it as relaxing as possible.  Realistically I know that dreaming although hard to deal with the reality each day I wake up, has to be easier than little broken sleep.

Maybe if I could get some quality sleep I would be able to get back to exercising as much as I did this summer.  I love that feeling of pushing myself and getting faster... beating my times and also the feeling of how strong I am to go from sitting and eating unhealthy to exercising daily and eating healthy.  I am so glad that my friend ticked me of that day in May... It made me finally decide to do something about the weight and how unhealthy I was.

Plus I remember thinking that I did not want to be in the same place I was in a year... well, I won't be and that feels good that I made a promise to myself and I am seeing it through.  It is one of the single most important things I have ever done for myself, making myself a priority really changed my life in a good way.  I just have to make myself a top priority again and stop with any excuses.  I am sure it will be difficult to get back into a routine but it will never be one again, unless I start that first day and just keep doing it like I did last summer.

I'm hoping my dreams will be more sweet than painful... I know I have to figure out a way to find that out, I need to convince myself that dreaming is okay.. even if my dreams never fully meet my reality. Eventually I might be able to dream other dreams and make them a reality.  It all starts with some sleep....


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  1. You get sick when you don't sleep! Please do what ever you can to get some sleep.
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    1. Thank you Diana, I have been doing as much as I can... I am working on getting some good quality sleep... I just have to get my brain on the same path as my body :)

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  2. So many people seem to be suffering with sleep issues. You are taking one step that a lot of us put off and that is making your bedroom a peaceful place meant for sleep with no media. It's so easy to let the beeps and pops interfere. Don't be afraid to dream Launna. Good or bad, the dreams let your subconscious work out problems from the day. I'm glad to hear you are still setting goals and striving to be healthy. You are an inspiration to a lot of people. Stay strong and take care of you.

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    1. Thank you Cindy... I need to make the change in my room... otherwise I may never get another good nights sleep again ...

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  3. I need to get more sleep as well. I struggle with this and I think its getting worse.
    xx, High Heels and Tutus
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    1. Thank you Jodi, I hope you are getting more sleep than I am... I would never wish anyone would get so little sleep... :-/

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  4. Launna I have beautiful sleep. There is no need to worry about the dreams. When you wake up you are not going to remember about it. Before going to bed read beautiful books, pray to god, keep your mind relaxed. Don't think of unnecessary things.
    I promise you you will get a good sleep and beautiful dreams.

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    1. Thank you Weekend-Windup... I will try all of this on the weekend... hopefully I will finally get a little sleep...

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    1. Thank you Alessia, have a great rest of the week :)

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    1. Thank you Style and Paper... I am hoping to get back to a full night of sleep soon... you are right... it is very important :)

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    1. Thank you Maren..hopefully I will get some much needed sleep :-/

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  8. Very thoughtful!! I think we just burry the pain and sometimes happiness overcomes it!! Well, who doesnt love a good nights sleep!! Its the best way to forget whats bad and head towards a wonderful start :)

    Lots of love and good wishes
    Charu

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    1. Thank you Charu... it has been nearly 4 months since I got a good sleep... here's hoping I get some soon :)

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  9. Hmm maybe that's why I'm such a bad sleeper as well. I am happy at the moment, I really am, but I have some skeletons in my closet that I feel like will never go away... Maybe they still haunt me.

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    1. Thank you... I hope they don't haunt you like mine does... maybe one day they won't haunt me.. I hope you can get some sleep ♡

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  10. I have some periods during the summer when I can't sleep, it makes me nervous :/ And when I have a lot of obligations I don't sleep a lot. But I think that beauty sleep is very important :D

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    1. Thank you Dolores.. beauty sleep is important... I've been trying everything for 4 months... maybe having no media in my room will help ;-) ♡

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  11. Sleep is essential Launna and you know it ... I hope you sleep well every night and that will be dreaming of all the most beautiful things, hoping that they can come true!!!!!
    Kisses my dear!

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    1. Thank you my sweet Paola...sleep is very much needed...I'm trying to get more ♡

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  12. I have read all the posts calmly, because your blog is fantastic and I need to spend time to read it calmly (I love your blog Launna).
    This post is my favorite, because I like how you conclude it " It all starts with some sleep...." It's so true!!!
    I think that time heals all wounds and I think that sleep will come back, I hope it! And I am convinced that you are a strong woman and you will win every goal.
    Have a sweet day my adorable Launna!
    Kisses
    The Indian Savage Diary

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    1. Thank you so much Maggie, I really love every comment you leave.. I know you take the time to really understand what I am saying, thank you again... xox <3

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  13. i hope you'll get better and sleep well soon dear!
    wonderful last quote!
    have a great rest of the week!

    <3
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    1. Thank you getcarriedaway, I am hoping I will be able to finally get some sleep... maybe this weekend... four months is a long time... :-/ That last quote is my own ..:) Have a great rest of the week too :)

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  14. I really had to think about the question of time healing pain, and I still can't decide on the answer because we are all very different.

    Sometimes you can have painful memories but over a period of years they become hurtful but not as painful. On the other hand, I do believe that some things can be buried, and certain triggers can bring it to the front of your mind when you least expect it. Maybe it's just a way of not dealing openly with something.

    Great question Launna.

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    1. Thank you Rum-Punch... this one thing that I am dealing with is like your last scenario, triggers go off when I least expect it ... I need to figure out a way to deal with it... then I will sleep...

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  15. I hope you get some quality sleep soon ! I remember years ago, I got broken hearted and I was dreading the momen of going to sleep...it was almost scary. Now I would like to sleep more, but only cause I am tired and I can hardly remember my dreams in the morning !. Time does help to bear the pain, I think. New things happen, the future is there for us, let's grab it !. Kisses

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    1. Thank you Vale... the reason I don't sleep is because I am broken hearted too... I need to find a way to heal the emptiness in my heart... Your words are so sweet, thank you again xox

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  16. Amiga bom dia o post esta maravilhoso amei sucesso.
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    1. Thank you Nequeren, success to you too :)

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    1. Thank you Nilu... you are always so sweet :)

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  18. Great words as allways!! I think time heals everything!! Thanks for your nice comments!

    XOXO!

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    1. Thank you Fashion Lover... you are always so kind to me, have a lovely Friday :)

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  19. I guess time heals all wounds. There comes a point in life when you have to accept and move on.
    Talking about having a peaceful room to relax and sleep, I totally agree with you. I wish I could do the same with my room but then I live in the university hostel :P

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    1. Thank you Sakshi, .... Awe that is too bad Sakshi, I really need to make my room as organized as possible and media free... that might help :)

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  20. thanks for your lovely comments on my blog
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    A chic kiss ;)

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  21. you ask if time can heal the pain or do we just bury them. writing itself is therapeutic and just jotting down your thoughts, and giving them form.. can heal some of the pain


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    1. Thank you Lesley... I hope it can heal this one... I just have to keep working at it... have a lovely weekend coming up :)

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  22. I love your blood, I have it book marked on my opera mini :-) it inspires me the wording its so original and you share with us about yourself.
    Try reading a book before bed, you will see you will fall asleep

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    1. Awe, thank you so much Glamour Zone, this comment means so much to me... you are so sweet :)

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  23. Te entiendo perfectamente no dormir angustia, pero escribir te ayudará mucho. besos

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    1. Thank you Dezazu... I know I have to figure out a way to get some sleep... I will :)

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  24. I wold agree with the statement time heals all things. Some things take longer than others, but it does happen. Things that were the end of the world once upon a time hardly matter to me anymore. It will happen, eventually, even if it seems like it never will :)
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    1. Thank you Darcy, this one is deep... to my core. . . I really hope it can be healed... I am not giving up... you are such a sweetheart :)

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  25. There are some pains that I don't think ever go completely away, but I definitely think that time softens them and makes them less important in our lives.

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    1. Thank you Daisy... I feel like this one is like that... it will never go away completely... I just want to learn to deal with that sadness better...

      I love your comments Daisy and appreciate each and every single one of them <3

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    1. Thank you Kc... I hope to have them soon :)

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  27. It's one thing to have pain from a "normal" loss, such as a death in the family...everyone experiences that type of pain in their lives, and yes, I think time will heal that.

    But if the pain was caused by abuse or evil, then I think the only way to heal that pain is to get it OUT. Talk about it. Go to therapy. Join a support group. If we don't expose the evil for what it was and what it has done to our lives, it can continue to haunt us and affect us in negative ways. I have been in therapy for 5 years, and before that OA for 5 years. It has been a blessing, my life is now so much better for having exposed the deep hurts that the abuse caused me. (Seriously, when I compare how at peace I am now compared to even a few years ago, I am like a different person.)

    Take care, Launna. I do hope you find peace and can get some much needed sleep.

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    1. Thank you Grace, it isn't abuse... it is a loss, a great loss that has left me with an empty space inside, one that won't let me sleep... I will find a way to change it though, deal with it.. eventually :)

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  28. Unfortunately I don't think time ever fully heals pain. Sometimes it dulls the effect but I don't think it ever takes it away completely. That is a difficult realisation. Please get some sleep my friend. It will help you to meet your goals and exercise and stay healthy. I do understand though. Sometimes waking up from dreams and coming back to reality scares me a lot.

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    1. Thank you Imogen... waking up from some dreams are very sad... but going without sleep is becoming more difficult...:-/

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  29. I think it depends on the pain...

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    1. Thank you Federica, I agree that it depends on the pain and how deep it touches us...

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  30. there's always hope and a happy end. i can believe this when i look at my mum and her husband. well she's 65 ... i believe that i'll find the love of my life too, someday :) thank you for your kind and warm words <3

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    dahi

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    1. Thank you Dahi... I want to believe in happy endings too... maybe :)

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  31. Nice post dear

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    1. Thank you Vanessa, I will be by to visit soon :)

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  33. that's a great quote Launna and for me, it took a long time to be able to say it and mean it. Hugs girl.....and wishes for an awesome weekend. You shine..love that you are standing tall and looking the world in the eye..

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    1. Thank you Nikki... this means a lot coming from you, I find you one of the most inspirational people I know in the blogging world :)

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    1. Thank you so much Marie... we can never stop dreaming... :)

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  35. Oh, lack of sleep is a form of torture. I hope you get a full night's sleep soon.

    Pearl

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    1. Thank you Pearl... and after 4 months of little sleep... it is feeling like torture... :-/

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  36. i agree with you,. hope you get a full night's sleep.
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    1. Thank you Sandra... sleep is a necessity :)

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  37. Hope that you will soon get some more sleep! It's so important :)
    I am also very tired, because of learning till late in the night. But
    the exams are over so I am getting some rest this weekend! Hope
    you are getting your rest to! :)

    xoxo
    It's Dash

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    1. Thank you Dascha... I am hoping to get some sleep over the weekend... I can hope :)

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    1. Thank you Elisa, I hope you have a wonderful weekend too :)

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  39. I hope you get some sound, happy sleep too, on a regular basis even!!

    I agree w/the quote from Rose Kennedy. Time makes it better because we distance ourselves, but even if we've forgiven (if that's needed), it's not too awfully hard to bring that hurt up again w/the right circumstances. At least, that's been my experience. That distance though, to ease and forget past hurts is a very good thing!!

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    1. Thank you Rosey... forgiveness has been given but you are right... even with distance, it might ease it but it is always there... :-/

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  40. Hello lovely, just came across your blog and it's awesome! :)

    I'm your newest follower and looking forward to your next post! I have a new outfit post up and I'd love to hear what you think about it:

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    Thanks! :)

    xoxoxoxox

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    1. Thank you so much Helen... what a sweet comment :)

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  41. Hey Launna ♥,
    your blog is so brilliant!! Please never give it up!!!:)
    xoxo MElle
    http://melle-loves-fashion.blogspot.de

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    1. Thank you Melle, you are such a sweetheart... :)

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  42. Take a time to sleep..
    Because that's necessity and very important for the health.
    Don't ever afraid of dream, because dream is a dream it will not come true, but a dreams is very beautiful things when we felt it...
    Sorry i can't english well, i hope you can understanding of my words
    Thank you dear launna

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    1. Thank you Muya... it's not that I am afraid of bad dreams... I don't want to dream of what I had... and wake up and know it is gone each morning... ... it is so very sad. Your English is fine Muya... I can understand exactly what you say... you are a sweetheart :)

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  43. Have a lovely end of the week my dear friend!!!!!!
    Kissssssssss

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    1. Thank you Paola... I hope you have an amazing weekend :) xox <3

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  44. Sleep deprivation messes with everything. I wonder if you might be onto something here though about avoiding dreaming. Very interesting. LOVE the quote by Rose Kennedy---so very true!

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    1. Thank you Marcia... I came to think it is very true that I won't let myself dream... I have taken a few different sleeping pills... even that cannot keep asleep for more than 2 hours at a time... not enough time to get in REM sleep :-/

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  45. Have a blessed weekend Launna! kisses and hugs!

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    1. Thank you sweet Tanya... I am coming by to visit your blog tonight xox <3

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  46. A couple nights ago, my husband woke me because I was making freaky moaning sounds in my sleep. Much to my surprise, it was a nightmare recreation of a traumatic event that happened fifty years ago. So yeah, I suppose the hurts never go entirely away, but we do let scar tissue grow over the memories, and we just have to do the best we can at coping with them. Whether you dream or not, you've got to get more sleep, kiddo. That's where your body gets its restorative powers, and you owe it to yourself to embrace it for your own health's sake.

    Happy weekend!

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    1. Thank you Susan... realistically I know that...my silly subconscious thinks it is protecting me... I honestly believe sleep would help a great deal.. I am trying to figure out a way... I cannot keep on this path :)

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  47. enjoy your week end! <3
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    1. Thank you Carmen, I hope you have a great weekend too :)

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  48. really, you've got pink nike airs? i'm jealous ;) glad you like mine too!

    x
    dahi

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    1. Thank you Dahi... I do have pink Nike Airs... I adore them... yours are cute too... :)

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  49. I know that we get rid of physical pain. Emotional pain ? I am not so sure if it ever goes away.

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    1. Thank you Munir... I wonder about that a lot sometimes... I want the emotional things worked out but maybe that will never happen fully... :-/

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  51. Stress can disrupt your sleeping patterns but with regular exercise and getting enough sleep is crucially important in warding off anxiety. Take it easy and take a rest dear your body needs it :) Big thanks for the lovely comment, appreciate it. Enjoy your weekend Launna :)

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    1. Thank you Michelle, if only my subconscious would let that happen... I need to convince that part of me that it is okay to sleep :)

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  52. Awww Launa!!! You really need to sleep! Please dont stress over things!!! Just remember, a beautiful spring only comes after a cold harsh winter! I am sure things will get better for you!! I am just a message away, you know that right? :)

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    1. Thank you Anshul, I really want to sleep... I am looking forward to the Spring... I really need some changes, thank you so much for the offer, I will certainly keep you in mind, that is very thoughtful, have a great weekend... :)

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  53. Amiga a vida é assim cheio de sonhos mais pode se torna realidade no momento
    que você tiver atitude e corre atrás do que mais o seu coração almeja e tudo vai se
    torna real, amiga um sonho sonhado sozinho é um sonho, mais um sonho sonhado
    junto se torna realidade, sonhos são gratuitos para ser transformado em realidade
    tem um preço. Bom final de semana.
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    1. Thank you Nequeren... I need to make new dreams that I can make a reality... my old dreams were never big enough, they would have just been settling...

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  54. have a wonderful rest of the weekend sweety!
    <3

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    1. Thank you getcarriedaway... have a great rest of the weekend too <3

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  55. Beautiful <3
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  56. great post! Happy weekend. :)




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    1. Thank you Glitter Daily... have a great weekend :)

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  57. I don't think time heals pain. I think we heal our pain by allowing new life to enter our hearts and grow! When something nre and wonderful is growing there it doesn't leave much room for the pain and it finally gets crowded out. If we don't allow new things to grow in our hearts the pain just takes over.

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    1. Thank you Betty, that is true... that is why I am trying to date again... I need to make new dreams and I am working that too :)

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  58. I'm glad that you have found the will to move forward and enjoy life again.

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  59. Grief sucks, that's for sure. And one of the worst parts of it is how it affects your sleep and makes your stomach churn. I think time does heal wounds, but only to a certain extent. You have to heal the rest on your own, which isn't always easy. All you can really do is will yourself to move forward and not let it get you down :)

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    1. Thank you Jaimie, grief does suck, it is so much to deal with... I am moving forward...

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