Loving Myself Is The Answer

I read this quote on Instagram and I was completely touched by it. It reminded me of how many times I had removed 'jewels' from my crown so that a man would 'love me' ... instead of finding a man that was worthy of me, I had lowered myself more times than I care to remember. Over the years I wondered what was wrong with me? Why was I still single? Especially when being married to someone I loved and who loved me was all that I wanted. 

I have never been the girl who wanted the big career, I have never been the girl that wanted fame and I have never been the girl that wanted excessive money... I have been the girl that wanted love. When it didn't happen over the years, I had began to think it must be me, something I was doing wrong... over the last year and a half, it came to me that I had been selling myself short with the men that I had dated. I had forgot my worth. 
I got less then I deserved because I had expected it, in my mind I didn't deserve much more... all of this came after I had lost 'him' as my best friend... because at one time I had thought I was SO lucky to have 'him'... I neglected to remember that 'he' was lucky to have me. When 'he' stopped being friends with me due to a misunderstanding that I was not given a chance to explain, I ended up falling into a depression... this was when my eyes and my heart started to open more. 

I begin to see how I had thought I deserved so little over my life and this was why I had so little... what you expect is what you get... I remember a night 'he' and I were talking before 'he' came home and I was so excited and I told him I deserved 'him'... he stopped me that night and said, did I ever think it was 'him' that deserved me?... I was touched by what he had said but I didn't believe it for a very long time. 
What we both neglected to remember was that love isn't about deserving one another, love is about loving ourselves first and giving the best of ourselves to the other person. I now know that I had not loved myself enough and because I didn't I was not able to truly love anyone else enough. I had lived with fear that I was going to be alone, since I couldn't love myself, how could anyone else love me either. 

Although I may not find the love of my life, I now know more than ever that I want nothing less ... especially since I am willing to give my all to the right person if they were to come along. I never thought I would write this or more I never thought I would believe this... but I would rather be alone than be with someone who didn't truly love me... I love myself enough to never settle for someone just because I think I deserve some kind of love. 

The truth is we all deserve love, the question is do we know that loving ourselves is really the answer?
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107 comments :

  1. Hi my lovely Launna. It's such quote to read:). I'm not taking any jewelries of my crown and I won't change who I am. I'd rather find a man who is proud of how much jewelries I've own and it worth for her to own :). No you don't want to take your worthy jewels out of your crown that you've own Launna. You will one day for reason find a man who love and enjoy the jewelries you've own n your crown. You're too good and worth than that. You've a good and big heart Launna. I wish you a gentlemen come to your path soon:). I'm sorry that you still having the stinky snow. You people need a lot of sunrise to melt those white mountain:). Oxoxox. Love:).

    I wish you a lovely week ahead.

    Tanya
    http://attraction2fashion.com

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  2. This is so true, Launna! Sometimes, even without realizing it, we settle for less than we should because we feel that this is all we deserve, or will ever get. But it has a lot to do with how we feel about ourselves, and it is so true that we need to love ourselves. Great post, thank you so much for sharing.

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  3. I truly believe we should never settle for less and we should all know our own self worth. It takes a lot of guts realizing that and making the decision to remove oneself from a person who isn't on the same emotional level.
    xoxo.
    Beautetude

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  4. We should love ourself as we are more precious than anything. Loved this post Launna, so so positive and it really reminded me of few things which have happened to my loved ones. We should know our worth and as I always say we women are strongest creation of god that too with a heart of gold. We should love ourself enough to know our worth and so whatever we want not what others want us to! Loved this post my dear friend :)

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  5. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on that - this was such an insightful post :)

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  6. Hi my lovely Launna. It's such quote to read:) This is so true, Launna! Sometimes, even without realizing it, we settle for less than we should because we feel that this is all we deserve, or will ever get.

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  7. What a wonderful Letter Launna! Great Work!

    Have a good Start in the new Week ,kisses <3

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  8. Totally agree Launna: this is the right answer!!!!
    Your New letter is so Lovely My sweet friend!!!
    Have a great start of the New week!!!
    xo Paola
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  9. You deserve the very best in life always, and although sometimes it's good to compromise -you should never lose your true self. Someone out there is waiting to love you just the way you are.

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  10. Que máximo amiga DEUS fala devemos amar um ao outros assim como ELE nos amor
    o amor é tudo postagem, tenha uma semana abençoada
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  11. Dear Launna, thank you for your lovely comments on my blog. I totally agree with you, we must love ourselves first. I always say that I love myself more now than 20 years ago.

    Jasmine ♥♥♥

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  12. So true! We all deserve love but we can only be loved by others if we love ourselves first.

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  13. Well said Luanna. That is universal advice. The lack of self love is the root of so many problems in life. But the journey to self love for some is too steep and long, so they never head in that direction.
    Good post.

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  14. hi Launna :) Infact loving ourselves is good thing to be able to love others ,But now people think we are self centered and selfish if we love ourself :)

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  15. Hi Launna,
    this is so true! I agree with you.
    I think It's very important to love ourselves.
    Have a beautiful week
    kisses
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

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  16. THe title of this post is so perfect! We all really do need to work on loving ourselves more!
    www.amemoyofus.com

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  17. Launna hun. Your posts are really heart touching..and I must say I love how you write from your heart. The words you've said on here are very true. Self love is all we need to find happiness and true love. Xx

    Sophsinspirations.blogspot.com

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  18. I love this post! I agree that we first need to love ourselves before anyone else can love us. This took me many years to realize. Once I figured it out I spent some time getting to know myself again and what I wanted and liked. In past relationships I had sometimes tried to change myself in little ways to make myself easier to love- things like- oh pick me up whatever sandwich when you are at the deli, I don't care. Trying to seem so easy-going, when really I have specific sandwiches I like and don't like. I didn't want to seem like a pain, because that might make "him" like me a little less. I look back and realize I was crazy. I would rather have the sandwich I want, and be myself then to be with someone who doesn't love me for me. I can look back and see that the people I wanted to love me weren't really the right people for me at all. But, I had to get to know myself better and respect my thoughts, wishes, and desires before I could see the truth.

    I love the quotes you chose to share too! Very inspiring! Keep building your crown back up. I am sure it is getting more beautiful every day. :)
    ~Jess

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  19. Like all other posts this one is also wonderful, Launna :)

    Love is something cool, we all agree. You have beautifully portrayed some unique aspects of love, a wonderful emotion of living organisms. Well, we have to love ourselves, be comfy in our own skin and give our own mind, body and soul peace. If we do not love, care and make ourselves peaceful and cool who else is going to do it ? I remember the story of a young seeker who was totally confused with so many perplexing questions about life in general. He approached a great Guru for advice regarding getting inner peace. Guru told him he do not know the answers and advised him to travel and seek it. Seeker traveled almost all over the world for years together, met many great people. None could satisfy him. Finally he returned to Guru's ashram. Guru who has become so old asked him if he got the answer. Seeker took a mirror and showed his own image. The answer to inner peace and all the questions are within us. In Hindu philosophy it is mentioned as 'Thathwamasi'.

    Very thought provoking post, Launna :)

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  20. Perfect post! so cute.
    Kisses from Spain.
    Xoxo, P.

    My Showroom

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  21. This post touched me Luanna! Everybody needs to love and be loved but not at the price to low yourself!
    I am in the same situation you were, still single even if I've never had problem to have a date... But my case is the opposite if yours: evey time, after some date, I realize that the boy in front of me doesn't worth me and I stop to see him.
    Maybe i'm too much arrogant, but I don't want to became different or low myself just to please someone else, as I don't ask them to change for me!
    Probably I care too much the physical attraction so I date everytime stupid people...
    But I have a beautiful family and a lot of friend that love and care me, so I'm still very happy! :)
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

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  22. What a lovely touched post! Yes, everyone needs love - to love and be loved! Love is a powerful driving force ...

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  23. Loving one self, understanding one's self dignity and valuing yourself is the best thing one can do to themselves my dearest Launna <3 And you're one lovely soul who's the bravest and the kindest.
    Xx,
    Nilu Yuleena
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  24. What a great quote, Launna. We get rid of our crowns in front of men who are not able to live with positive, active, people...
    I'll remember it well, Launna.
    Thanks a lot :)))
    A big hug from Italy!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  25. This is such a positive and insightful post. And I love the quote, Launna. I guess we all have trouble with this---I myself do have a hard time loving myself. I guess that our insecurities are what try to control us. People themselves notice their own flaws the most.
    But if we don't respect and love ourselves, who will? We must appreciate the beauty in us all. There are so many beautiful things about ourselves we deny because we feel like we're never good enough.
    I just love what you said about love is about deserving one another. It definitely is about both striving to be better, giving it their all for the other person.

    Although there is something I disagree with this post ;) I'm sure you will find love, Launna. You are such an amazing, beautiful person--I don't think I can stress that enough! You're a light in darkness, so positive even when things aren't the best. I feel that any man getting to know you enough would love you. You're beautiful, inside and out--a really lovely soul that I am oh-so-grateful I got the chance to "meet".

    xo

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  26. Another really touching letter. We do need to love ourselves first and foremost. You've learned that lesson and i sincerely believe that better things are waiting for you down the road. Someone out there deserves you.

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  27. I think we women are very hard on ourselves ..sometimes need to let it go

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  28. I believe that to love oneself is the basis for everything.
    flò

    http://lafloppola.blogspot.it

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  29. Passando para ti deseja um dia grandioso fica com DEUS.
    Curta e siga o meu canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34

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  30. awww I also came across this quote "Self-love should still be your top priority. Protect yourself from the people who hurt and will hurt you. That's the most selfless gift you can give yourself." and I think that every woman should learn to practice this =) thanks for the visit =)

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  31. I printed your post to read it at home. xoxo

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  32. I don't know if I told you that I don't have internet at home right now. I have to pay a lot of things and I'm without it, but I'm happy anyway. There are libraries to connect :) xoxo

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  33. Respect and love yourself enough to know you deserve the best. Its all about making yourself happy! Have a nice day Launna! <3 xo

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  34. Hi Launna,.. i felt so good after reading ur post.. u really spoke my mind in some way.. All my life i have ran behind ppl fr love, acceptance and always gave people the permission to hurt me.. Little did I understand that i am the best and important and the opp. person shud respect my feelings too .. I am now wiser and wud def not anyone rule my life after all Happiness begins with me.. :-)

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  35. Nice post!
    Have a great day!
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  36. Hi Launna,

    First, I want to say thank you for dropping by my blog to see how I'm doing, you're a really thoughtful person, and I really appreciate your concern. :) This post is a deep, insightful reflection, and I thought that your line about 'love isn't about deserving one another, love is about loving ourselves first and giving the best of ourselves to the other person' is really interesting. I really like that line and I'll be sure to remember it. :) I do agree that we have to be grateful for who we are, and I suppose loving ourselves is the first step to be loved by others. :)

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  37. Always inspirational:))
    xoxo Antonella

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  38. Hello my dearest Launna!!! Omgosh...GOSH...that quote, and your blogpost is indeed such a great start to the day!!! I agree with you, especially with that statement that people should deserve us rather than we deserve them. Often times, we forget that, and we tend to blame ourselves. I loveee how you're so so wise and you're such an inspiration, you know? Gosh!! It's high time i need to start printing your posts and make a book of it!!! (NO JOKE!!)

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  39. You're my everyday inspiration. I love how you've found and love yourself. I'm absolutely in love with myself too. I'll love to share this on my blog. Hope you don't mind

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  40. Launna, you are indeed worthy of being loved for who you are. Sometimes it's hard to see that we don't need to change ourselves to fit someone else's ideal.

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  41. You've made a big revelation in the post. I'm wondering if you felt it the moment you wrote it or you've felt this coming and could not say it "out loud". Anyway you've come to an amazing beginning! I won't call it a conclusion ;-)

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  42. No one should have an opinion on how big your dreams should be. Love the quote at the top.
    xx

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  43. Launna, you have the best view of life! You are worth everything, especially love! And loving yourself is always the beginning! Lovely post!

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  44. Love the titel of your post; "Loving yourself is the answer". I always say "When you love yourself, you can open up to love others".

    xoxo
    www.its-dash.com

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  45. Beautiful post Launna..loved reading this.
    xoxo

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  46. oh, the one, I don't really like that concept. there is not just one love. there might be many. why disqualify one love for the next. it's unfair to the people that shared part of the journey with you. and it's unfair to yourself. I believe we attract exactly what we need into our lives. the good things as much as the bad things. if love is all you want, maybe it's time to find out why that is and address it. not that there is anything wrong with it, but if it becomes such an overpowering urge and if it occupies so many of your thoughts, look into the why and how. sending lots of love your way xoxo

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  47. Amiga passando para ti deseja dia maravilhoso.
    Curta e siga o meu canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34

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  48. Very touching and it is amazing how a simple quote can explain how you feel so well at times. I really think it is important to be the love in your own life so that you will never settle for less then you deserve. You seem like a lovely person who deserves someone to appreciate all of you!

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  49. just caught up on all of your posts and this one is my favorite! so perfectly written and inspirational. Also, LOVE the new blog look!! so pretty xoxo

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  50. This is such an important message for everyone out there, but especially women. We tend to "remove the jewels from our crowns" sometimes because of a man. It's time for us to stand up for ourselves and show the world how valuable we are. I've been once in the same situation than yours and believe me, nowadays I wouldn't remove a rhinestone for anyone! ;) And you shouldn't either, Launna. You're such an incredible person and I'm sure you'll find someone who appreciates that.
    xx

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  51. You have a great view of life! Have a happy Wednesday!

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  52. I relate to so much of what you write! *hugs* Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts my friend! - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  53. I love your text!!! Mille complimenti...

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  54. It is the answer! I learned this just over a year ago that in order for people to like you and for you to get on in life, you need to love and accept who you are!

    Raindrops of Sapphire

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  55. That a great post! You have an amazing view of the life. I really believe in me too.
    xx
    cvetybaby.com

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  56. Passando para ti deseja uma Páscoa maravilhosa para você e família
    Curta e siga o meu canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34

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  57. Dear Launna,

    I wish you a happy and wonderful Easter with your family :)
    flò

    http://lafloppola.blogspot.it

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  58. I wish I had known this before I took every single jewel on my crown off for my ex... When I look back, it is scary just how much I was willing to throw everything about myself away just to stay with him. I just thought that was what love was, at the time. But that is all in the past now, he is long gone from my life!

    I love your new blog layout, and I hope you and your family have a great Easter!!

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  59. yeah I can definitely relate to that instagram quote. And I've been with guys where I've felt the need to completely change myself, my hair, my clothes... I just got out of one recently actually. Still have feelings for him but ugh it's so toxic.

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  60. Se aquelas unhas autocolantes durassem mais tempo elas seriam perfeitas! Nossa, mas que chato isso das unhas de gel... Pelo menos te devolveram o dinheiro!

    Sim, Launna. A resposta é essa! Temos que nos colocar em primeiro lugar sempre. Só dessa maneira compreendemos o jeito certo de se entregar a outra pessoa! Com amor próprio enxergamos como devemos conduzir uma relação. Conseguimos sentir se aquela paixão é realmente algo que faz bem!

    Ótima quinta!

    Beijo! ^^

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  61. You have made some very good points in your post Launna .... keep true to yourself.

    Hope you have a lovely Easter Weekend

    All the best Jan

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  62. Love and respecting yourself is the most important gift one can give themself next to intellect. I believe in this courage, and strength, 100%

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  63. Thank you so much for your lovely dropped over Launna, love hearing from you. How have you been lately? I been busy with my sister in law and her Co came visited us and they just left late afternoon today. I can hardly reach my blog:). Other than that we've got pollens poisoner so far so bad. What else we can do right? Deal with it I guess:). Wish you and Valentina are a wonderful weekend:). I'm glad your three days off is on it way to you to enjoy of the free time:). Kisses

    Tanya
    http://attraction2fashion.com

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  64. Dear Launna,
    I hope you feel better now and that the weather is improving. I wish you a super lovely Easter!!!!
    A big hug from Italy :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  65. I totally agree with what you say Launna, you always find the proper words to describe things.
    There is a quote saying "don't forget to fall in love with yourself first" and this is true and really important.
    I'm sure the love of your life will come, when you'll not expect him to come... ;-)

    See you Launna xx

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  66. Hi Launna, I love the first quote a lot. I'm quite the quotes person and I thought I've seen enough quotes but I've never ever come across the first one before. I love it! I've counselled and advised heartbroken gal pals over the years with the same concept but never did I use this analogy. Really beautiful. And no, you should not be taking any jewels of your crown and just to fit someone else. Be proud of your crown and wear it high!

    Jo
    Jo's Jumbled Jardinière

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  67. I printed your post and I underlined some sentences because I have felt like you: how many times I had removed 'jewels' from my crown so that a man would 'love me' ... instead of finding a man that was worthy of me. I have been the girl that wanted love. Although I may not find the love of my life, I now know more than ever that I want nothing less ... especially since I am willing to give my all to the right person. Have a great day!

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  68. we have to believe in ourselves first before in order to find someone who really value us.
    and appreciate ourselves too
    am very glad that you are able to do so now
    Great weekend dear

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  69. Dear Launna I agree with you, loving your self is so important. Hope you have a wonderful Easter weekend!
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  70. Yes, the quotes are great and I loved this uplifting post.

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  71. Oh very beautiful post
    i really needed read something like this
    So inspiring~ Thank you so much
    Now I´m following you in GFc #431 and Bloglovin´#221
    I hope your follow me back in both
    xx

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  72. É Páscoa! Cristo está vivo, o túmulo está vazio, Ele ressuscitou!!! A mais bela festa dos Cristãos.
    Crentes no Amor de Deus Pai que nos deu seu Filho Jesus Cristo que permanece conosco pela força do
    Espírito Santos, seguimos nossa caminhada na construção de um mundo mais justo, fraterno, humano,
    harmonioso e de doação.
    Todos somos promotores da Paz!
    Feliz, Santa e Abençoada Páscoa.
    Um doce abraço, Marie.

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  73. Another beautifully written story, my dear Launna. I am fully with you on this. Love isn't about deserving one another. It's about loving yourself first and giving out the best of yourself to the other person. I loved these lines. Well expressed. There's a lot of things I could learn from this post. Thanks for sharing such a touching and true story. I am glad that you have realized this and you have made me realize it too. It's really worth reading. Keep writing and keep sharing, Launna.

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  74. Happy Easter dear Launna, kisses!
    flò

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  75. Very enpowering to read! Yes, first comes love..to love ourselves! Thus..to know how to love others. All the best on a blessed Easter Sunday! All the best to your writing and your studies!

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  76. The best way to loving others is to love yourself first.
    I hope for your healing from any wounds of the past, Launna.

    Stay positive and keep spreading positivity.

    Happy Easter!

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  77. I'm sure loving ourselves is the first thing we should learn to do every day althought is not easy. It's fantastic to have a man when we find the real one and it's not easy either (but not impossible!)
    kss Launna
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  78. I am stopping by to wish you a Happy Easter, dear Launna. Hugs.

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  79. Happy Easter, Launna!!!
    Hugs :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  80. Happy Easter Launna! much love and kisses <3

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  81. I'm at my mother's, she is happy with me and I'm happy with her, it doesn't usually happens. xoxo

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  82. This post is so beautiful and inspirational! <3 Thank you for sharing :)

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  83. This is a beautiful post, Launna. Love the quote from instagram. You are right, women need to understand their own worth. In being a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, we forget to be ourselves. We constantly sacrifice a bit of ourselves for others.

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  85. Ah this is such a good post. I've removed a jewel or two too. My husband does love me, but he doesn't like if I get more successful than him. I made more money than him and it didn't sit well. We moved out of state and I couldn't find good work close to home, so I enrolled in law school. He hated law school and asked me over and over and over again to quit. I did after the first semester. A jewel I gave up. 7 years later, I still miss that I didn't go. It wasn't worth the turmoil at home, but he needed bigger hands. Sometimes even when they love you, they don't extend their reach. Life/people is/are just funny that way. :) He makes up for it in a million other areas, but I totally get the jewel thing.

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  86. Hi Launna! Reading this entry of yours made me remember few years back. I always tend to love so much, so so so much more than anyone could ever love someone. I was deeply inlove with my first love, I was 18 years old that time, so young and innocent. I gave him everything, I have loved him more than anyone else but he only broke my heart. He broke my heart into pieces that made me cry for a gallon of tears. Worst part is I beg for him not to leave me :( yes, I did all of that because of love. It took years before I have moved on and picked up those broken pieces again., then I found someone who have loved me again. Then it happen again.. and again.. and again.. And then one day, I woke up realizing, hey! You have done everything and you've given so much love but did you even try to love yourself? So I wipe away those tears, I smiled and from that day forward, I have love myself a hundred percent. It made me feel so much alive, pretty, gorgeous and made me stronger. :) Now I can say , I'm the best of me. Yes, I'm a single mom but I'm HAPPY and CONTENTED. Always remember that TRUE LOVE is worth waiting for..

    :) best regards,
    Rica | www.switbbydoll.com

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  87. Amazing!!! Buon fine settimana!

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  88. Have a nice week end, my dear Launna!

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  89. great post! so important to love and take time for our selves =)
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