The Past Does Not Define Me

I've been floating around lately, not committing to anything... my thinking had been if I didn't make a commitment, I wouldn't fail. However; if I don't make a commitment to something, I won't just risk staying in the same space... I will risk going backwards.

So, today I have made a step forward ... this step has been one I have 'tried' before but never committed to... This is an ongoing lesson that I have had to learn time and again. It makes me question why I have had to relearn the same concept over and over? For me to be successful I need to commit fully, otherwise I won't move forward, I'll slide back. I have worked too hard this past year and a half to give up on myself now.
This time of the year is difficult for many people, for me it is a reminder of many dates and memories that although wonderful are painful to deal with... I've decided that I'm going to immerse myself in the holidays this year. I don't plan to go overboard with the money as that isn't the spirit I'm looking for.

I'm looking at being of service to others who need me. I want to decorate, bake for others and invite people over to bring the joyful feeling in my home. I have an idea of something that Valentina and I will be doing to bring that feeling into our home and hearts more. 
I'm not giving into the sad moments this year... I'm immersing myself in the upcoming season and remembering the true reason for this time of year. For me it is not about the gifts at all, it's the feelings it can bring.

I have allowed that amazing holiday with 'him' to stop me from making new and better memories. That is changing this year, both Valentina and I deserve better than past memories, we are making new ones together. The past will not define who I am in the future, the present will.
Follow along!
Facebook //  Twitter //  Google Plus //  Bloglovin //  Instagram //  Pinterest // 

101 comments :

  1. Nice quotes! I really needed to read something like that to push me forward!

    thanks :*

    ReplyDelete
  2. Dear Launna,
    I'm happy that you'll bake and open your home to people who need you :)
    If we don't learn the lesson fully, we can't go forward in life... a lesson I've learned from life itself.
    A big hug from Italy!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  3. Love the last Part of your Post Launna! It sound so positive and great :)

    big Hugs and much love from Vienna ,kisses

    ReplyDelete
  4. Postagem ótima uma semana abençoada.
    Siga e curta o meu canal;https://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis/videos

    ReplyDelete
  5. Love this blog post and all the quotes that go with it ! I am 14 and I find it hard to commit to things, I always have my problem is I get bored easily and in turn search for something new to do! I am hoping to use an ounce of your positivity as inspiration for the future!
    Thank you
    Please help me out and check out my blog maybe follow x
    http://anotherteenontheweb.blogspot.co.uk/

    ReplyDelete
  6. Ci sono sempre tantissime cose da imparare!!!

    ReplyDelete
  7. Great post. You are so right, we do have to move if we don't want to stand still
    And yes, you and your daughter both deserve to have happiness all the time, including the Holidays. So enjoy.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Launna, I think this is a great idea to make new memories for the holiday. This will be wonderful for both you and your daughter.

    ReplyDelete
  9. My lovely Launna. Hoping you've got some rest of your days off😄. You've been continue to impressed me even more of what you've been planing for you and Valentina both brights future. I believed you will be reaching your beautiful goal in one day. Keep on going and do what you've been doing Launna. You're a smart woman who knows what is a deal. I'm saying this because not everyone can even think how and what to do with what you are at now. I am so proud to meet you and see how much you've proved yourself and you sure on the way what you wanted it to be. I'm here and going to cerebrate with you when it times. Keep on going Launna. You're the worthy😊😍. It sounds like you and Valentina are going to have a wonderful holidays:). Yaay happy to hear that Launna. Oxox. Good night and talk more soon.

    http://attraction2fashion.com

    ReplyDelete
  10. I echo Elena Del Maso's comment, and she said it so well!

    ReplyDelete
  11. You will never win the lottery if you never buy a ticket :)

    ReplyDelete
  12. The first steps are always the hardest, and glad you realized what you have to do. Living in the past is no fun, life passes you by so quickly you need to be present at every moment. Firts time on your blog, and it was very refreshing to read about positivity. Keep moving forward!

    Sincerely,
    Tania
    http://inspiremyfancy.blogspot.com/

    ReplyDelete
  13. Hello my dear Launna!! <3 I've been away for ages!! You're right...working all the time isn't the best thing, and life shouldn't be spent working, for there are better things in life! So, I am back!!! ^_^ <3 How have you been? Are your classes going great? And happy thankgiving to you, my dear! I know that in Canada, they celebrate it slighty earlier, right? :)

    And coming back to this post Launna, I am so so glad that you took the firm decision to move on with your life. Taking one small step at a time. It's hard, but not impossible. You're a strong woman, but still. we are all here to encourage you, and your decisions!!! <3

    http://anshul90.com

    ReplyDelete
  14. Living in the past isn't a good choice... I known that you are a strong woman Launna..... keep on going darling!
    A big kiss for you and Valentina too!!!
    Love, Paola.
    Expressyourself
    My Facebook

    ReplyDelete
  15. Lu querida bom dia tenha muitas felicidade neste belo dia,
    e que faca tudo que te faca feliz. Curta e siga o meu canal
    ttps://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis/video

    ReplyDelete
  16. I believe that past shapes us but doesn't define us.

    ReplyDelete
  17. I'm you're not sad and you'll create new moments and memories!

    XOXO!

    ReplyDelete
  18. That picture of the beach isn't too far off track--perhaps that's EXACTLY what you need. A change of scenery for the holidays. Or after the holidays, if you can't get away during Thanksgiving/Christmas.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Hello Launna! I'm doing well I hope that you too. It's good idea to celebrate the holidays, I think that I will do too, decorate a bit, feel the house warm and invite to others. xoxo

    ReplyDelete
  20. a change is always good for the holidays, it gives time to think and reflect i think. and i do believe that one can let the past go eventually- time does heal, I know!! and baking does some really good right now :)

    ReplyDelete
  21. Oh, I hope you keep with the dance of the holidays and enjoy it with your family and friends. Although, I don't every decorate much. Still I love the Christmas lights. Someone was asking me just this week if I'd found my ball of Christmas lights. She said it takes the whole weekend to untangle them..maybe that's what the holidays do to us..we stress over the little things, but I think you've got a head start. Of course, the cold wintry mix at my door really has pushed me back to just wanting to watch old movies. Like you said, keep going forward.is the key. All the best!

    ReplyDelete
  22. Nice quotes!
    I just discovered your blog and I totally admire how you've changed your life lately, keep on going :)

    See you xx

    ReplyDelete
  23. Yep I totally agree that not committing to something sometimes means your committed to staying where you are or going backwards even. Hope you have a great day, Launna!
    www.amemoryofus.com

    ReplyDelete
  24. Hello my sweet Launna,
    I think that It's very important to focus in the future. The past is past! Live and savor any moment of your life.
    Have an awesome day
    Kisses
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

    ReplyDelete
  25. Very lovely post as usual. Hope you have an awesome day Launna! xx

    Kenny,
    WHATKENNYHEARTS.com

    ReplyDelete
  26. Lau querida a vida e maravilhosa quando deixamos tudo de errado para traz a
    cada dia você tem que ter novo dia nova vida e sempre abrir o coração para
    viver intensamente a vida hoje sempre feliz. Curta e siga o meu canal
    ttps://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis/video

    ReplyDelete
  27. Because of you positivity, I think you just may have one of your best holidays yet the year!

    ReplyDelete
  28. this post is really inspirational for the moment I'm living right now. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day Launna
    kss
    new post: http://tupersonalshopperviajero.blogspot.com.es/2014/11/orange-denim-look.html

    ReplyDelete
  29. Good for you Launna. I love the quote with the picture on the beach it's a good reminder for me in my life right now.
    Beautetude

    ReplyDelete
  30. Launna,
    I hope you and Valentina have an amazing and happy season! Christmas has always been a joyful time for my family, and although you may not have had the happiest memories at this time of year, you are so very right for focusing on the present and future. The past can never, never define us. Keep moving forward, and let the holidays be the chance to reflect on all the wonderful things in life.
    I love how you can be so positive ♡ You are so inspirational! God bless ♡

    MJ // www.littlepandacrafts.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  31. You absolutely deserved better than past memories. I like your positive look on it all.
    www.effortlesslady.com

    ReplyDelete
  32. I think it's normal that we have to re-learn the same lessons over and over again. life doesn't come with a check list where you can simply tick off things you've achieved and done. and once we accept this, everything becomes so much easier in my experience. no more beating myself up over messing up the same things over and over again. I just wasn't vigilant enough and have to put in a bit more work again. life is like a muscle. you have to use it all the time to keep it working at its best. as to commitment, I hear you. I'm the same. I either do it or I don't. whenever I try to flirt around the edges of something, it doesn't work out at all and often even backfires. go for what you need to do. and don't be too hard on yourself xoxo

    ReplyDelete
  33. Good for you! I'm so happy you're pushing forward and focusing on being of service to those in need while also being there for yourself. I hope you and Valentina can make some new memories, not to mask the pain of the old but because you deserve happiness. Real happiness that you've created yourselves.

    ReplyDelete
  34. Bom dia querida DEUS seja contigo por onde andares.
    Curta e siga o meu canal
    ttps://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis/video

    ReplyDelete
  35. hi sweetie, these words are excellent for me
    would you like to pass from my blog?
    http://tr3ndygirl.com
    kiss

    ReplyDelete
  36. I love that. You totally have to make the best of every situation, and there's no better way than to be happily engaged in a good cause. My mom always used to say if we were feeling yucky, to do something nice for someone else. It totally works. =)

    Unleashing the Dreamworld

    ReplyDelete
  37. Another wonderful post! The quotes and your words are so inspiring. I love the saying where you are now is not where you will stay. Reminds you that any change is positive!!

    ReplyDelete
  38. Its true your past doesn't define you, we've all made mistakes & we are in no way qualified to judge each other. Everyday is a new day to start fresh! Enjoy your day Launna! :)

    ReplyDelete
  39. my friend should read this post. its everything she needed. she's been down for so long.

    thanks for all the wonderful messages, Launna! you should try cutting your hair, it was never my intention though the one who cut it made that so short.

    ReplyDelete
  40. That's a great philosophy! Make new beautiful memories is the best way to heal our old wounds.

    Bella Pummarola

    ReplyDelete
  41. excellent read, I believe there is no point in looking back. accept life as it comes :)
    http://theknotstory.com/

    ReplyDelete
  42. Such a great read and I'm looking forward to see what you and Valentina have planned. Helping others is such a nice way of moving on too and I think it's so inspirational how you talk about needing to let go of the past before being able to move on. :) Happy almost Holidays Launna!

    xoDale

    ReplyDelete
  43. Sometime it's so hard to me to looking back, but I also know that we learn a lot about our past or about other people's stories..
    Everything happen for some reason, just see the good part of that.
    Send you a BIG KISS Beaty.

    With Love
    Beth
    Rebirth - Beth Kubler Diary - Fashion Blog

    ReplyDelete
  44. what a positive post. Yeahhhh. Hugs Launna....

    ReplyDelete
  45. inspiring. i think it's nice to do those deeds for others for you'll bring happiness to the world. :)

    xoxo, rae
    http://www.raellarina.net/

    ReplyDelete
  46. Dear Launna,
    we both need a little rest, you're right :)))
    I wish you a lovely weekend!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  47. Great decision darling! I can't wait to read more about your Holiday plans decorating and baking! I normally get pretty stressed out trying to find a good inexpensive present for all the new members of my family (My husband's side of the family) so wish me luck this year! haha

    I'm sorry you still can not comment on my new blog :( I asked the guys that helped me out to set it up and they said they fixed it but I guess they didn't! I will try again! sorry about that!
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.com

    ReplyDelete
  48. The first quotes just so perfect for me!

    ♡Tallia
    Trending In Fashion

    ReplyDelete
  49. This time I cant totally agree!!! The Past does define you! The past has turned out this wonderful and strong women you are now. You have learned so much, you fought against all these barriers, you lost so much weight, you started to sleep all night long after months of beeing awake at night. The past isnt something wrong...I know that sounds stupid..but you wouldnt be where you are now.

    For sure you will make so many new and amazing memories this year. I love the idea to do something for others. Sometimes a smile of someone else can be the best thing of a day. Really reallly love you attitude when its about fighting against this time of the year. Another challenge you will manage!!!

    One sentence is really wonderful and describes everything: The past will not define who iam in the future, the present will!!! This sentence says everything and is so perfect!!

    1000 hugs from Germany :)

    xx
    Martin

    ReplyDelete
  50. Ciao, Launna, sono passata per portarti un affettuoso saluto.

    ReplyDelete
  51. Totally agree, my friend! And you still have plenty of time to make new memories with your daughter. Yes, Holidays can be a little bittersweet as we tend to compare them with previous years' holidays and we think about the ones who are not with us anymore, or at least that's what I do, but just like you I try to keep my mind in the present although a big part of my heart would like to go back in time. By the way, I'm so glad to see one of my fave quotes there!! ;) that phrase is really helping my right now :)

    http://www.stylebydeb.com

    ReplyDelete
  52. Hay que ir por el futuro, el pasado no nos define, gran post.

    ReplyDelete
  53. This is another lovely post! Have a lovely day Launna!
    Love,
    Nilu Yuleena
    BIG hair LOUD mouth

    ReplyDelete
  54. I wish to Valentina and you a great day! xoxo

    ReplyDelete
  55. I cherish my past, I accept my present, and I live for my future.. Beautiful quote!

    FLOURISHINGFIT.COM

    ReplyDelete
  56. Lu querida DEUS abençoe voce e sua familia
    Curta e siga o meu canal e TSU, bom dial de semana
    https://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis
    TSU: https://www.tsu.co/Nequeren

    ReplyDelete
  57. Hey Lauuna, I'm always so happy to hear from you. I think it's fantastic that you also want to start healthier Habits again. I would love to encourage each other. I'm looking Forward to it.

    Kisses,
    Patrizia from thesmallnoble.blogspot.de

    ReplyDelete
  58. It is beautiful that you have decided what the true meaning of the holiday is to you and that it is not dependent to things that do not matter. I am learning from you Launna. Thank you for nice comments on my posts always.

    Anne
    http://www.liebeladies.com

    ReplyDelete
  59. I must not have been signed in the last time I visited because I don't see my comment. I'm just here today to say hello, but I do think you'll have an amazing holiday season this year! Hugs to you!!

    ReplyDelete
  60. The past most definitely does not define us. We have control over the past, because we can choose whether to let it control us. The power is ours :)

    I wish you a wonderful weekend Launna!

    ReplyDelete
  61. hi sweetie, i repass
    have a nice day
    http://tr3ndygirl.com

    ReplyDelete
  62. The past is to improve yourself and the future is to prove yourself. Have a great weekend Launna! :) xo

    ReplyDelete
  63. You go, girl!

    WAIT! Come back here... I didn't want you to LEAVE!

    Your post reminds me of something Will Rogers said: "Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there." You're definitely on the right track. The trick now is to keep moving forward.

    ReplyDelete
  64. HI Launna, you do deserve it all and so does Valentina. I hope this holiday season will bring you some peace and the strength to move past the haunting memories that are trying to hold you back! You can succeed! You will succeed! (sorry for the delay in getting here -- somehow Firefox decided to put all my feedburner emails in the spam folder -- glad I checked it before emptying!) Hope it is a wonderful weekend for both of you!

    ReplyDelete
  65. Good luck for you and Valentina for your plan. Cheers Launna.

    ReplyDelete
  66. Eu também adoro brilho! *___*

    O importante é focar para sempre andar pra frente! E olha só, 2015 está chegando. Está na hora de refletir sobre as coisas boas que aconteceram e planejar coisas positivas para o próximo ano!

    Ótimo sábado, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

    ReplyDelete
  67. This is so admirable.. I love this, you really deserve this. I'm really going through a tough time at the moment and the holidays certainly do make it much harder.

    ReplyDelete
  68. This season will be very good for you. Go ahead with it, my friend!

    ReplyDelete
  69. your post are so inspiring launna..... and you will definitely get what you deserve.... always move forward and never stop
    keep in touch
    www.hairfashionbeautyblog.blogspot.in

    ReplyDelete
  70. Could you tell me if my blog post is well written? Have a nice sunday!

    ReplyDelete
  71. beautiful post!
    http://saltskinned.blogspot.com.au

    ReplyDelete
  72. Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for following me :)
    Hope you're fine!

    See you Launna xx

    ReplyDelete
  73. I always love reading your posts, they are so open and real. It is always better to leave the pasts behind, esp the ones that have such emotional memories.

    ReplyDelete
  74. Hello my dear Launna! I hope this week has been great for you so far! And I know exactly how it feels. Everything about december makes one feel so nostalagic and the fact that the year is ending makes matters worse. But keep holding on, dear one. I know that it will take time, but you would definitely be able to overcome this darkness! <3

    Thank you so much for always checking on me. You've no idea how much I truly appreciate it!! <3 Thank you so much!!

    http://anshul90.com

    ReplyDelete
  75. Dear Launna,
    at last I slept a little more during the last weekend. I can see now the world under a better point of view :)
    I hope your're having a nice day, here in Milan it's raining heavily again...


    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  76. So nice post doll!! I love the quote: "The past don't define me"

    XOXO!

    ReplyDelete
  77. love that final quote, you are so wise and strong!

    ReplyDelete
  78. Para você e família, tenha uma ótima semana,
    Curta e siga o meu canal e TSU
    https://www.youtube.com/user/NekitaReis
    TSU: https://www.tsu.co/Nequeren

    ReplyDelete
  79. Lovely quotes. It sound so positive and great :)

    New post in
    Www.miharujulie.com

    ReplyDelete
  80. no, don't give into the sad moments. you don't deserve it. be happy, make yourself happy thoughts. spend quality time with the persons you love. it will make you feel good.

    ReplyDelete

I love and appreciate all genuine comments, to save a little time, I won't be commenting on the comments on my blog (unless you don't have a blog), I will just visit your blog and comment there, if you have left a meaningful comment for me... I would much rather spend the time reading and commenting on a few extra blogs ❤