The Lessons Of Memory Lane

I wanted to quickly catch you up with my course, my mid term is in 11 days, so I probably won't be writing again until then unless I can carve out a little time and I may not be able to comment as much as I want. I really need to buckle down and study, this course is very important to me, it opens doors to my future and we all need options.

I have been thinking about what it takes to move on, it takes a huge shift on the inside that can be extremely painful at times. For me I know deep down that it is what I need to do to be able to move on. It's almost like going through the stages of grief, unfortunately it isn't like going from one step to the next, sometimes it is taking two steps back.
Most days I am on a great path and I am happy and grateful for that. I had a lot to come to terms with because promises that were made were broken. I went from a high that was almost unnatural (now that I look back) to a low that I had never seen before... I think I had a fairy tale image of things and people but since life is not a fairy tale, nor is it meant to be ... reality hit that I brushed away incidents with flimsy excuses.

The reason this all comes up is that I put a new app on my phone last month that I hesitated to add. However; I did... it's called Time hop, it collects all your data and shows you what you posted 1, 2, 3 , 4, 5 years ago each day from various social media. I know there are dates coming up that are not great reminders for me but I have enjoyed some really good memories too, so I decided it was worth the trip down memory lane.
Saying all this, I can see daily more clearly what I was unable to or refusing to see. I wasn't completely pleased as is usually the case, it is hard to see your mistakes or blindness to people or situations. It has taught me a great lesson though, people are rarely who they portray themselves to be but I also refuse to judge anyone by the people from my past.

I also believe that there are sweet, kind and honest men ... I won't accept less since I am willing to give the same and more. I didn't want to become that older woman who is bitter because she was hurt so deeply. Thankfully I am not a person that can be bitter or vindictive, that is just not how I am designed. I am the eternal optimist that believes anything is possible... some things just take a little more time.
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85 comments :

  1. I seriously want to hug you right now Launna! I know it can be so easy to give and be bitter because of what we have gone through in our past but you are choosing the high road and not settling for less! Good for you.
    Beautetude

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  2. Your happiness is so important. I am so happy to hear that you are happy and enjoying life and working toward your future.

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  3. Take your time launna.....you are definitely not one of those bitter woman and i can see that....

    keep in touch

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  4. Yeah, I bet a flashbacks into the past like that bring back memories. You just focus on being happy and on your mid terms of course, good luck!

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  5. Just don't let that app bring you down! All the best on your writing for the mid-term. I'm glad you are moving forward.

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  6. I just downloaded Timehop too! Today was the first day something that came up that brought up a whole bunch of emotions from seven years ago. In general, it's a great app and super fun but it definitely has its downsides of reminding you of ex's, bad friends, etc.
    www.amemoryofus.com

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  7. Best of luck for your mid-term!!

    Also, well done for keeping optimistic - you are a very inspiring soul and deserve all the happiness in the world xxx

    www.bohemianmuses.blogspot.com

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  8. You are very much a Pollyanna and I love that about you! Good luck with the exam!

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  9. Time Hop sounds like an interesting app, but I'm not sure it would be conducive to healing. Incidentally, I saw a report recently from a psychiatrist saying that the fact that we can look up our exes on social media also keeps us from healing. It may seem that it leads to closure, but it's more important to avoid any contact with the person. Time and distance heal!

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  10. good luck with your midterms. and I agree, don't settle for less! Good things come with patience :)

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  11. launna... just let the pain gone.. and move on like what you plan to do. i believe in you, u step by step, you were forgetting the bitter and meet the right one :* don be sad again, every women looks beauty when they are smile. do you mind if i ask you for give me a smile? :)

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  12. I'm glad that you are happy now and enjoying your life!!!!! It's so important to apprecciate where we are today!!!! Good luck for your future, my dear Launna!!!!!!
    Kisses, Paola.
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  13. There definitely are those men out there. My mom found one and is on her second marriage. (After Dad passed away.) She did a great deal of searching and took 4 years of dating before finding him, then dated him for 3 years before getting married. You have to look hard and screen well, eh?

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  14. I agree when you said to not settle for anything less! **tight hug** Have an awesome day.


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  15. Hi sweetie.
    in my opinion your emotions and your happy is the most important thing
    I'd like you enjoying your life. It's very important
    Kisses
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

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  16. You deserve only the best and i am with you on not settling for any less. Haa i must check on that app, i didn't even know it exists until today.

    Anne
    http://www.liebeladies.com

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  17. Hi dear! Hope you are doing great! Happiness is very important! You deserve the best because you are such a good person!!

    Xoxo
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  18. Postagem maravilhosa DEUS falou em venci o mundo você também
    pode com certeza vencer, um dia maravilhoso para você e família
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  19. all the best for your mid terms..i love this post :D


    Kisses
    http://planetbeauties.com

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  20. Don't dwell on the past if you want to be happy, focus on the present to create a better future. Goodluck to your midterms! :)

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  21. I don't regret meeting anyone in my life. Hugs and kisses Launna!

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  22. totally agree with these phrases sweet Launna
    have a nice day
    kiss
    http://tr3ndygirl.com

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  23. A fabulous post and exactly what I needed to read as I get back into my studies next week. x

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  24. Hi dear. I enjoy reading your stories today. If I may, I want to know any short of your dreams in future? Please do tell me? May I get your email please? Greetings from Indonesia

    Love


    Asep Haryono
    www.simplyasep.com

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  25. Good luck on your midterm! Oh my gosh I know how stressful they can be, but just remember that we're all rooting for you! *virtual hug* ♡
    Don't ever accept less! You are a honest, beautiful person and you deserve someone so very special :)
    I love how you're so open-minded and won't judge anyone from their past. We are all human, we make mistakes..but not one of us deserve to be treated differently by our past. Focus on the future, and happiness will come to you :)

    MJ // www.littlepandacrafts.blogspot.com

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  26. Good luck on your mid-terms! Anything is possible- you will find the right man!
    www.effortlesslady.com

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  27. Very well written, I really enjoy your post, you write so well and meaningful, this is really inspirational, for me especially the last part.

    http://dreamland1234.blogspot.com/

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  28. Hello my dear Launna!! <3 I hope you're all well!!! I am so glad that you're working hard...very very hard. All i can say is distract yourself..so much so that you dont remember those times! And time hop...that really is an interesting app now!! I shall, too, download it. But Launna, all im saying is, if the past is bringing you bad memories, please don't look into it...at least until you've fully moved on. <3 Love you as always!

    http://anshul90.com

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  29. Ups and downs come and go, I really wish you all the best for your course! I'm sure you'll do great :)

    Btw, thank you so much for your lovely words on my blog, they really made me smile!

    www.nevernotinspired.de

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  30. good to hear that sweety! and i know you will find a wonderful, kind and honest men!
    i wish you a wonderful rest of the week sweety!
    <3

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  31. Bom dia que a paz do Espirito Santo este convosco tenha
    um dia abençoado com muito sucesso.
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  32. Love your words, always. :-)
    — www.jchung.me

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  33. the first quote is so true!♥ good luck with your mid term Launna!:)

    www.Lorietta.cz

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  34. That first quote is so wise! I've never though of it this way, but it's so true!

    Bella Pummarola

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  35. Hi sweetheart
    Have an adorable day
    Kisses
    Maggie D.
    <a href="http://www.indiansavage.com”> Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion Blog </a>

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  36. good luck with your mid term! :)

    xoxo, rae
    http://www.raellarina.net/

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  37. Good luck in your exams dear.great post and very inspiring as always

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  38. Launna:). Please do forgive me for cannot read your writing just yet today. I am outside running an errands:), just got a quick minute to stopping by you. I wish you all best with your school and the right future man on your life. I also keeping you pray too Luanna. Take good care of yourself as you always do:). I've got to go for now.
    Oxox.
    http://www.attraction2fashion.com

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  39. Dear Launna, thanks for your lovely comment on my last post. I hope the school lessons are going well :) And wish you a delightful weekend!
    A big hug from Italy :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  40. Hi Launna! As I said in my latest post, I finally got some free time to catch up with my fave blogs now :) I think you have gone through a lot in life and you should be proud of yourself for being where you are. Plus, though your experiences you inspire us a lot. Not everyone have the strengh to move on, so I admire you for that. :)
    xx

    http://www.stylebydeb.com

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  41. Launna, good luck on your midterms! mine is coming up too so hopefully we both As our tests :) would you like to follow each other and stay in touch.
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.blogspot.com

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  42. I have never heard of that app! I am so glad you have remained such a positive person and so optimistic. To be able to stay that way through all times shows what a kind person you are!

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  43. It is indeed important to not settle for something less than what you deserve!! 'Coz you deserve the best! A very inspiring post .. Every time you inspire me with new thoughts Launna!! :) :* <3

    xoxo Chaicy - Style.. A Pastiche!

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  44. Thank you so so much Launna for your lovely comment as always, my dear! You never ever fail to cheer me up!! Thank you so so much! <3 And I hope you're having a lovely friday, so far? :)

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  45. Studying is important. Take care and study but let a bit of time for you also to enjoy your daughters and do the things that you like :D xoxo

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  46. Passando para ti deseja bom final de semana.
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  47. dear Launna
    thanks for you lovely comment
    i repass
    tr3ndygirl fashion blog
    have a nice day

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  48. Wish you good luck for your mid terms Launna!! I was really missing reading your inspiring letters but was so busy in wedding shopping but I rarely find time these days! Hope you are doing good! Lotsa love :)

    Happy weekend
    Charu
    http://www.myglossyaffair.com/
    http://www.myfashionfootprints.com/

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  49. I'm a pathological optimist, too. Does that mean I've never been hurt or disappointed? Nope. But no matter how dark a pain may be, I'm a firm believer in hanging on and hoping for the best. Doesn't mean I'll never get kicked in the gut again, but to let the pain-givers win is to give up on the best parts of life... the parts fueled by hope and joy. You go, girl! (And good luck with your exam.)

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  50. Good luck with your midterm, you will nail it. The uncertainty and reflection are important things that we have to deal with. At least you can forgive it all and move on for the sake of your mental health. But in terms of uncertainty of the future, we have to live in the now and do things that make us happy and helps us advance to where we need to be right now.

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  51. Good luck to you on your midterm. I know taking this course can bring you new opportunities.

    Looking back at the past, is difficult sometimes. Especially when we see things now through new eyes than the way we saw things then. It can help us move forward though to realize past mistakes. Wishing you all the best.

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  52. Good Luck with your mid term Launna!

    Have a great Weekend ,big Hugs :*

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  53. Your posts are really helpful and I always like to hear where you are at. Good luck with your exams and course. Really proud of you doing this!

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  54. Firstly wishing you the best of luck on your midterms.

    Secondly... heartache is a heck of a thing and looking back can always seem so difficult but at the same time it really opens our eyes to where we came from. I always tell myself I won't settle for anything less than I deserve... as hurtful as that might be to those I have loved, I love myself more to put my heart through unhappy times.

    Everything happens in its own time <3

    xx

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  55. Sometimes reliving the past can be painful, but sometimes it is necessary to experience the pain, especially if we didn't at the time the pain happened. Perhaps we may have buried it and not dealt with it. Experiencing it, feeling it (in my view) is necessary in healing, because once we experience and feel it, then we can let it go. Sending you a hug.

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  56. i really love the quotes you put down together :D

    Kisses
    http://planetbeauties.com

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  57. Passando para ti deseja um bom final de semana.
    Blog: http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br
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  58. My bellissima Launna
    Wishing you an adorable weekend
    Kisses
    Maggie D.
    <a href="http://www.indiansavage.com”> Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion Blog </a>

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  59. I've never heard of that app before--sounds cool. Be proud of yourself--you have come a long way.

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  60. wishing you a great we sweetie :)
    http://tr3ndygirl.com
    kiss

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  61. Things take longer to heal when we get old - physical scars and emotional ones. Take time to find the person you deserve. I love Time Hop, it's a cool app. It will be a nice reminder for you just to see how far you've come.

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  62. Luanna. I am the same way. I would never allowed myself or either all my children to judge other as same as a bitter - I don't care and look at other who those mean to me or dont like me for some reason on their mind, it's their problem - I'd rather be sure I'm not mean or hurt anybody as I, myself understand we cannot control other to be the way we want them to be to treat us as they should. I've always telling myself as long as I don't hurt or mean to other then I shouldn't have not to worry and move on. I'm glad - I've read your post and make me feel, I am not alone all about this. It's hard in nowadays because some people just all about themselves, unless they've got more on their side. That's all I want to say . Take best care of yourself and Valentina Luanna,

    Oxox.
    Tanya.

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  63. Hey Launna. You always have such lovely quotes to go with your texts. I agree that people are rarely who they portray themselves to be but with that knowledge, I find that I still guve people lots of leeway to be who they are and yet not being judged by me. Silly or kind? I'm not too sure. Sometimes they are the same. I hope that you do not settle for less coz you deserve more. And all the best for your mid terms!

    Jo
    Jo's Jumbled Jardinière

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  64. positive words and soo true. Reminds me that I'm grateful for today and what I have now and where I came out of. Happy studying Launna. Hugs.

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  65. I like that you are an eternal optimist, I think I am for the most part too. :) Good luck on your mid-term!

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  66. Have a great start of the week Launna and happy thanksgiving!! :)

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  67. I hope you'll have luck and pass the exam!!

    XOXO!

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  68. I hope that you are taking care of you and having great time. xoxo :)

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  69. Goodluck in your midterms, i just finished mine and man what a relief!

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  70. life is a hard path sometimes. I see you've got the tools you need to get victorious. I love your inspirational post indeed
    kss
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  71. I think that life is lived, for the most part, somewhere between those highs and lows that you speak of. You're well on your way to happiness :) and best of luck on your mid-terms!!!

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  72. Dear Launna, how are you now? Your walks and you lessons? I hope everything's well. My little boy, Raffaele, 16 months, has had fever since Saturday. We slept just little in the last nights...
    A big hug :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  73. ;)

    Memórias só são boas quando nos fazem bem. Foque no curso e trabalho. Viva o agora!

    Ótima segunda, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

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  74. Dear Launna,
    I hope you feel well, weekend is coming :) Last night Raffaele slept a little more, at last!!!
    A big hug from Italy :)

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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