Breaking Down Walls To Grow

I have been thinking about how disappointed I was, that once again, someone wasn't who they portrayed themselves to be... I told my sister I just wanted to throw the towel in and give up on dating... I feel like I take care of myself, yet men choose women the opposite of me... My sister told me that she will never give up on love no matter what and although I have been burned many times over, I have to agree with her... I am not giving up on love either. 
 
I may not hop back on the dating site for a few months but I will go there again and I will be more discerning than ever. Honestly the guy is going to have to prove he is worthy of dating me, I don't want some guy who just talks the talk... he has to walk the talk too... when I made my profile in the past I don't think I was specific enough, I am going to be choosier... I am willing to give the best of myself to someone and I expect the same in return. 
Just a very quick update, I have been walking a lot and enjoying it, I plan to walk every day I possibly can without excuses... and the best part is that I am eating consciously, I am not eating to numb myself. With that of course comes a lot of emotions I have to deal with... definitely not easy but when has change ever been easy?  Of course no one wants to feel pain, sadness or disappointment but as awful as those feelings are they are the only way to grow.
 
When I have decided to numb those feelings in the past, all I did was prolong the pain and I stayed in the same spot of sadness, which stopped me from growing. This week as I walked I thought about how I just needed to push through so that I would no longer be standing in the same place anymore... I honestly cannot go another year and look back... to see that I have not progressed again because I was unwilling to feel the emotions that have been holding me back. 
I don't want to build those walls around me anymore, yes I know that is more than likely inviting more pain into my life but I am hoping eventually it will invite the joy I want too... I read the quote above over the weekend and although I have read it many times in the past, it resonated with me as I could see that each wall I built around me in the last few years didn't really protect me, they actually made me more sad.
 
So, I decided this week that instead of building walls, I am breaking them down... and giving myself the chance to heal... With that comes one very important thing I have to do... I have to really forgive someone that I have been unable to forgive up until now... which has upset me as I am really a very forgiving person and holding onto this anger for her has just held me back.  Besides the truth is that what we give out comes back to us... I want to give forgiveness and love...
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  1. Postagem maravilhosa você estar arrasando nos seus
    pensamento sempre positivo e confiando mais em você
    tenha uma linda semana.
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  2. I think sometimes if we have expectations we are bound to be let down. So if we learn to not expect anything, we won't be disappointed.

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  3. Yea! I was away for quite a while. And yea... it is so important to get to know people, because it is so easy to get caught up in this or that and not express who you really are... or just lie. I hope you are okay! :) Dudes don't need to run our world anyhow.

    Blessings,
    Christine
    www.beyoutifulhope.blogspot.com

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  4. I really try not to expect much from people anymore because 9 times out of 10 I'm let down. I am proud of you through your journey.
    xoxo
    Beautetude

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  5. I know that the right person is waiting out there for you, and will most likely show up when you least expect it! I hope you have a good week Launna.

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  6. Good to hear you refuse to give up on love! That's the spirit :-)

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  7. Passando para ti deseja um dia maravilhoso
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  8. I wish I had meaningful advice but I have none. Know that my prayer is that you find your path through it all.
    R

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  9. Great post! I am wishing for the best for you to stay on track. Last week a friend was telling me that the best friends are the ones that are useless. You have no expectations of them. I had never really thought that before and of course, I looked at her like..huh? But she does have a point. Still I think its very hard to think this way. As always, the road is always bumpy. All the best!

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  10. I wish you all the happiness and good luck Darling!
    xoxo

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  11. Love this and I am so proud of you !! Be strong love. I know you will shine ! <3

    xx

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  12. Yes don't build those walls, joy will eventually come. Proud of you for choosing this path!
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  13. I agree that what we give is what comes back to us and that forgiveness is very important. I also know how hard forgiveness can be sometimes. Not forgiving someone hurts us worse than the other person in the end, though. Anger is a big burden to carry around. Great post!

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  15. It's important to take care of yourself. Once you're together and happy, then the right one will come along. I don't even think you'll have to bother looking for it.

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  16. The first wall we build is the pride, that is what makes not forgive!!! Great post!!!
    Kss
    http://tupersonalshopperviajero.blogspot.com.es/

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  17. It is so important to focus on yourself now, and only go for someone who is worthy of you indeed. You break those walls down girl, you can do it, I believe in you! Xox

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  18. I am glad to know that you're exercising and eating consciously, I know that was a priority for you so I hope you stay in that positive track. :) I understand that sometimes breaking down walls is harder than building them up because it takes a lot of effort. Especially if one of those walls is forgiving someone! I'm sending good enegries for you to overcome these "walls", Launna <3 Oh, and I loved the second quote you shared!

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  19. Sometimes life just ain't easy! But eventually you will find happiness and that will mean finding that someone who is perfect for you. It's the being patient while you wait for him that is the really hard part! Keep walking!

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  20. Sound good Launna ,best Wishes to you <3

    Lovely Greets!

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  21. People try to pose what they are not, just so they can get the better side of the deal. We are honest and sometimes we let our guards down thinking that the other person is fair and honest. May be it is all for the best to find out before getting too involved with some one, what kind of a person he is and the best way to find out is through casual conversation.
    I am sure you deserve the best and you are darn right he has to be worthy of you first.

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  22. Great post! Wonderful!

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  23. Dear Launna, i like your writing! Kisses

    WWW.ANGELICHIC.COM

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  24. Dear Launna, I agree with your sister. Do not give up on love. I think you have to keep looking for the man of your dreams.
    You have to remind yourself that you are a beautiful and lovely woman.
    A hug.
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

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  25. Please do not give up on love ...

    Pleased to hear you have been walking a lot and enjoying it, do your best to keep this up.

    I hope you have a good week ... thinking of you.

    All the best Jan

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  26. Good, Launna! Don't rush into the dating scene and make sure you are discerning, because you deserve someone will will love and respect you for the beautiful person you are.

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  27. Great post with lovely quotes, as always my beautiful friend! It has been so long since I've been to your page.. I miss you! <3 - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  28. It's wonderful how resilient you are. Finding love can be difficult but I think once you find the right one it will all be worth it.

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  29. Pain teaches us a lot of things..very true!! And I really liked the fact that you enjoy walking :)

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  30. You are one brave woman. I believe the right one will come along. :)

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  31. Hey beautiful! I'm so happy for you, for not giving up on love and for raising your standard when dating, very inspiring! Also, for continuing walking as much as you do! I've been trying to walk 10 000 every day but some days I just don't make it, I will keep trying though! Have an amazing week my friend!
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.com

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  32. You are an amazing woman and i have learned a lot from you. I've promised myself never to give up on love either in spite of the possibility of pain.

    Thanks for always checking up on me. You're the best xoxo

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  33. I love this post, it's so beautiful... how admirable that instead of being bitter, you are opting to heal and be happy...and still believe in love. Your sister sounds like a very positive influence, you are lucky to have her to look to for encouragement and support!

    Happy for you, friend! Keep smiling and have an awesome week!!


    Amber
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  34. No one should every give up on love! It's not easy to find, but once you do you will remember why the long journey was worth it :)

    Bella Pummarola

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  35. Hi Launna... they say never give up on love.. I am not into the dating thing but I am open to finding a life partner.. from what I know men never portray what they are honestly.. They are sweet first and so quick to change..wonder where all the good men are.. its good that u r also concentrating on ur walks and handling ur life well.. hope u have a fruitful week ahead xo

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  36. Dear Launna, You are the strongest willed person I've seen and someone who is so filled with positive energy! Through these ups and downs I know you're a fighter and a strong one at that <3
    Love,
    Nilu Yuleena
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  37. I think that with dating it is incredibly important to be picky or choosy! Don't settle!
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  38. Trust people, but with attention.

    Federica
    http://www.thecutielicious.com
    The Cutielicious

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  39. hi launna... keep spirit and never give up.
    100 % agree with your sister. hold it, believe in love. such as you believe not all people in the world is bad. some day you will find a good men who will be you partner spend this life.

    that's right you must selective, its's okay to be chooser, give the best for your self. because only you who know what you want and only you the only one who can change or help your self. its your life launna, the other just give suggestion or opinion the decree on your hand.

    yups just treat the other such as do you want they treat you. when we kind to other i believe they will do the same.

    dream higher, put it in the sky. if you didn't get the the sky minimally the half. :P positive thinking.

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  40. Good on you, Launna for not keeping the walls up and not giving up on love. Yes, it's tough and there's a high possibility that you'll get burnt again but if you close the wall around you then you'll have zero chance of finding happiness.
    Just to share with you...my husband and I met through a stupid Facebook game. Wasn't a place where I thought I would meet my soul mate and best friend but I did. It wasn't smooth sailing though, I met a lot of idiots and shed lots of tears before I met my husband and like you, I almost gave up but here I am now, happy again. Just want to let you know that it's possible, it's not easy but it's possible so don't give up. xx

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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  41. Well Launna, you are so strong... never give up!!!!!!!!!!!
    I love to read your posts, we have all learned a lot from you... always!!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  42. Hi Luanna. Forgiveness isn't easy, but it's vital to our happiness. I'm praying for you.

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  43. Forgiving is never easy..well for me ..the tricky part is I can easily forgive others but not myself ..

    Anyways, great post ! Thanks for Sharing
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  44. Well, dear Luanna, how could someone give up on love? It's the essence of life, even we often focus only on the love of lovers, there is even the love of family, friends, ecc.
    So don't focus yourself on people that don't worth you and look at all the love you've just got!
    You are doing great with your life! :D
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

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  45. Passando pra ti deseja um belo dia sucesso linda postagem
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  46. Dear Launna,
    love can burn, you know it well. Therefore you wish to give up on it, it's just a normal reaction. But love moves the world and is the most important part of us... So I agree with your sister.
    I send you a huge hug from this still burning Italy :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  47. Amazing post! Love your blog so much!
    Have a great week-end!
    Natallia Jolliet
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  48. Great post as always sweetie!!

    Diana Bryant
    www.ManhattanImageandStyle.com

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  49. Hello, thank you so much for your comments on my poems, I was somehow not getting your post feeds on my blog :(. Thank god i visited your blog and here I see a strong person ready to tackle any hurdle, come what may.

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  50. I totally agree with you about tearing down the walls, this post resonates with me in so many ways!
    I also take any issues I face out for a walk; I walk ( and sit) for ideas, reflection, meditation and solutions!
    Keep the positivity Launna!
    Xo.

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  51. My dear Launna. My kisses and hugs right to you :) may be not that much of help but sending you a hug and kiss is all I can do. Wish you a peace of mind weekend :). Enjoy your walk:).

    Tanya
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  52. I love the idea of breaking down the walls, I'm trying to do so in every day life!

    Great post as always, Launna. Thanks for sharing your feelings and thoughts with us.

    ♥ Happy Weekend Everyone! ♥

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  53. Amazing post!
    Have a nice week-end!
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  54. Timeis the key to healing,great writting
    Great to read you are walking daily,so awesome

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  55. Que maximo bom final de semana arrasou
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  56. For me it's very important this, what you write here. I try to remember every word.

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  57. Happy Sunday, Launna!
    It's midnight in Italy, little Raffaele is sleeping, I hope he will go on some hours:)))
    I wish you a super lovely day ahead, weather seems to change, we will see...
    A big hug!

    xoxo
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  58. Hi Launna, As you know, I always take spontaneous blogging break and I spent the last half an hour reading all your posts that I've missed. Sorry to hear about what you have gone through. Yes, sometimes it is very difficult to find things to say. Often people offer words of encouragement that is supposed to help but only make me feel worse so I can imagine the same for you. Sometimes I don't know what to say too. And I hope I don't say anything that makes you feel worse.

    I'm glad that you are keeping up with walking and even enjoying it. Baby steps always. And perhaps editing your dating profile and stating down things straight would be good too. As for the eating. baby steps to eating healthily too. Just make small modifications to diet and slowly adjust. That's what I'm trying to do now even as I indulge a lot. I hope you have a great weekend, whatever that's left of it.

    Jo
    Jo's Jumbled Jardinière

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  59. It's great to hear that you have gotten hooked to Walking! I think it's one of the best exercises considering that you don't need an equipment. Also, it's always best to give all the dets on your dating profile beforehand. Hope you had a great weekend Launna :)

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  60. Sorry I have not visited recently, Launna. But so happy to be reading your posts again :)
    Don't give up on love. But you are right, choose with care. You are worth all the effort that a man has to make :)

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  61. I'm glad to hear you're back on track again, but not surprised. You're a lot tougher than you think you are, and worthy of all the joy your little heart can hold.

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  62. I hope you have a week filled with joy.

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  63. Dear Launna, you don't need forgiveness, just love. You deserve it so much.

    With love, Jasmine

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  64. Amazing words.

    Federica
    http://www.thecutielicious.com
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  65. your blog is very inspirational to me and I can't wait to read more!
    New follower :)
    -B-

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  66. gorgeous quotes my darling
    I wish you an happy day
    a big kiss
    <<< fashion blogger Pamela Soluri >>>

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  67. Amiga Lu passando para te desejar uma semana abençoada.
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  68. Sounds like you came to some important realizations! I am glad you are not only walking, but eating healthier. Good for you! Sometimes we slip up in the eating department (we are human after all) and I think it is important to not let those slips become the norm (especially if that means we are sabotaging ourselves).

    Hope you have a lovely week!
    ~Jess

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