The Lies We Tell Ourselves‏ Are The Worst Ones


I've been thinking about how wrong I was about so many things and so many people... I think it's why I don't want to trust myself anymore; because although people have lied to me over the years... the worst lies are the ones I've told myself.

I feel I was lied to... I feel betrayed... I don't know how I could feel less.  I asked the hard questions and I was told lies... lies to make me feel better at the time.  It would have been more merciful to be honest from the beginning.
Instead I paddled about holding on to the lies that were told to me... Everything was as it was and I believed the lies over the sad truth that was never told to me.  Now I'm paying the bigger price. Why did I believe the lies?  The words that were meant to make things better? ... not for me... they made things worse... just as lies always do.

I'm not looking for karma for anyone... I unfortunately believe that happens anyway.  I don't want to see the outcome of all the lies, it would actually make me sad to see anyone feel even a small part of my pain. I wish for peace ... I wish for honesty, even if it brings pain... because although honesty can bring sadness and pain... lies destroy us in a much bigger way.
I wanted so badly to lay everything out, I have the written words to prove I was told lies... I wanted to deflect the pain away but I knew that my returning the favor wouldn't bring me peace.  It wouldn't bring peace to anyone... there would just be more pain to deal with. I don't even need to hear that the words were lies... I know they were... I believed them all...  besides I have already forgiven the lies.  Always say the truth, even if you're afraid...Especially say the truth to yourself because the worst lies are the ones you tell yourself...
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90 comments :

  1. I personally found I had to heal before I could find someone else...not an easy thing to do, either. I'm not sure we ever completely heal--as in, we can't go back to how we were before they first time we were seriously hurt by someone. But we somehow find a way to move forward and become stronger for the things that have happened to us.

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  2. It's always easier to lie to yourself than to face the truth and I'm glad you recognized the lies whether they were to yourself or from someone else. You're a good person, Launna. Great things will come to you, I just know it. Since I've been reading your blogs, I've already seen you grow so much. Keep up the good work!

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  3. Oh, so true. Its good to read this post. You give me a lot to think about.

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    1. Thank you so much for the touching note. I find your writing very inspiring. Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Keep Writing too! =)

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    2. Thanks so much for your encouragement. Thanks for reading too. Your quote about the truth really does ring home.

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  4. I think when you are a kind, caring person you expect the best from others. When people aren't honest it comes as a surprise to you. Maybe you lie to yourself because you really want others to be the kind, caring people you think they can be.

    Once you figure out the lies and accept them as lies you can move forward. Those people don't deserve any more of your time.

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  5. When you get attached to someone,you either gets memories for a lifetime or a lesson for a lifetime. Sometimes it is both. I don't think we can ever go back to how we used to be before this person entered our lives but when he/she goes, a part of us is also gone with us.

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  6. We all humans are so hungry for love and happiness that our selfishness makes us lie. At that point we don't understand that its just temporary happiness. And sometimes we don't want to hurt our people therefore we lie. Oh.. see how we make ourselves fool and get trapped knowingly. You are right Launna, the worst lies are one which we tell to ourselves!
    Well, the minimal thing we can do is to be true!
    Though truth is bitter and painful at times, but it brings true happiness and love which lasts forever.

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  7. True!

    Happy Friday Launna <3 ,thank you for the lovely Comments all the Time ,big Hugs :*

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  8. It's always a pleasure to read your posts Launna!
    I love your words, so, so true!!!!
    Happy friday doll!

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  9. Almost everybody lie once. Now you have to start to forgive yourself. A lot of hugs. You are so sweet :)

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  10. Bonita entrada
    Un besito
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  11. I hate when people are lying. You always can better
    say the truth! Love your writing Launna! :-)

    xoxo
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  12. Amiga post maravilhoso tenha um dia maravilhoso e um
    final de semana encantador
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  13. Those of us who are kind souls, like you most certainly are, do tend to always want to see the best in the others. I do not think that is a bad thing at all though. I would much rather have that view of the world than have a view of the world where we are assuming the worst of everyone. So I think it is a good thing that you anticipate and expect the best from people, as opposed to the worst. And you are right about the lies we tell to ourselves, we tend to lie to ourselves much more than we lie to other people. But that is part of the growing process. We eventually learn to be completely truthful and honest with ourselves as we wish to be with others, and that's when we find ourselves for the very first time :-)

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  14. I was told many lies by a certain person in my life. And I knew they were lies, even at the time. And I never actually believed them, though I pretended to.

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  15. Truth is always hard but necessary in the long run and it always saves you from further lies. I always love reading you Launna...such a necessary change and it has now become a part of my life. Thanks a lot for being the positivity in my life :)
    Love you always !!
    Charu :)
    http://myglossyaffair.com

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  16. You are a good person and one of these days things are going to get easier and brighter! Because you will make that happen!

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  17. Telling a lie to make someone smile.. this is so different but yet it is so true! Have a lovely weekend my dear Launna!
    Love Nilu Yuleena,
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  18. very lovely and true post Launna Have an amazing weekend.



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    xoxo;
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  19. I have been lied to many times before but about 11 years ago I was lied to everyday for 3 years and deep down I knew I was being told lies but I was in such denial. It hurts but it's always better to know the truth.
    Have a wonderful relaxing weekend.
    Beautetude

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  20. That was so lovely to read Launna. So true x

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  21. true words Launna
    thanks for your comment darling
    have a nice day

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  22. You are the better person for not seeking revenge and for moving on because you have a kind and caring heart! <3

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  23. I hate Lies.... Launna you are a very good person , forgive yourselfe.
    have a nice day
    unconventionalsecrets.blogspot.it

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  24. I believed lies that people told me for a long time. And those lies almost killed me. When my life started to turn around I found that living in truth feels so much better. Hugs Launna, you're journey and fight to be free inspires. Hugs, girl. Tons of them.

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  25. Amiga tenha um dia glorioso DEUS te abençoe e te guarde
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  26. Launna, I have found that we sometimes have trouble forgiving ourselves. We all make mistakes and the best thing we can do is to learn from them and move forward. Great post.

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  27. i really do think that the lies we tell ourselves are the worst. i've been doing it to myself truth be told. we often can't accept reality, and perhaps the struggles we face, so we try to make ourselves feel better. but i think this is not bad. it's just a way to make ourselves stronger. and usually, we are who we are for what has happened to us, for what we had faced, and for what we had experienced. stay strong. and just surrender everything to God. We are always here for you dear. God bless! :D

    xoxo, rae
    http://www.raellarina.net/

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  28. Truth is always a better way to go about it but unfortunately not all see it that way.
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  29. It always hurts to be told a lie, but even more when we tell ourselves the lie, I agree. I've been told lies that i desperately wanted to believe, and on the inside I was hurting inside, feeling betrayed. Although Job 4:8 says, “As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it," I don't want to wish bad upon anyone, now that I think about it. No matter how hurtful the lies were, I want to be able to see past all of it.
    I believe in honesty, no matter how much it hurts. And this next sentence is all honesty that won't hurt: This was a very thought-provoking post that made me really think about trusting myself, and how hurtful lies are. Thank you, Launna! :)

    MJ
    www.littlepandacrafts.blogspot.com

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  30. Fijn om te lezen
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  31. Totally agree with you, Launna. Truth might be hurtful sometimes but that pain cannot compare to the pain you feel later when the truth comes out. And the lies we tell ourselves only make us blind so it's important to see everything in the most realistic way, always. :)

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  32. Such a great read! Stay strong my friend!!

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  33. That's tough. I haven't been in your situation so I can't dictate how to feel and be. I've been lied to before and it sucks though they've never cut me to the bone before. I guess growing up lies were just a part of me. I spun them daily, not to hurt anybody, and I don't think I did, more so just annoyed anyone who saw right through me, which I hope they didn't! They were more about improving who I was as a person because I was told and made to feel like the person I was was just not worthy of such things. Making me look "good" around others, like I was someone they'd want to be friends with and stuff. Petty nonsense when I look back and see how much energy I spent hiding away the real me for this persona of who I thought others wanted me to be. So much hard work, regrets and time wasted for what? They all abandoned me when the real me stepped out so. I guess what I'm trying to get at is that you're right, the lies we tell ourselves can be utterly detrimental. But the thing to do is to try to move on, forgive but never forget because in not forgiving they still hold power over you. And like I said, I don't know the extent of the situation(s) you speak of but from your words they are quite severe and hurtful so I know it's not an easy fix of forgive and forget. But I do think that is the way to freeing yourself. Someday anyway. We are all always here if you need to vent. Because through expressing that pain, I think that too helps.

    It's been a few days since this post so I do hope you're feeling slightly better and hopefully found some rest at night. One day our paths will cross! And as soon as I can hit the States again we will definitely have to met up. Not that I am a stalker or anything (I promise hahaha) but your twitter profile said you were from Canada and I googled it and where my family resides and it's not too far, about a 10 hour drive so it would definitely be doable!

    One day!

    xxx

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  34. My opinion is that you have to heal before you find someone new. And of course it's always easier to lie to yourself, than to face the truth...

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  35. If we could close our eyes and try to see ourselves as the little girl we were last time ago... We have to take care to ourselves and be honest with us is a good way to do so
    =)
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  36. Totally agree with your post! Lying to yourself is something you should never do!
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  37. Wow, this was a very honest post. From the comments you can tell we have all either lied to ourselves or others have lied to us and hurt us. And your words on how to deal with this kind of thing is packed with truth. Good post.

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  38. Muito obrigada, Launna!

    Olhe sim, porque aquele protetor labial é muito bom. O cheiro é fantástico!

    Não adianta mentir para si mesmo. Às vezes a verdade não é tão agradável, mas ainda sim continua sendo o melhor para se viver sem medos!

    Ótimo domingo!

    Beijo! ^^

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  39. Amiga tenha uma semana maravilhosa
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  40. Have a wonderful start of the week Launna.
    Beautetude

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  41. So true my sweet Launna.
    I agree with you, this post is very strong and amazing!!!
    Have an awesome week
    Kisses
    Maggie D

    The Indian Savage diary

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  42. Hi Launna! I am really sorry about the late replied. I had my weekend breaks with my kids! Just smile at those lire and try not to think about it, I know it isn't easy not to think why lie, can't blame you for once caught a lie and then gets confuse with so many of ridiculous questions on your head. I have read that you've forgiven, you're the kindness launna, Stay strong:). Good night lovely Launna. Good night from me:)...:):). oxoxox.

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  43. Have a great start of the new week my dear!!!!
    Kiss

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  44. heve a nice monday dear Launna
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  45. i agree with you sweety!
    wish you a wonderful rest of the week!

    <3
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  46. nice post ;)
    would you like to follow each other? :)

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  47. Thankyou Launna for the lovely words and I agree with you. But sometimes we have to lie to ourself for the sake of that smile or just to avoid all the negativity around us.
    Well I think I really needed these inspiring lines at present moment. You know Launna, I would love to meet you someday..you are the most wonderful person I have ever come across.

    Lotsa love
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  48. Lies, and words in general can do great harm. I wish people would be more aware of that. I think we all go through the process of learning how much lies and words can destroy. It is done to us and we might have done it to others. I wish we didn't have to learn it the hard way and there certainly are lies that should have never been told, there is no excuse for any lie. Still - we all experience them and have to go from there. It hurts, it downright sucks. And I cannot tell you anything that helps to accept it and move from there. But that's what we need to do. I'm still working on it, too. And you are right - the most important thing of all is that we stay true to ourselves, only then we can heal.

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  49. Interesting post! Would you like to follow eachother? Just let me know on my blog!
    Kisses

    www.mystyleisfreedom.blogspot.com

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  50. Amiga tenha uma semana maravilhosa
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  51. Ciao my dear Launna, have a lovely day!!!

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  52. I can;t believe how pathetic some people can be!! Lies, deception, deceive...hate all these! I've gone through this same cycle, Launna! And initially, it did hurt very bad!! But then I asked myself, "why should i make myself suffer because of a liar, a cheater?" and that was when i completely moved one!! First thing to do is to accept it!! Really, we can't do anything about it now, can we? Next, forgive them, no matter how mean they are. (Because this is reverse psychology!! By forgiving them, you're forgiving yourself!).. And keep smiling!!! Launna, it's an understatement if i tell you that you're an amazing woman!! And i Love you!! <3

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  53. Amiga bom dia DEUS seja contigo neste dia maravilhoso
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  54. I always love your photography poem
    I posted a new OUTFIT, I'd love to know your opinion
    would you like to pass from my blog?
    kiss

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  55. have a nice day my dear Launna
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  56. Oh my goodness, I hear you! Those lies to yourself are the most damaging and difficult to overcome. Sometimes it's hard to discern the difference between them and actual limitations though. (When facing health complications.) I think that's where keeping a journal has been especially beneficial so I'm able to review my inner thoughts often and avoid repeating some of those early mistakes. That's how it goes, eh?

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  57. Very touching post. I agree it is easy to lie to yourself but I always try to remember the truth will set you free. Even tho it isn't the easiest way a lot of the time.
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  58. Nice post. I hate liars. I like to be told the truth and I will tell you the same. If we are all honest, we can sort things out. When a lie gets in the way, it keeps on growing until no one knows the truth from a lie.

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  59. Absolutely. Once lies poison the well of trust, it can take a very long time to trust again.

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  60. I am sorry you had so many lies send your ways.
    People sometimes are so selfish... and lies are the number 1 aid for someone's selfishness.

    Follow the Royal Peach

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  61. Please do forgive me again Launna:). I could have been here of my last night but my kids were keeping me busy, they're the first my priority so i am sure you do understand:). I just so running out of timing every of my day! Can't get anything done. Blogging is the last thing of my daily, I almost not want to blog anymore. I feels, not fair for others who left me a comment and I can't reply them as quick as I wanted. you know, I'm not that type of person who ignores people who also good to me. I really do trying my best as a working and a busy mom, also I like to keep my house clean to welcome my husband home from his hectic day from work, so when he returns home that help him feels relax. i know no body perfect. But I am try my really best of my everyday. Thank you so much Launna for such a beautiful comment. Have a blessed evening Launna. :) oxoxox.

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  62. Lies do cause a great deal of pain. I'm sorry you have been hurt in this way. Wishing you peace and the ability to move beyond the pain, Launna. Hugs to you.

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  63. great quotes and thank you so much for your lovely thoughts on my past post!!
    Deeply appreciate it ;)
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    @MyLyfeMyStory
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  64. Even worse is when you start believing what you've told yourself. This is very deep!

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  65. Hi Launna! Thank you for your new thoughts, sometimes I couldn't tell truth..I was afraid to hurt another person... but sometimes we desperately need truth rather then painful smile...

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  66. Hi my sweet Launna,
    thank you so much for your adorable words <3 <3 <3
    Hope you have an awesome day
    love
    Maggie D

    The Indian Savage diary

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  67. Hello doll, Tnx for your lovely comment!!!
    Kisses

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  68. I think we tell ourselves a lot of lies to live better. But do we live really better in this way?
    I oft wear black, I love this color!
    Have a nice Wednesday!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  69. Wow Launna! I'm wondering which is the suprice. I hope that they are good news in your life. A lot of kisses and hugs

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  70. Amiga bom dia tenha esse dia maravilhoso
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  71. Whoo, you aren't kidding, I've told myself some doozies in my life and they are much worse than any others have told us...I guess because we have to take ownership of them (and kick ourselves in the behind for not having open eyes).

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  72. So true!!!
    very inspiring post, hun! :)
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

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  73. Hello Launna. Thank you and thank you very much for such a lovely and kind messaged that you left for me last night. I've got to try a little bit more harder on my blogging! I really do appreciated who those keep coming back and understand such as a busy twins mother like me. and you been one of those wonderful group in my heart. I can't wait for twins to go to a real school, but then, I kind of love and enjoy spending my mommy time with them as much as i could! I will letting you know if i need one badly:).. Thank you for your caring Launna. A planet is going to be so beautifully if they have a wonderful friendship like us. I'm just so willing to love and to care as well but some strange of people they don't appreciate and not seeing how kind the true and real love is. Stay beautiful and wonderful my lovely girl! (Hope everything is going fine with you in the really moment). We should have talk more by via email.

    A good night kiss and hug from me to you!

    http://www.attraction2fashion.com

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  74. Hi Launna,
    It's the lies I've told myself for which I am now asking forgiveness. We all need, it. I know.
    Good luck with your own journey to forgiveness.
    xx
    LuLu
    Breakfast After 10

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  75. have a wonderful day Launna, always love your comments on my blog
    unconventionalsecrets.blogspot.it

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  76. Love love all this amazing quotes.
    Wonderful way to start my busy day :)
    Here is the true. I love your blog.
    Always do interesting.
    Keep the work darling
    xoxo
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