Learning To Rise Again

I want to thank everyone for their kind comments and messages from last week, I had been feeling very vulnerable and overwhelmed... there are many changes I am dealing with as we all are and I know that none of us have it simple... The point that I wanted to get across last week was that there are times we all feel down and we need to be able to express this, we shouldn't live there as that isn't healthy for us either but I believe we all need to have our feelings validated from time to time. 

Our biggest successes in life come from rising after a fall.. no one likes to fail, it can paralyze us from trying again but if we allow it to stop us we will never grow... It's what I have been going through for the last couple of years. I have been frozen with fear to really give love a chance again and not because love didn't work out for him and me, I knew that for a very long time and had come to terms with it before.
What had me stuck for so long was how we had shared everything, all of our hopes, our dreams and how we were the best of friends. I believed I could count on him when I needed to vent or talk about a trial I was going through... and he could most certainly count on me, even today. When I lost that relationship I lost my ability to trust anyone. I put on the face, said the right things but deep down inside I was lost for a very long time. 

I had fallen further than I had ever fallen in my life... I kept thinking there was no way I could get back to trusting anyone and definitely not like that again... if he and I could share so many things on such a deep and personal level and still have our friendship fall completely apart... how could I honestly learn to trust anyone even a little? It was then that I thought about how trusting was really learning and that although I fell, I needed to continue to rise. 
I guarantee it will be difficult for me to fully trust anyone like I did him... but what I am willing to do today, is start to trust just a little and build from there. Eventually I will trust someone as much or maybe even more than I did him... When I think of other extremely difficult trials I have overcome, none of them were easy but I found a way to rise each time. For I never want to stop learning as that is how I will grow and become stronger.

Maybe that is what he was in my life for, to teach me that even if everything we believe in fails and we fall, it matters that we always rise and learn to try again.
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  1. I totally agree, as usual... Like we have two hands and the expression "in the other hand"... We always have to pass through those opposing concepts (failure/success, mistake/learning).

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  2. just found urr blog and it's so inspiring! love it<3
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  3. It's a brave of you dear Launna. What really important is we never let our failures stop us from rising again. Hugs and kisses from me to you!

    Love,
    Cassie

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  4. Very well said thoughts and perspective. Moving forward, its great to know that you are willing to rebuild your trust in others. Those are great quotes and I hope the messages help guide you on your new journey. Best wishes!

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  5. Perfectly said! We get stronger after a fall. No matter how hard it is to fall sometimes.

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  6. Well said... Its great that you have this attitude and can move forward.

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  7. i had a similar experience four years ago. after ten years with who I thought might [!] be mister right, he walked away [put two continents between us]. we are still friends. but the trust was gone. not just towards him. what I focused on is trusting myself. and by now, despite all the ongoing shit [excuse my language] I do trust myself. which makes all the other trusting that much easier. I invested heavily in myself and it's slowly [!] starting to pay off. so maybe this is an angle you can work on too. instead of wondering if you can trust again, learn to trust yourself. xoxoxo

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  8. True Words and brave Words! To go forward is sometimes the hardest Way ,but worth to go <3

    lovely Greets and kisses :)

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  9. Little steps. It's only normal that you can't immediately go back to having such blind trust in someone, not after you have been hurt like that.

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  10. I sure do hope to see you rise again gracefully Launna. I'm sure you're there somewhere already and kudos to you on that. I know it's not easy. You are one brave determined admirable woman.

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  11. Great post Launna and these are brave words!!! You can move forward... you are so strong!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  12. That last sentence is so powerful. It is true, that some of our greatest accomplishments come after we are knocked down.
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  13. Fantastic post dear!

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  14. really one should never ever give up and keep moving ahead always

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  15. Once trust is violated, it is really difficult to build it up again. Who wouldn't be wary the next time around? I think you've found the key, though. It takes patience and time, but you can trust again.

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  16. Amiga post encantador arrasou, uma semana de benção.
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  17. Dear Launna, I hope things get better. I think that we can learn from everything, even if it's bad. You are strong and will always rise again. You are not alone.

    Jasmine ♥♥♥

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  18. Now that is the Spirit mami....One foot after the other, One step at a time and you will get there eh...don't force it...just take your time... XO

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  19. Well said! You can't became strong if you don't front obstacles!
    And i think it's great to have the consciouness that even in the worst situation we still have the power to rise again!
    You're doing a very important journey dear Luanna, thanx for share! :)
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

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  20. I love all of these quotes! Thanks for sharing your insight!

    xx
    Lauren Elizabeth
    Petite in Pearls

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  21. you always are so inspiring...

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  22. Hi Launna,
    well said, I totally agree with you (as always)
    Your words are very beautiful sweetie
    kisses
    MaggieD
    Fashion Blog - Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary

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  23. Sorry I haven't been around lately. These are lovely thoughts on growing stronger. My best medicine for bad times are my siblings and cousins who can always make me laugh. <3

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    Enjoy <3
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  24. You are on the right track. I believe we just have to let go and try to enjoy the moments we have and just put the future in the hands of God. We really can't just tell what the future will bring...so we have to take chances...isn't it?

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  25. Nice Inspirations

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  26. You've got a very wonderful and supportive community here girl.. so happy to see you well loved by your blogger community!! <3 - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  27. It is important and it does matter "that we always rise and learn to try again."

    Have faith and go forward ...

    All the best Jan

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  28. Launna, your second image really resonates with me! I think sometimes we forget that, so I really appreciate your sharing it. You are well loved by many, as I can see, and please include me in that list. :)

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  29. Learning from our mistakes and getting up after falling will make us stronger and more experienced. Thanks for reminding. Your blog is full of inspiration. Thanks.

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  30. Your post is very motivating Launna :) Well written.
    Much Love
    xx

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  31. I love this post Launna - we all have trials and difficulties, but it's how we handle them that counts. We just have to get up one more time than we fall - that is success!

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  32. Rise and shine sweetheart. You are strong :)

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  33. It's so hard to trusting anyone when things like that happen. Unfortunately the people we love the most also make us most vulnerable. Big hugs my dear. Mrsinlondon.co.uk

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  34. I totally agree, as usual... Like we have two hands and the expression "in the other hand"... We always have to pass through those opposing concepts (failure/success, mistake/learning).

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  35. Great post!

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  36. You will trust people again but it is not easy and it is needed time. Being down sometimes is normal. You are doing well and you will success. Hugs

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  37. Passando para ti deseja um dia maravilhoso.
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  38. It will take time, but I am sure that slowly, you will learn to trust others again. It may be painful, difficult, but ultimately, you will trust and have good times ahead. That is what life is about, ups and downs, and like you said, maybe this happened so that you can learn to trust again. Thinking of you x

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  39. I just read your other post and it was very touching. Hope things are getting better and trust is so scary because once you give it completely to someone, if they hurt you, it's devastating so I can see why you feel like it would be difficult to trust anyone ever again. Hopefully with time and meeting the right person, you will and if nothing else, it's made you stronger.

    xoDale

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  41. Mistakes do make us more intelligent and strong enough to face any challenge of life! Its a beautiful and motivating writeup dear! <3

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  42. Just found your blog and I like it a lot. Stay strong! There are ups and downs, and you will never appreciate the ups if you have never been down :)

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  43. True words, love it. <3
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  44. Todo mundo adorou aquela blusa de gatinho! Ela é realmente muito fofa.

    Tentar mais uma vez. E tentar de novo, caso não dê certo. Esse é ritmo da vida! Cair, mas se levantar. Chorar, mas depois sorrir. É procurar todos os dias pela felicidade!

    Ótima terça, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

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  45. One step at a time and some day you will eventually trust again. Have a nice day.
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  46. Rising up after our trust has been broken is very difficult. Walls go up and taking them down takes a lot of time. Healing from inside helps and deciding to let people in is a start to taking those bricks down one brick at a time. Good luck and keep smiling. :)
    ~Jess

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  47. It helps to have a great state of mind, and you do. I feel sure you can make the path and not be just in a rut. Wishing you a wonderful summer full of smiles and great tasting lemonade. Stay strong!

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  48. the sweetest of thoughts are headed your way!

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  49. Blogging and online journaling about our feelings and experiences is such a good release for so many of us it also is really the positive side of social media. That so many people reach out and wish you well or share some positive encouragement really helps. Stay strong :)

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  50. Hi Launna.... I am in the same boat as u ... it is not easy for me to trust men.. words are no good.. actions speak for themselves.. its so hard to knw who is genuine n who is nt.. just like u even i m trying to tk smaller steps towards trusting men - hopefully i find my soulmate soon :) have a wonderful weekend ♥♥

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  51. I completely feel you on this one, dear Launna. After a few failed experiences in my love life it's really really hard to trust again, let alone give my heart to someone new. But I truly loved what you wrote at the end, maybe the reason why these people come in and out of our lives goes beyond a romantic relationship or even a friendship. Maybe these situations were supposed to happen in order to strenghten us, to me there's no greater feeling than when I feel I have overcome something difficult, when I look back and say "Wow, I've gone through a lot from there to here". It's completely rewarding. I am sure you had that feeling before, just remember that sort of inner power you feel after rising and try to do it again, I know you can. :)
    xx

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  52. sweetie i agree with you :)
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  53. Great post

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  54. What people say and what people do are two complete different things, trust actions, not words. Have a great day Launna! <3

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  55. Dear Launna,
    I feel your deep sense of loliness, I can understand you so well. Just think that I feel also so near to you, believe me...
    Have a lovely day :)

    xoxo
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  56. Such an inspiring and motivational post!! What can be better than this to start my day! I too have fallen many times, as life keeps ditching us and so do people but all this makes us strong. And today I feel good as whatever happened in past, made me stronger for today!! :)
    Kisses and hugs

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  57. You will get through this, too. It isn't easy to trust again but you will do it -- mostly because you know you need and want to trust again. We all need that.

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  58. So sweetly put, Launna. Well, I know it will be hard to rebuild trust once you are betrayed. But I am happy for you that you have learned how to rise up again. I am fully with you on this. You are truly inspirational for me. I wish you all the best of luck for your future endeavours. God bless you dear...

    With lots of love and wishes from Bhutan,

    Amrith:
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  59. De nada! Você merece toda essa gentileza e atenção! *---*

    Ótima quinta, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

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  60. Hi Launna, hope you're doing well. It's been some time since I've dropped by, and I must say your post is as inspiring as always. I really admire your determination despite the adversities you face. I haven't been in the situation you described, perhaps because I've yet to experience more things. I cannot imagine how I would react to the situation where someone I trust the most isn't the person I thought they were. Rebuilding relationships is very difficult and I love how you're very honest and realistic in your reflections. I'm sorry about what happened but I'm also happy for you and that you've found a way to rise and learn from these experiences. You're a very strong person, and your courage and will to preservere is commendable. Take care and have a lovely day. :)

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  61. Really interesting post! Thanks for sharing!
    Have a great evening!
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  62. Such a wonderful post!
    Have a nice evening!
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  63. This reminds me of the Christian song, "I Will Rise"... have you heard it?? - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  64. My lovely Launna. I am so sorry to hear that you feels overwhelmed hope that feeling has been gone for now:). Its tough when we have to deal with such a thing like this. All I can say is please be strong and don't let the past bother you anymore.. You will be okay without thinking of him:). I promised you that:). Hope you have more rest after the daily work:). Take care of yourself my dearly Launna:) Oxoxox.

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  65. You're lovely, you're bold and you're strong! Reading through your posts sometimes is like going through a book where you suddenly realise there are many things you can relate to on a personal level. Have a lovely weekend my dearest Launna!
    Xx,
    Nilu Yuleena
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  66. Yes, we all fall, and we all fail. But we just have to get up and keep going.

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  67. Have a wonderful weekend Launna <3 ,lovely Greets!

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  68. Hi Launna. I just wanted to drop by and wish you a happy weekend!
    Looking forward to your next post. You are such an inspiration.
    Beautetude

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  69. Hi Launna, I don't know the full details on what happened. It's a real cliché to say that things always happen for a reason though I believe they do. Good things... bad things... people... situations... They are all there to be part of lives as lessons in one way or another. Sometimes we don't understand why things happen to us and it is only in retrospect that we do or sometimes, we just don't know at all.

    RYC:
    Launna, You have acrophobia right? I'm partly acrophobia, only afraid of heights when in shopping malls when the parapet is made of glass and the bottom would be the view of many stories of shopping mall. If the below are grass and nature, I won't be afraid. The sunset photo has got some tweaking done. The original photo didn't look as good as what my eyes saw.

    Jo
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  70. That's it dear, one step at a time. The most important part of healing is moving on. I have experienced something almost similar, but I healed and loved again, still loving. You owe yourself that much. If your desire is to experience love again and to trust someone, then its time to let go, move on and open yourself to possiblities. Hugs and kisses

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  72. hi dear, i m so sorry to late for reply ur comment and read ur blog. no matter how hard it is fall some time. just took the positive side and move again. from trial we know our mistook. that's why we can learn to do not do the same thing in the future. there was a rainbow after rain dear. let him go.. just positive thinking, God love you dear, he have planed for happened.and i believe God prepared better future and man for you. amin..


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  73. I'm so sorry about how you've been feeling, Launna. But your message is so inspiring; even though we fall, we must rise again and try. At a recent graduation I attended, the salutatorian was discussing all he had learned over the years, one of which was to not be discouraged by failure. It's better to try and fail, than to not try at all and live with regrets.
    No matter how far we fall, we must rise again. We learn, we become stronger. <3

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