I'm Making Memories, Not Just Dreaming

 
What a week I've had ... I started it out on a low and ended it on a high. I was pretty frustrated with how I was feeling and how I couldn't seem to change it... This week was a learning and growing week for me.  I've been talking with a guy, somebody I talked to a couple of years ago. I won't be discussing him openly if and until this becomes something more, even then I won't be gushing about how lucky I am over social media.

I don't need a man to make me happy... of course I want someone special to spend my life with but I can guarantee he will have to put the work in to prove he's serious. I want a real commitment, I'm not a teenager, I won't be endlessly dating, nor do I plan to live with any man until he figures out what he wants. Why? Because I'm a girl that has finally learned that I will not accept less.
What brought me to this point? Friends and acquaintances who were posting about how lucky they were to have so and so or stating how so and so loved them and how blessed they were because of this... I actually sat back and thought what? You know what I thought when I read these things? I felt sad for these women who seemed to think they had to thank the men they were with for loving them... my personal thought was, how about loving themselves first?

I say this because I was there before... I remember how lucky I felt that 'he' wanted to date me, I was over the moon... wow... I thought so little of myself. Today I'm in a much different place ... I had my eyes opened in the past year. My wish is that we all remember our worth and stop gushing about how lucky we are to have a man. We all deserve love and finding/having love doesn't make us luckier... posting about it endlessly makes us sound insecure. 
My life is pretty full with Valentina, work, exercise, blogging... the list is long. Although I have not ruled out love, I have to tell you that the guy that wins my heart will have to be pretty special... I want an equal partner, one that sees how incredibly special I am too... I plan to make memories, not just dream about what I want in my life...
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  1. I loved it very much
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  2. I agree that keeping a relationship quiet on social media is a good thing. I rarely talk about my husband. But aside from that I've seen some single ladies post pictures of their new love (one after another) and I can't imagine what that must feel like when it didn't work out. Glad you had a good week. ;-)

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  3. Really interesting!
    Have a nice week end!
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  4. Positive thoughts and outlook. Its great that you have embraced and immersed yourself things you are passionate about...things that keep you busy. Best wishes always!

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  5. I'm glad you are being cautious. I feel sure he is lucky to know you. All the best. Keep smiling!

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  6. I totally agree with u Launna that u need to love urself first.. I m also looking fr a life partner and i hv no patience to date anyone nw rather get married and get settled with someone fr life.. I dnt run behind ppl or chase them anymore.. if ppl call me selfish so be it coz ppl judge u anyways.. i wish u all the best and a lovely week ahead xoxo

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  7. So rightly said launna. I did the same too. Not once but twice. Now I'm in a happy place. Not dating for over 3 years and happy.

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  8. This post is like a beautiful athem to ourselves. I know how fantastic is the feeling of being in love and being love back, but if we don't truly love and accept ourself, the breake up can break more then just our relationship, and we can spend monts wondering where did we go wrong. But if we're honest with ourselves and acept us the way we are, we can get our anything.
    Hope it works for you the best way possible, and even if it doesn't turn into anything more, I hope you in best way embrace this time of happiness.
    Love, and wish you another great week.
    Danny

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  9. Fantastic post! I love how optimistic you are. Happy Monday dear! :)

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  10. Oh! Can't wait to hear more about this guy ;)
    I absolutely agree, I guess finding your match is a dream, but even if you don't, it's perfectly okay. Love yourself and the people around you...if things are meant to be, then they are. <3

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  11. Couldn't agree more. My break through point came when I realized that I want to be with a man for who HE IS, and not for how he makes me feel, e.g. needed, wanted, lovable. Once I understood the difference (and I, too, was happy being on my own) I was ready to meet a man like my husband. For me it was all about truly knowing my own values and living accordingly, rather than loosing myself in my partner’s story and life, trying to ’save’ them. Having said this, my tendency to get lost is still a part of who I am and what I love about my husband is that he sees me even during times when I don’t. That’s how I know he’s a keeper :) I love where you are going with all this, Launna, I can sense that you've worked hard and become stronger and secure in who you are and you certainly deserve to meet a man who sees and loves you for who YOU are. And even if that doesn't happen, then you know that you can also be happy and ok on your own, you have a full life with or without a partner. That's the sweet spot. xo

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  12. Wonderful Post Launna <3
    i wish to be on the same Point .. but i am on the way ,it takes time :)

    Lots of Hugs!

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  13. I agree with you about posting on social media about relationships. That should be kept private in most cases, I think. And you're right, everyone deserves to be loved.

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  14. When I started to read your post the first and most important thing to catch my eye was this ...
    "The best thing about memories is making them"

    This is so true and you have a life that is "pretty full with Valentina, work, exercise, blogging... the list is long" Cherish each day and it's memories and just see what happens.

    Have a good week

    All the best Jan

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  15. I like your attitude about being confident of yourself without anyone having to tell you how good you are. I like your plans too, about making memories. God bless Valentina and God bless you.

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  16. Wonderful post, and something I really needed to read today, so many heartfelt thanks. Wanting to be loved for who we are is so important, and being able to love ourselves first is vital for that (and definitely not an easy thing to realize!).

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  17. Hi Launna not sure if my past comment went through. I was basically saying I get annoyed people posting about their "wonderful relationships on Facebook when in reality their relationship is not what it's cracked up to be. I almost never post about my relationship. And you are right... love yourself first it's so important.
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  18. I think that if we love ourselves first, we attract the kind of person who appreciates who we are and recognizes our worth. Have a great week!

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  19. I understand you Launna. Memories are very important for our life.
    Adorable words and quotes.
    Kisses
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  20. This post is a delight for the inner me and I absolutely loved what you shared- Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell you!! How true and I think everyone is beautiful in their own way!! :)

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  21. You deserve a special partner Launna and a big love story, because your are a special woman!!! I wish you all the best!
    Take care always, love Paola, xo.
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  22. Lau querida amei a postagem sempre arrasando,
    uma semana abençoada.
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  23. This is, again, so true! I love your posts; they always have so much intelligence in them! You deserve someone who will cherish you!

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  24. You go girl! Keep your heart open, but don't settle. Absolutely not!

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  25. Opps! I forgot. Love your new look here and your tagline!

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  26. Good for you! I hope things work out with this guy, and if they do not I hope you find what you are looking for soon! We all deserve to have someone like that in our lives!
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  27. Very good post, lady! I agree, sometimes watching women put so much worth on men in their lives makes me sad. Trust me, I love my husband and am so happy to have him in my life, but I know who I am and my worth. <3

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  28. No matter what....my motto....live with an open heart. Sure some people will hurt us but most won't. Hugs Launna and wishes for a great day out there.

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  29. This is great Launna... I agree...you should have lots going on in your life to make sure your happiness is prioritized by things that make you who you are... and then a guy is added to the picture and he's his own little area of happiness in an entire sea of joy. Glad you are confident and realize this... the women who hang onto a man like nothing else matters in life are, simply put, pathetic.


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  30. Amazing post!
    Have a great evening!
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  31. This is beautiful mami....realizing that you should NOT drop those standards for anyone is one huge step in self realization....I really hope things work out with this guy...and whether or not it does work, I know you will be fine mami...

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  32. I love this so much!

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  33. Making memories is very important dear Launna. It is important to make good memories, who will stay with you for the rest of your life. I am really curious about this guy Launna!

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  34. Life is made of ups and downs... glad your week ended on the upside! <3 - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  35. Very nice post, it is good that it was a growing and learning week. xoxo

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  36. So true, be thankful to have ability to be who you are and learning to love yourself. Thats the most important thing. :)

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  37. This reminds me of one of my friends in facebook, she has no self respect and she constantly posting photos of her and her bf, as well as updating the activities they're doing, it's kinda annoying. You deserve the kind of love that makes you feel like the luckiest person alive Launna, all the best and take it easy. <3

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  38. Good girl. If we want someone else to value us, we have to value ourselves.

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  39. I agree with what Susan above said, Launna. And ending a week on a positive note is always a rewarding feeling, even if the beginning seemed horrible.

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  40. Nice post

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  41. Amiga passando para te deseja um dia maravilhoso
    obrigada pela visita,
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  42. There is ALWAYS roon for love, ALWAYS :-) And I agree, you don't have to settle for anything less than perfect.

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  43. I'm glad you are not settling for anything less. Have a great day.
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  44. I love your attitude! You deserve the best and should settle for nothing less -- someone out there deserves the best, too and that will be you. Can't wait to hear more!

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  45. I kind of understand you, dear Luanna.
    Almost all my friends are engaged, Marry or with a boyfriend and they look like the people you said: more, they're are kind worry for me cause I still are not engaged or have a boyfriend!
    Well, as you said, I'm totally happy and complete even without a boyfriendin my life: to get married it's definitely not my life's goal!
    We don't have to settle for anything that less then perfect for us! :)
    xxx
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  46. I think a lot of that gushing of some peoples 'guys' is superficial. Sometimes you meet them then and think they just as a couple have as many flaws as anyone else! Nobody is perfect. I hope that gentleman is good to you, no matter where it ends.

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  47. Someone told me that a guy should not be the center of your universe…you should be his! Ahaha, I love this thought, even though not really fair to the guy…..! xo

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  48. <3 as always, way to go.. ;) You are worth every good thing, and loving yourself is the best thing you can do for you and your future.. xox

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  49. Great post! thanks for stopping on my blog! kiss

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  50. No, you shouldn't settle. Stay happy. Xo

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  51. I loved it very much. Lovely post Launna!

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  52. Bom dia Lau passando pra ti desejar um dia maravilhoso
    DEUS seja contigo por onde andares.
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  53. Your'e definitely in a better place. It breaks my heart when I hear a woman talk about how unimportant they are. Every person is special, unique, valuable. We all just need to realize that.

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  54. you are always so inspiring....

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  55. Dear Launna,
    I'm very happy that you learned not to accept less, you're loving yourself deeply :)))
    When I read you posts, I feel better, you give me hope and energy.
    A big hug from Italy :)

    xoxo
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  56. Glad you are feeling better and loving yourself more. Finding happiness is my goal in life, and I have found it by doing things I enjoy to do. I don't get to do that everyday, but I appreciate them even more when I can. Thankfulness helps too, I have a thank you journal! I think that when you give thanks for what you have it helps you appreciate life even more. Have a great rest of the week Launna.

    xx,
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  57. This post is an inspiration. YOU are an inspiration.

    Charlotte xx
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  58. Boa noite Lau.
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  59. Launna, you're comment on my blog filled me with warmth and happiness!! I am SO thrilled for you that you've met someone and are opening up that wonderful heart of yours. You truly deserve all of the happiness in the world and I wish you nothing but the very best!! He's a lucky, lucky man to have such a gem like you!!! Congratulations and I look forward to reading all about him when the time is right - although I completely agree with you that the rushing etc is a bit much. I do feel blessed to have Sam even though since last night we've been in a HUGE arguement..... it'll blow over eventually... and Sam is blessed to have me. It's a special thing to find someone to share you life with and that is the blessing - but a man or a woman should not define us. Not all all. Well done and your spiritual growth is excelling!!! :)

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  60. I think making memories are more important because it's one thing that will; never change and you will hold it in your heart forever. great post Launna. I was pretty busy these past days. But I'm glad i squeeze a time to blog and at the same time read other blogs too =) http://anotsosecretlife2011.blogspot.com/

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  61. Launna!! Omgosh!!! You couldnt have said it better!! I so so agree!!! I don't understand why women like to base all their happiness on a guy! I feel like a guy should be a cherry on a cake. Even if there isn't a cherry, we still have the cake right? :) With that being said, it's nice to share life with someone who understands you, but one shouldn't base their entire life on them. I loved what you wrote, and omg, Launna! You have a potential guy at the moment!! Please tell me moreeee about it!!!! I am so so happy and excited for you!! <3

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  62. I think you have a really good attitude when it comes to guys.

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  63. Boa tarde Lau DEUS seja contigo neste lindo dia
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  64. Hi Launna! As soon as I read your comment on my blog I knew I HAD to come here ;) I'm SO happy for you, I understand this is still nothing serious as he still has to prove some things but the fact that you've met a nice guy who you can spend time with is amazing. I completely agree on this whole thing of "felling lucky because someone loves you" as we weren't worth enough to love so we have to feel literally lucky that someone dates us. It's a sad thought, really.
    I think the key is the word you said: equal. In all the aspects of a relationship there should be equality. You already know your worth and you will choose wisely. I'm so excited for you and I wish you the best!!! If it's meant to be it will be ;)
    xx

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  65. Hi my lovely Launna. Oooh what a news. I'm so happy for you to have met someone :). I'm so happy for you too and really hoping he is the one who is looking for :)! Have someone special in life is kind of good medicine to me:) who you can laugh out loud with, got shoulder for you to lean on when you needs it too:). I'm praying for you to good life when I meditated :) yes I do, because I thinks you been though so much and you deserve a better life living like other women do too Launna. I hope and hope he is the one :). Please do you very best to show him you're real and worth for him to have you:). Wish you best of all with everything Launna. I miss you too. I will be able to blog as it as before soon. We just got back home from driving back to Atlanta last week to take care our business down there. Please do find a way to come visit me :) we live much of closer than I was in Atlanta. :) We may one day meet up our half way:).

    Take care ! Love

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  66. This is very true Launna. You don't need another person to "complete" you. You don't need to lower your standards for others, and never settle for less than someone who values you for who you are! :))

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  67. sounds like you are in a great place. I'm with you 100%. i'm grateful for monsieur too, but it's my life, and ultimately I'm the only one responsible for it. he adds to it, no doubt about it, but sometimes he also makes it harder. and that's ok. that's life. and how it should be. I hope I can keep this attitude. none of this is permanent. and who knows, maybe we become needier again in the future too. it's something to be vigilant about. xoxo

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  68. I totally agree!♥ our self confidence should come from within! beautiful post!:)


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  69. What an amazing statement of what you want. Way to go Launna. You inspire me. Happy Friday.

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  70. You don't need to post this comment, but I just wanted to say how Happy I am that you've met someone!!! Yay!!! 💖

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  71. Another beautiful and inspiring post
    Thanks for take the time for make a post like this
    xx

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  72. Good for you, Launna! I have to admit though----I'm dying to hear more about this mysterious man!

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  73. Nice post Launna! Loved it
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  74. P.S. Launna, I've given you a special shout out and heartfelt thank you on my blog today!

    Kisses,

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    -Lauren
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  75. a very motivating post! love it!
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  76. Passando para ti deseja um ótimo final de semana
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  77. I just found your blog - what an inspiration!
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  78. am glad to hear that there is someone special
    And i totally agree with you we have to value ourselves more and know how much we are worth
    great post dear
    kisses

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  79. Hi Launna, You always say the most truthful and inspirational things. I agree with you that we should love ourselves and not depend on others to make us feel loved and be happy because of it. And that self-worth quote? I totally love that! You know, when you told me about dating someone and taking it slow, I was sooooooooo excited for you. Yes, take it slow and enjoy the process w/o holding expectations so that you would always be happy and not be disappointed should anything goes wrong. You deserve a really good man for your really good heart!

    I'm also busy with exercising and I love it. Working out could really get addictive but I see the difference and feel the difference. I love all the sore muscles and I feel more toned. I wish you all the best in your exercise regime. Oh yes, I've replied to your comments but I won't be pasting them here so do check back. Have a good weekend!

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  80. Great post dear, thanks for sharing!!!
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  81. Great post! I'm also a girl that has finally learned that I will not accept less :)

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  82. I agree not over sharing. I'm glad we get to hear here tho and I hope things continue to go well. You deserve a partner and someone appreciates all you have to offer!!

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  83. Awesome post! I think we need to love ourselves first and then it is easier to find the right person for us because we know who we are. Glad your week ended on a high note. :)
    ~Jess

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