Trust Can Be A Scary Two Way Street

I have been wanting to write all weekend, there seemed to be one thing or another that got in the way of that, so I finally had time to sit down and write and then the computer was acting up... I thought I might have to blog from my phone and that did not excite me... I would much rather type on a keyboard. Anyhow, I finally got my computer working.

So, I had this pretty wonderful week that I was flying high, I have been talking to the new guy a great deal... then on Saturday he surprised me with a text that he was going to be in Halifax for a few hours and he wanted to spend that time with me. We talk non stop on the phone... okay, if I am being honest, I talk non stop ... lol... he said he loves listening to me talk, he is a keeper. I do ask plenty of questions which he openly answers, however; getting to see him face to face is even better. 

We just went for a drive and talked even more than usual, you can't beat seeing each other while you are talking and being able to hold hands. He tells me all the time he is the luckiest guy to have found me... I think that is sweet but I also think we are equally lucky, I didn't and don't want to be on some sort of pedestal... I am NOT perfect I have made many mistakes, he said he doesn't care and that although he thinks I am pretty wonderful, he won't put me on a pedestal, there is no where to go but down from there.

I have decided that I will put my heart out there and give him a chance, can I tell you all how scary that is... well, it is about the scariest thing I have done in years. This coming from a girl who wants that commitment ... I know how far down I am capable of falling after trusting someone with my heart in the past and frankly that scares me more than anything I have had to deal with... He's afraid too... he has been hurt, I told him I thought we were worth the try, he said yes... and that he knew I was more than worth trying for..
Even though it is has been a little challenging with his work and having to be out of town... he is very transparent with me and I actually think the distance has been a good thing. It has forced us to talk a lot and really get to know each other and the few times we have been able to get together we are both so excited that we laugh and talk endlessly wanting to find out as much as we can about the other. Thankfully, he has downtime in the Winter where we can really have one on one time to spend together, by then we will both know what we truly want from the other...

Here is my dilemma because of the way men have treated me in the past I find it extremely difficult to trust them ... I have told him that and he said he understands, he knows how men can be and he can understand where I am coming from. I told him I am tired of games and I won't play any of them... he told me he's not out to play with me, he is out to win my heart... I am going to trust him unless he gives me an excuse not to... he's doing the same with me... Trust can be a scary two way street... so far so good.
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76 comments :

  1. Talk about last tango in Halifax! I couldn't resist (BTW I love that show even if it doesn't take place in Canada) Its good to hear you two are talking. I'd advise lots of day trips too..that is sometimes, a way to see someones true colors..on a roadtrip. And it looks like you two enjoy each other's company. Many blessings!

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  2. Launna, I'm so happy to read this post from you. I'm glad that you are opening yourself up to this new gentleman in your life - if we don't take risks, nothing positive can happen. So proud of you!

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  3. Nothing ventured, nothing gained! You can be careful AND brave...trust your instincts, if he feels like a keeper, REALLY feels like a keeper, he probably is. xoxo

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  4. To love again is a scary enterprise. But I am so glad you have decided to open your heart. I wish you all the love and joy! Keep us posted :-)

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  5. that sounds promising. very! I'm happy for you. and I very much get you with trust issues and not wanting to play games. it's going to be one year in August from monsieur and I. one year!!! how time flies. do I fully trust him? not sure. I do as long as things are good. a little bump on the road, however, and I feel my guards coming up. nothing I can do about it. it just happens. trust, once broken, by no matter who, is the hardest to rebuild. but I think it's worth the effort. so go for it xoxo

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  6. I'm so glad, very happy for you My friend!!!! I love this New post, so promising!!!!
    I Wish you all the best, with a lot of love!!!!!
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  7. Wow ,i am so happy for you and him :)
    i love to read this wonderful Post Launna ,what a great Day!

    much love from Vienna

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  8. It's MUCH easier to protect yourself and shield yourself from possibly getting hurt by putting up walls and letting no one in, but opening up to someone really does pay off sometimes! As long as you take it one step at a time and don't jump into things too quickly you'll be fine, Launna, you can do it!

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  9. Postagem maravilhosa muitas felicidade para você,
    tenha uma semana abençoada
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  10. It is absolutely normal mami to be skeptical when it comes to trusting people especially with everything that has happened.....even though it takes time, you must allow yourself trust again...I love this post so much, it screams hope all over.

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  11. Just like you Launna even I find hard trusting men because of a bad past I had which shattered me.. I am happy that u found someone. u r absolutely right trust is a risk especially if you havent had a good past also if it does not work it will hurt u the most.. m jst scared to trust ppl m done.. i am jst waiting fr the right person to come along to fill the emptiness in my life .. hope u have a fabulous week ahead ♥♥

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  12. Ohhh noo... I just wrote a long heartfelt post and I don't know what happened to it!! :(

    Ugh... here we go again...

    Basically, I shared that I can completely relate to your hesitations! I've been burned by guys in the past, and it definitely makes it hard to trust new ones! I talked to one of my best friends the other night and she insisted that all people are different and I can't let assholes from the past dictate now. Another friend also said, "there's not reward without risk."

    So I have been taking both of their advice pieces and trying to get over my trust issues, I hate that they are there, because my man has given me no reason not to trust him, and I am trying to be positive and just fall in... and I hope you do to! It sounds like you are fully capable of allowing this sweet man to romance you.

    I look forward to reading more and I hope you have fun, and love!


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  13. It sounds like you are in a really good place! I am so happy for you! It's bound to be scary, the unknown always is, but you never know what good is around the corner waiting for you! Wishing you all the best! Xx

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  14. sweety i'm so happy for you, for that you meet him and try to give him a chance! <3

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  15. I'm so glad so far so good. Just keep that communication open and don't hold back a question that you need to know the answer to. Don't worry so much that you miss enjoying the moment.

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  16. It sounds like you have found a great one! You gotta love finding someone who you can just talk to for hours!
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  17. How beautiful Launna. I'm so happy for you two. It's difficult to find someone that match but if you do take care that beautiful relationship:). Nothing is worth more than this. Big congratulations dear Launna. I'm all well:) thank you:). Happy new week with everything Launna.

    Oxoox
    Tanya
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  18. "Trust can be a scary two way street... so far so good."
    Oh Launna, what a lovely post from you ... my thoughts are with you, have a great week.

    All the best Jan

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  19. Que maximo amei tenha uma semana abençoada
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  20. A agree with you. It is easier to trust some one when their actions tell that you can trust them. Sometimes if you know some one really well, you can trust even their words.

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  21. He, indeed, is lucky to have you. I'm so happy for you two and hope everything turns out well

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  22. Hi Launna. I am so happy to read this post. And although your just opening up yourself he sure does sound sweet I agree with you and you should take a chance and give him a chance I am so happy for you.
    Beautetude

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  23. I'm glad you are willing to take a chance again. You have to take chances to find the things and people that will make you happy.

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  24. Dearest Launna, flying high is good as long as we don't fly too high. What I mean is that when we do, the low seems even lower! I've been there, and it's not fun at all. You are such a lovely person and I always enjoy the way you express yourself. Sending you a hug.

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  25. Hey Launna! Everytime I read your posts I feel sentimental, you write from heart.. and your reads are amazing! I wish the person you have just started trusting proves out to be a good person for you :-)
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  26. You are living through a magic moment. Life is exciting. I'm happy to see you so happy.

    Jasmine ♥♥♥

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  27. That is a wonderful quote ♥

    Trust your heart
    and follow it... there is joy and happiness
    when you are in love with the right person
    Trust me I know because me and my hubby
    have been in love for Fifteen years already
    and still going strong.

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  28. am so happy for you.am happy to read you found someone you can trust again

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  29. Launna, I'm so happy to read this post from you. I'm glad that you are opening yourself up to this new gentleman in your life - if we don't take risks, nothing positive can happen. So proud of you!

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  30. Good for you Launna, life is about taking risks, if you don't, you'll never know what's on the other side of the door (so to speak). I am so very happy for you.

    xx Nesha, Island Hipster

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  31. So happy to hear this!! I'm glad he is so transparent. definitely a keeper. Does he know you blog and talk about him?
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  32. He sounds very nice, Launna. I am happy for you. I hope things continue to go well for both of you. :)

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  33. Hi Luanna, I'm so happy for you! Fully trust someone is very hard, buton the other side that one should worth it, isn't it?
    So trust him but not fully and enjoy the life, who knows how things will continue? ;D
    Still I hope the best for you!
    xxx
    S
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  34. Launna, I am happy to hear you are so happy!! He sounds like a true gentleman!

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  35. Once you have been hurt it is so hard to trust easily. I think if you just keep bieng open and also your feet on the ground you will see wonderful things can happen. You deserve it :)

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  36. I am very happy for you dear Lunna!!! I wish you all the best!
    flò

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  37. Wonderful post! Absolutely happy for you!
    Have a great day!
    Natallia Jolliet
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  38. I'm really glad you are going to trust him. He sounds like a lovely guy and the distance thing is a good thing. It gives you your own independence and free time, so you don't become reliant on each other and it does force you to get to know each other in a more personal way. I know trust is extremely hard as I'm one of the most un-trusting people you can meet, but I've learned along the way that you can't tarnish everyone with the same brush. So many out there can treat you bad, but when you meet a good one, you can't treat him the same as he hasn't done anything to deserve that. Good luck with everything!

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  39. Fantastic post dear! Hope you have a lovely day.

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  40. Here's hoping for you! We all deserve someone who will cherish us, eh? Enjoy every moment.

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  41. He certainly seems like someone you can trust. Hope it works out for you!

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  42. It is strange, some of the pics are not charging for me. I agree with you it is better to write with a keyboard than with a mobile phone. I wish you a great Wednesday! xoxo

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  43. Great post, dear!
    Have a nice evening!
    Angela Donava
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  44. Launna, It's lovely to see you accepting this and wishing everything works out for you with this gentleman. He sure seems nice :)

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  45. I can't tell you how happy I am for you. I hope you find this to be just the friendship (and more if it goes there) that you both want/need it to be. :)

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  46. Thank you for sharing this post, dear
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  47. I am sorry to take so long to get here this week but I am glad I did. I am glad your heart is happier! Trust isn't easy but you can carefully do it! I hope everything works! You said he travels a lot -- it would be wonderful if you could travel with him sometimes! Southern California is a great place to visit!!!!!!

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  48. Give him a chance and see how genuine and pure his heart is. If you never try, you will never know. Not knowing is infinitely times worse than failure. You can do this Launna, you go girl! <3

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  49. Love this post, thanks for sharing! :)

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  50. Step back here for a greeting, sweet Launna.
    I replied to your comment under my post, dear :)))
    Have you a wonderful day, hugs!
    Flò

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  51. Awe Launna. I didn't finished read all the wards on my last visited because. My time was running out:). I'm so happy to hear that he'd said and feels how much luckily and worth to have found you. That's so so sweet. This was how my relationship first started with my husband even now he always telling me how luckiest for him to have found me:). Your new love is sure the keeper if thing works out ? I believed things seemingly work out wonderful now please please continue to keep a beautiful ones not everyone could find a true love. Wishing you a more wonderful week even though I know you do:). Oxoox

    Tanya
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  52. Hoping it works out for you. All the best.

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  53. Talking and taking it slow is always a good approach, Launna. Enjoy the journey and I wish you much meaningful discovery and lots of good times!

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  54. I get you, Launna. Although our experiences might have been different, the apparent consequences -having some trust issues, are the same. I'm beyond happy for you now that you decided to give him a try, for what you write about him he seems to be a person worty of this try. And yes, it is scary but I think you thought about this carefully and with caution, and neither of you are acting impulsively, and that's is pretty much all the caution one can have in this stage, when we still don't know what's going to happen and it's just a matter of betting on this relationship or not. I truly wish things keep going this good! <3
    xx

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  55. I'm so glad you had a lovely week and that you have found someone you feel worthy enough to be given a chance! We never know what fate has in store for us :)
    Xx,
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  56. Me too Launna, I hope it works out. Trust is huge. Go slowly and your heart will know. Wishing you another amazing day out there.

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  57. Amiga passando para ti deseja bom final de semana
    a fé e a esperança são irmã gemeas e creia que ja
    deu tudo certo tenha fé.
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  58. You're so right! Actions speak louder than words. Without them, words are empty!

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  59. I'm so happy for you. Learning to trust someone is definitely difficult, but it's worth the risk. Love always is. It sounds like you've found yourself a keeper. :)

    Happy weekend!

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  60. I never had a chance to tell you how amazing style of writting you have. The words just catch me up and make you feel with all my heart.
    I'm so glad you found someone who makes you happy. I know the exciting feeling of falling in love and promisses it gives and I also think it's worth fiting for those promises, if your love is ready to fight with you. From what I read, yours surly is.
    Hope your relationships keeps going this swell or grows even better.
    Wish you all the best, have a wonderful weekend.
    Love,
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  61. I am ridiculously happy for you---I have been waiting for this day to happen for a long time. I think it's great that you are getting to know each other over the phone---that's how my relationship started with my hubs. We talked every day for a month before we finally met. Have a great 4th! <3

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  62. i wish you good luck and i'm hoping for the best. :)
    Enjoy, be happy, and God bless Launna! :))

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  63. Ahhh Launna I'm so excited for you! He definitely sounds like a keeper!
    It's nice to have someone like that who's transparent...trust and communication are so very important in a relationship, and I'm so happy you're giving him a chance. Trust is hard, especially when you've been betrayed in the past. It's tempting to put up walls so that we never get hurt again, but we're human. We live and we learn and we love in life, so I think it's important to let down your barriers and trust someone who you feel with your heart is a good person.
    He sounds so nice! Good luck! Again, so happy for you! xx

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