What I Learned From My Break

What did I learn from my blogging break? I learn something different everytime I take a break, there are various reasons each time. This time I learned that I wasn't handling my life well. There were things coming up that I just wanted to ignore... Ignore them I did by filling every moment with social media.
 
If I did that I didn't have to deal with what was in front of me. I have done this with numerous other things over the years and now I used blogging and social media. It's not a bad thing to be involved... I love being able to interact with each of you and getting to know you all more personally makes me happy.
I have decided that I will continue to read blogs but maybe comment a little less... I will always be there supporting each of you but I also need to have time to care for myself. I had given up on walking and eating healthy (another coping mechanism) ... this week I changed it and I want to keep on this path.
 
In this last week I walked over 50 miles (100,000+ steps), which ended up being over 10 hours of active exercise. I know that won't be possible every week but I am commiting to at least 5-6 hours per week and I'd also like to get 50,000-60,000 steps in. I think these are strong and attainable goals.
 
I'm setting myself up for success, I have NO desire to go back to where I was in my life... I was not happy and admittedly I'm not all that happy at the moment. However; saying this I know with a surety that I never had a chance of being happy where I was... but today that happiness is definitely a possibility in the future.
As for the guy, he will remain 'the guy' for now and for some time... Building a relationship is difficult enough as it is, bringing social media into it early on only challenges it more. Right now it's good, we are committed and happy with each other... He makes me smile and he's told me that I make him very happy too... we've both been burned but we both want to get passed our past and live in the present.
 
What I learned from my blogging and social media break was that I can't ignore what's going on around me by filling up every minute with busy things... I need to make time for me to think and clear my mind daily... Walking, meditation and prayer are the three things I'm going to do for me.
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58 comments :

  1. Dear Launna, I am glad that you have figured out what is best for you. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending you a hug.

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  2. I'm so glad that your blogging break was a success - I am glad to see you back though! I'm going on vacation in a few weeks, and while I have posts mostly written and scheduled, I think I'm going to stay off the computer and enjoy my break.

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  3. I know it's easy to escape real life through social media, but I'm glad you figured out you weren't on the right track, Launna.

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  4. the selfish part in me is glad you are back, but I hear what you are saying. social media can be a distraction [like anything else], and yes, talking about the new guy may be problematic. I usually stay away from things that are too emotional, too unclear, to ambiguous on my blog. life changes too quickly. and what looks good today can look bad tomorrow. and who wants to explain that or backtrack. plus what happens when real life people read your blog? I love writing and sharing. it's public therapy [which I don't know what to think about yet, are we all total narcissists? is this the new normal?] but I sometimes consider writing somewhere anonymously. it's not always easy to be really honest about what you think or feel when people know you, your name, your face.

    as to being happy [I prefer the word content] - it's a constant struggle, and I don't know how to get there. what I do know [or have read and heard often enough to actually believe it] is that its not in the future. it's here. today. now. not tomorrow or next week. I wonder. do you believe you have a right to be happy? because that's often [one of] the problems standing in the way to happiness. it doesn't matter how you eat [metaphorically speaking] or how much you walk or how well you cope with day to day life, you are absolutely right just the way you are now. I might be preaching to the choir, but you gotta embrace it all. your good sides and your bad ones. xoxo

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  5. Breaks are good. They give you a chance to catch your breath and refocus. We all have to do what is right for us.

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  6. Launna, I'm so glad to catch up on your site and I think you are so wise to take a break and to truly realize what you need to do to make yourself feel happy and healthy. I'm SOO impressed how much you're walking. 50 miles is a LOT and I can totally relate to how walking clears your head. I hope you keep having a happy summer focusing on yourself and taking breaks (whether they're big or small) whenever you need them. :)

    xoDale

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  7. It's wonderful that you learned something from your blogging break! Sometimes we all need breaks in life, to realize what we've been neglecting. Most of the time it's ourselves! I'll admit sometimes I think of being kind to myself and being kind to others as two separate things--but this post was an eye-opener that they're not different at all.
    I've realized personally that walking, meditation, and prayer help so much. Sometimes we need to let go of the overwhelming exterior factors and focus on ourselves. It's not selfish at all--you have your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs to meet in order to be healthy.
    As for happy---maybe you're not happy right now, and you know what? That's okay. Life is about struggling and learning. Of course it isn't always easy and you're not going to feel great every single day. I like to use the word joy to describe how I feel now. The quote "“Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within," is what helped me understand the difference between happiness and joy.
    It's good that things are going well with the guy. It isn't best to rush into things, but taking small steps to realizing if he is the one who makes you happy and is right for you is always best.
    Enjoy the rest of your week! xo

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  8. Hi lovely!

    I'm so glad that your blogging break was therapeutic for you. You deserve only happiness and freedom in your life and it seems as if you are on the right track to finding these things. I am happy for you. I hope it is onwards and upwards for you from now on.

    Sending much love!

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  9. I was so glad to see your post this morning! I think you are wise in so many ways! Putting yourself first is a definite good idea and you were wise to see what you were doing to just cope and get by! I think your goals are achievable and I know by now that having those challenges motivates you! Having you to try and keep up with on Fitbit sure motivates me!!! I do think you are wise not to live your life on social media, especially with the new relationship. Those things are difficult enough without having others judge and comment!

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  10. I wish I could come away with richer insights from my blogging break.. I just feel behind and lazy! Maybe this is because I review product and I'm behind on that?? I dunno... ugh. I need a REAL break!! - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  11. Sounds like your break was productive. It is so true that you need to take care of yourself. No one else knows what you really need except you.

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  12. Un affettuoso saluto, carissima Launna!

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  13. Mi piace il tuo blog, adoro leggerti.

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  14. Amiga você é uma pessoa especial e uma grande amiga
    DEUS é contigo amo o seu blog sucesso.
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog:http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  15. Launna. I'm so happy that you're doing well and staying on a better side. It's okay not to walk or eat healthy as always. When I'm busy I can't do all either and that's fine with me too:). Did I really read that you are now also do some meditate? Oh that is more than wonderful Launna please continue on doing that because the power of meditation is help me walks through with many of human life's issues. I'm super glad you have done that too:). Wish you the best of all:).

    Oxox
    Tanya
    http://attraction2fashion.con

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  16. Hello hello hello my dear Launna!! Ok first of all, I missed you heaps!! And just like you, I too went on a LONGGGGG blogging break! I just could not find the motivation to blog. I don't know why! But you know one thing that kept motivating me? They were your comments. You never failed to not comment, and that really touched me, Launna! Deeply. Thank you so much for always showering so much of love. You're indeed the best, and just look at you now, so many good things are happening to you!! <3 Finally justice is being served! You deserve nothing but the best, Launna! And I am so happy that this guy could possibly be the one!! <3 I am so so excited for you, you have no no no idea!! <3 Thank you so much Launna, and love you as always!! :)

    http://anshul90.com

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  17. Oh Launna, that is so right thing to do, to you! I know, how much time it takes to do workout, plan your time..Also your personal life... I´m so proud of you dear!!! You are in my thoughts a lot, even thought I´m not so much in social media anymore. I shall write my blog, and in FB...well, I´m readind that are you ok etc. You know, you are very important to me girl! :) And...awesome work those steps...really!!! Yes!!! xoxoxo

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  18. I'm happy this break was useful for you, dear Luanna!
    You are on the right way to get your happiness (or maybe it's there around you yet) so keep on going like this! :D
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it/

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  19. *applauding* I hear you there. I have one day a week I blog. That's it. It's scheduled and planned for, and beyond that, I try to stay away. Too much life happening around here.

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  20. Launna, very happy that you're figuring everything out. Social media can be distracting and a break is always necessary. I hope you find that balance.

    xx Nesha, Island Hipster

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  21. I am glad that you are back Launna! Great to hear that you have learned a lot during your break. Sometimes it is good to take a step back from blogging!

    xoxo
    www.its-dash.com

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  22. Whatever makes u happy u should do that.. try doing yoga it is really beneficial fr weight loss... as for comments don't stress over it u can visit my blog whenever possible.. i hope u achieve the goals u want to fulfill !!! Take care ♥♥

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  23. nice and thank you so much for your support!! I deeply appreciate it ;)
    My Lyfe ; My Story
    @MyLyfeMyStory
    @MyLyfeMyStoryBlog

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  24. I know it! Blogs take so many times. Too much.

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  25. Amiga passando para ti deseja um belo dia
    Quer ganhar clik: https://www.h2h.com.br/nequerenvitoriagaldinoreis
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog:http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  26. gorgeous quotes darling
    I'd love to know your opinion
    would you like to pass from my blog?
    <<< fashion blogger Pamela Soluri >>>
    I wish you an happy day
    kiss

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  27. Launna,
    I take breaks all the time lol and I completely understand what you are saying, sometimes getting more followres, talking to more people, getting more comments and feeling like people like what you have to say can get kind of addictive and it requires too much work. I also found myself in a similar situation where I didn't spend any quality time with my husband, i would just go to work come back home and work on my blog/answer comments/ find new people. Our relationship was hurting a little bit so I decided to put my priorities straight. I want to get back to blogging in a regular schedule but probably only once a week so I have plenty of time to work on content and plenty of time to answer my blogger friends :) I love your goals or getting so active! all those hours is so crazy! I'm so proud of you.
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.com

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  28. Welcome back and good for you for putting yourself and what you need to stay committed to what's important to you first!!!

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  29. Welcome back! Happy to know the break helped you figure things out. Put yourself first and take one day at a time.
    www.effortlesslady.com

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  30. And Launna is back and she's definitely wiser. :)
    Good to see you back and to read another wonderful post from you. I think kindness should be make like jeans...never goes out of style.

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  31. I love this so much and welcome back! We missed you so much.

    xoxo;
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  32. Glad to see you again! Nice post!
    Have a great evening!
    Angela Donava
    http://www.lookbooks.fr/

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  33. Glad to see you again, truly! I am so happy to know that, you have started living your days and moments meaningfully! That is what all we need- to face life and people (we love and care) more clearly and closely! Wishing you great healthy and loving moments!
    kisses
    Epsita

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  34. It's important to take care of yourself first. You do what you feel is best for you.

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  35. Welcome back dearest Launna!!! I'm glad that you have learned more during your break!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

    My Facebook

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  36. Hi my sweet Launna,
    I'm very happy for this post.
    I'm glad that your blogging break was a success, but I missed you.
    Have a nice day
    Kisses
    MaggieD
    Fashion Blog - Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary

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  37. thanks Launna for sharing this post!! really rich and blessed!!!
    KSS
    http://tupersonalshopperviajero.blogspot.com.es/2015/07/la-ciudad-amurallada-de-estremoz.html

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  38. Amazing post dear!

    www.bloglovin.com/blogs/printed-sea-3880191

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  39. Hello my dear Launna. I wanted to message you here regarding your comment on my instagram. Is everything ok with that guy? :/ I am so stoked :/ But Launna, you cannot give up. There will always be difficulties. If there were no difficulties, then, it wouldn't be fun, right? Challenges are part of life, dear! <3

    http://anshul90.com

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  40. It's important to take a break a couple time's. This summer I blog not that much as last winter. And I love it haha.. I don't feel like I have to blog to make other people happy!

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  41. Passando para te deseja um final de semana abençoado.
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog: http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  42. i repass sweetie
    would you like to pass from my blog?
    <<< fashion blogger Pamela Soluri >>>
    I wish you an happy day
    kiss

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  43. Hi Launna! I'm glad to have you back on blogging! As always, you say words that keep resonating in my head after reading your posts like your thought on fillinf time with social media... I've never thought of it in that way but it totally makes sense! And even worst, I might be doing the same subconsciously 'cause I do have a long list of things I should be doing as well.
    I must say I will miss your constant support on the blog and social media however if your lovely comments lessen I'll understand, we have to decide which are our priorities. I'm very happy to hear that now everything is in the right path and that you learnt important lessons thanks to your break. Welcome back!! :)
    xx

    http://www.stylebydeb.com

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  44. Hello Launna! Welcome back! I hope that everything goes fine for you. I also need time to think and clear my mind daily, I think you are in the right way. Lots of hugs!

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  45. Hi Launna,

    it's good to know that you're giving yourself some time. I also learned this from being away from the internet. so I hope everything works out well for you. God bless! :)

    xoxo, rae
    http://www.raellarina.net/

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  46. We all have to take time for ourselves, but that's hard to do with so many other things to distract us! Maybe it just means doing something you love. I used to go to the gym every day and walk on the track and that was my "me" time. Now I walk on my treadmill and read...I guess that's my time now!

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  47. Hi Launna, just popped over from Blogoratti's blog to meet you. I understand where you are coming from and want to encourage you to keep doing what you are doing; love yourself and be who you are. Let your light shine and the right man will see it when the time is right. You do that by just being true to yourself in all instances. God bless you!
    Carol B.

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  48. Blogging can be both time consuming and the fun side of life. It's easier to ignore all the things that are more relevant in our lives.

    Excellent walking stats!

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  49. Um alguém especial

    Para você que é especial…
    Você que um dia conheci
    através de uma mensagem virtual,
    chegou-se de repente,
    deixou a minha vida mais contente,
    e tornou-se tão real!

    Você que hoje está sempre presente,
    alegrando os meus dias
    com doces melodias,
    que escuto para recordar
    dos bons momentos que estivemos
    juntos a teclar.

    Você me faz acreditar
    que o sentimento virtual
    pode ser tão verdadeiro e “real”.

    Você me faz sentir
    esta vontade de lhe escrever
    este desejo de estar com você,
    e de querer dizer:

    Você me faz falta,
    quando não lhe encontro
    numa simples mensagem
    na minha caixa postal.

    Porque você já faz parte
    do meu mundo real,
    e quero que continue nele
    para sempre…
    porque você é realmente
    muito especial!
    tenha uma semana abençoada.
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog:http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  50. Passando pra ti deseja um dia maravilhoso
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog:http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  51. Hi Launna ... I had a few days away recently and it does re-charge the batteries. Life is all about balance but is it easy to achieve? No is the answer. So many outside interests or 'asks' on our time.
    We must at times step back and review our situation.

    Great to see you posting after your little break from blogland.

    Take Care

    All the best Jan

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  52. I am glad your break gave you such clarity. You are right- sometimes we fill up our lives with too many things so that we don't have deal with certain things. You were at least filling up your life with productive things. :) Glad you are getting back to walking and eating healthy. That always helps me start to feel better. Good luck and hope you feel the sun on your face today. :)
    ~Jess

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I love and appreciate all genuine comments, to save a little time, I won't be commenting on the comments on my blog (unless you don't have a blog), I will just visit your blog and comment there, if you have left a meaningful comment for me... I would much rather spend the time reading and commenting on a few extra blogs ❤