Love Is Never Easy

Last week was my birthday week, I took two days off to have an extra long weekend. I didn't do a whole lot other then rest and walk whenever possible. We have this really great trail near where I live that I have come to love. I wish I had started using it earlier this year as there are only a few places I have to worry about crossing a road, it is quite level and it is beautiful. I will be using this as much as possible as it is quiet and very serene.

So, last week I explained that things did not work out between him and I as 'apparently' he has taken a job out West. I really didn't want to write about it because I knew that I was going to hear all the pat answers I didn't want to hear. It was inevitable since most of us are wired to want to say something/anything to make someone feel better. I want to address a few things here. 
First, I did not chase him or search for love, I was prepared to cancel the dating service I was on when he messaged me. I was intrigued as we had spoken at great length a couple of years ago. Second, I do love myself... I could not have said this a few years ago, I don't think wanting romantic love means that I don't love myself... Third, I think it is wonderful for people that enjoy being alone, let me say this, 'good for you'... I may have to be alone but that does not mean I am going to be thrilled about it, I would much rather share my life with someone who I love and who loves me. Fourth, I have a wonderful family and many good friends, unfortunately they don't always fill the void that craves romantic love... that doesn't mean I am not grateful for them.

The most important thing I wanted to say was in no way do I think love is easy. I know it's not perfect and simple to achieve... I know that no one has a perfect love where everything runs smoothly all the time. I also know that social media gives this illusion at times.... of course we as human beings don't want to post that things are not perfect, most of us don't want to do this because we don't want to be negative. Other people are insecure when they are over posting about how perfect the person that they are with is... the truth is, no one is perfect.
I am grateful that I didn't put him and I all over social media and only generically mentioned him in the blog. I think it would have been more difficult otherwise... Losing him was really nothing, I barely knew him, I didn't have time to have real feelings for him... what it did was make me build higher walls as I had started to trust again; it brought up old feelings and reminded me of how broken my heart was a few years ago... I thought I had come a long way and put that behind me, this showed me that maybe I am not quite ready yet.

For the time being I won't be dating and quite frankly as much as I want that great love in my life, it will have to wait... He will have to jump through hoops of fire to prove he is worthy of me... I give myself over to love completely when I love someone, the next time if it is to happen, the guy will have to go to great lengths to show me he is serious. I deserve absolutely nothing less... besides I know love is never easy but it's worth it...
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  1. Too right you deserve nothing less Launna! You deserve nothing but the best and it is so wonderful to hear you say that you can love yourself! Take care xoxo

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  2. Launna, may I share my own very personal perspective? You say that love is not easy. I, very gently and respectfully, disagree with that. Love, with the right person, is very easy. That's in fact how you know that you've met the right person. It's easy because there is no second guessing, no doubts, no games, no distrust, no walls. It's just love and it's there and it's easy. Which doesn't mean that you don't have to put effort into building a lasting relationship but that effort is only needed because a relationship is not sustained by love alone. There are many factors that play into it, least of all our own demons and baggage that each of us brings to the table and supporting a relationship amidst of all this can be hard. But love itself is easy. What I am trying to say is don't be too hard on yourself and don't build your fences too high. You are such a wonderful person who has so much to give and you deserve just as much in return. You deserve love that is easy xo

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    1. I completely agree with you, when you meet the right person, there's nothing difficult at all. It might be hard at times when life keeps you apart for a while (I know this as I'm in a long distance relationship) but when you are with the right person, it's not difficult. You know each other so well and appreciate the same things and respect each other that everything should and will fall into place, so it's never difficult. Effort is required on both parts to see each other of course, but it works and never feels like a chore :) :) You will get there though, everyone does! You will get the guy you rightfully deserve, it can just take a long time.

      Raindrops of Sapphire

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  3. Every single word is so very true, Launna. ♥

    ♥ Hope you have a great Sunday! ♥

    THE KAWAII PLANET

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  4. First of all "HAPPY BIRTHDAY".
    I am not so sure about love itself as my marriage was arranged. I learned to first understand my husband and then started caring and then loving. I kind of agree with you. It can be difficult sometimes but it is not too hard once I understood his good side. I hope that you will find the good side of the one you love without having to work at it.
    Take care of yourself first and then be happy. Your happiness will show in the love you will give to others.

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  5. If You meet the right man, love can be very easy! You can over come all the difficulties together of it is true love, and You deserve it Launna!!!!
    I Wish You all the best My friend!
    xo Paola
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  6. Right after I met my husband, he moved three hours away for the summer to spend time at a lake house his friend let him borrow. We didn't break up really, but I was sure it was the end. It wasn't. Plus, that was where he found our dog! Sometimes things work out when you least expect it, but long-distance relationships SUCK. Right before I met him, I was in a long-distance relationship that didn't work out, so I was sure it was a bad idea... Maybe because he was just three hours away, we were able to make it work.

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  7. Great Words Launna! i really like the Quotes!

    kisses :)

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  8. It's true, love is indeed never easy, but nothing worth having is! I hope you will find your dream man!

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  9. Inspiring post. Wishing you all the best!

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  10. Launna so wonderful to know that you are hopeful and still value love so much! I am not dating and have been single for a while, but don't crave a relationship...except if Prince Charming comes along and shows me he is willing to put in some work to get me. :)) There are sooooo many sweet talkers out there that I've ran into.I'm ready for someone to show me how much they appreciate me and not just tell me. Wish you all the love in the world!

    xo,
    Tania
    http://inspiremyfancy.blogspot.com/

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  11. Your journey have gradually made you strong and confident! so happy to see you grow.. its good to prioritize our needs and emotions sometimes.. Sometimes we drain ourselves in loving others.. Self Esteem and Healthy walls are nicer..!
    You are Lovable and you know that..:-)
    you inspire me too!
    Have a good day! :-)

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  12. Powerful thoughts! I'm glad to hear you are finding all the beauty around you. Oh, how I wish I could find a place to walk like that. We are having such great humidity..I don't even know where my bra is..but I guess I best find it before I have to go to work. I swear, I spend more time searching for a bra than going out..sometimes. Especially, in this weather.

    Here's to a wonderful week! Stay positive! And be YOU!

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  13. Wonderful words!
    Have a nice day!
    Angela Donava
    http://www.lookbooks.fr/

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  14. Dear Launna, you are much stronger now than two years ago and will go through this. You deserve a BIG love and I'm sure you will find it.

    Jasmine ♥

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  15. Well said, Launna! It sounds like you know what you want and that is so important. Sending you hugs and lovely walking weather so you can enjoy the trail. :)
    ~Jess

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  16. Que rida amiga é muito bom amar e ser amada mais ante de tudo,
    isso devemos nos amar primeiro depois amar que agente acha que
    merece o nosso amor, mais não fique assim tem uma pessoa que te
    ama e já mais te faz sofrer esse é o nosso DEUS vivo que não nos
    deixa triste nem diziludido, fica com DEUS tenha uma semana abençoada.
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  17. So awesome! Hope you have a lovely day.

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  18. Oh Launna, you are amazing person. I love your words.
    These quotes are so lovely.
    Kisses
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

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  19. So true that love is never easy. The trail you found to walk on sounds lovely. I wish there was someplace like that near to me.

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  20. so amazing reflexion
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    I wish you an happy day
    kiss

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  21. Great Words sweety!
    Wish you a wonderful new week <3

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  22. I almost married the wrong man. It's true. We set a date, picked out the invitations, the dress, blah, blah, blah. The whole works. But every single decision we made was an agonizing ordeal. Nothing was ever simple or easy. To make things worse, his mother pushed her opinion for every little thing. I decided to call it off. Then my hubby and I got back together. (We'd been high school sweethearts.) It is no exaggeration to say everything fell into place. Everything just felt right, and yes, easy. So yes, love CAN be easy. Making a marriage work for all these years hasn't always been easy, but it still feels as right now as it did 47 years ago.

    I hope you had a wonderful birthday. :)

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  23. Love is not easy...and I see a few other comments here saying that it can. While I do respect everyone's comment, I'll have to agree with you, Launna, it is not easy. Love may seems easier because you're married to your soul mate and best friend but regardless how 'easy' it may be, it still take some work, communication and every little bit to keep the spark alive.

    I can actually relate to putting up the walls after another heart ache, it took some time for my husband to break down my walls. It took me 8 years after walking out of my ex-husband to finally find love again. There was so much hurt and I never thought I would be happy again, never thought I would open my heart again and it took me so many years to even consider a serious relationship again. You'll know when your heart is ready again, Launna, just trust yourself. xx

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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  24. Love hurts but it's a good hurt haha. Don't worry Launna, you will meet him one day when you least expect it. Focus on being the best version of you and everything else will follow. Have a nice day! <3

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  25. I am sorry you are hurting and I am sending you hugs of support. Your 4 points above are absolutely spot on!

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  26. Love is a beautiful thing when you meet the right person. I know you will not be dating anytime soon but please don't build your walls so high. Hope you had a great day

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  27. Lovely quotes you picked my dear... keeping you in my prayers and thoughts! - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  28. Totally agree with your thoughts Launna..Love is never easy but so worth it <3
    Have a great week ahead!
    xx

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  29. Actually, I DO think love is easy. At least when you've found the one. I was just lucky enough to find my soulmate so early in life. Loving him is so easy. Being with him is so easy. It's like he's a part of me. Like he's in my mind and my soul with me. It's never a challenge, never too much, never difficult to be with him.

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  30. Love these quotes , especially third one. Have a nice day.

    Nina
    http://www.ninasstyleblog.com

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  31. Ah, obrigada, Launna! *-*

    Sempre gosto de dizer tudo sobre os produtos. Até mesmo o que for negativo!

    Antes de qualquer coisa: Meus parabéns atrasado. Muitas felicidades! Te desejo tudo de bom da vida, porque você merece!

    O amor realmente não é fácil. E deve ser complicado ouvir as respostas prontas, que parecem ser a solução de todos os problemas amorosos... A única coisa que eu posso te dizer é: Busque sua felicidade. Encontre nas pessoas especiais aquilo que procura. Mas sem se magoar se não for bem aquilo que você queria, viu?!

    Ótima terça!

    Beijo! ^^

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  32. First, belated happy birthday. Good thing you got to find some time off.

    Oh, Iove is never easy indeed. Well, I guess it is it's just that we force it to where it should not be placed or make it complicated. I think when it's really the right one, it will be effortless. :)

    Stay lovely!

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  33. Great quotes so inspirational !
    xoxo

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  34. Lovely quotes, dear Launna, and I hope your birthday week was enjoyable! I would rather wait for love (as in finding the right person who is kind, caring, honest, etc., and who will love me for who I am) than rush into a relationship that is not good for me.

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  35. Happy belated birthday! A long weekend sounds like a nice way to celebrate!
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  36. I am happy Launna that you are taking things positively.. of course u have had so many experiences all your life and learnt so much.. I wish u more happiness and positivity in future.. Have a great week ahead ♥♥

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  37. your posts are so inspiring...loved reading this one too....

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  38. So glad to hear although the circumstance you are taking things so positively! I hope you enjoyed your Birthday
    Beautetude

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  39. Welcome back dear Launna and Happy Belated Birthday! I would just simply say in light of what I've read here that whatever happens happens for the best and I'm glad you are so positive and motivating!
    Xx,
    Nilu Yuleena
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  40. I do hope you enjoyed your birthday and send belated birthday wishes your way.
    Thinking of you and sending good wishes ...

    All the best Jan

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  41. happy birthday, I hope you were able to enjoy it despite the circumstances. I think wanting romantic love is normal, it isn't a negative thing at all.

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  42. Lovely Launna, how wonderful I feels after reads your today post. I saw one of amazing and worthy woman that know and learned how make her life on track. Xx big big congratulations on what you're dealing with. I'm so proud to know you. Chin ups, you do nothing wrong. I'm saying that love isn't easy even with the right one, I don't believe in perfect because in a real life nothing perfect l, let's face it, love is also a challenge and goes level to level no matter how much lover is, there are such a thing we need to work on every single day. We only can do our best to walk through ours lives and definitely cannot tell or expect other what to do what we wants. Let's the love find you Launna, and then you will be feel like " you're a one lucky woman on a planet as same as others feels. I prays for you to have to find one real love in the near future. Just wait and see:). Keep up with your meditation please. Take care of yourself as you're always do Launna. Oxoxo.

    Tanya
    http://attraction2fashion.com

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  43. I'm so sorry I forgot to say a belated happy birthday to you. I hope you had more relaxed on your day:). My birthday was the beginning of this month and you know what I forgot my Birthday too. Xox

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  44. We have close birthdays, Luanna, mine was last saturday! ^^
    Anyway, I really admire your consciouness abot love: I'm the kind of person who really enjoy being alone; I've got loads of passions, friends and a very close family, but how can someone not looking for the true love?
    So I'm always looking for the pefect boy and the great, romantic, eternal lovestory... and everytime I finish totally disappoint! I know that i'ts almost impossible in realyty, but how can I stop keep dreaming? :)
    xxx
    S
    http://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

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  45. Lau querida passando para ti deseja um dia abençoado
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog: http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  46. I am so happy you are moving forward with a positive sense of self and not putting all of life's meaning in having a relationship... love can be found in many places... yes, love is in your heart, but you don't need to love a man for that greatness to be shown, you can love yourself, love your family & friends, love your hobbies, and love life... so keep doing it pretty lady!


    Amber
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  47. It's such a wonderful post dear!

    www.bloglovin.com/blogs/printed-sea-3880191

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  48. Great things can't happen without great risks. =) Even so, I'm hopeful for you. Stay strong. Enjoy your walking path. The person who persists is the one who eventually finishes the race. Oh, and happy birthday!

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  49. Dear Launna,
    happy birthday :)))
    Love is never easy, for me it has never been...
    I send you the biggest hug possible from Milan :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  50. A huge happy belated and right on Launna, you deserve the best of the best. If we aim low, we shortchange ourselves. Have an amazing day out there./

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  51. Launna, happy belated birthday! I'm glad you took a couple of days off and relaxed :) and about the guy that is not part of your life anymore, I think you have the right attitude about the whole situation and I'm sure a better partner is going to come your way! We are all here to listen(read) to you my friend :)
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.com

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  52. I am to late! But congratulations with your birthday! I hope you had a wonderful day dear Launna! Many years to come in good health and happiness! You are so right! Love is never easy. You have to work hard on it to make it work. But when it come from two sides, it will be good <3

    xoxo
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  53. I completely agree, love is never easy, and it tends to show us that we might not be as ready as we think for the emotional rollercoaster that comes with a relationship. However, you've always been very mature in the way you handled this latest experience, from the beginning to the end, like you said, you didn't brag about it when things were cool and now you're being very classy about the things you say about him and your time together. Believe me, most of us could only wish to be as mature as you are during a breakup, what you're doing is not a minor thing!
    I hope you get better soon, my friend!

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  54. Hello Launna:). Same here, nice chatting with you today. I hope I can ever do more to help you feel better. Good news is, After I described about how beautiful your writing is and I also mentioned you've been blogging for over five years. they love your blog. Anything I can helps even in a bit Launna. Have a lovely one:). Good night from here ox

    Tanya
    http://attraction2fashion.com

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  55. fabulous post sweetie, i agree with you
    I wish you an happy day
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  56. Such a wonderful post!
    Have a nice day!
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  57. Passando pra ti deseja um dia maravilhoso
    Canal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
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  58. Oh crap, I hate when I miss saying Happy Birthday to one of my favorite people. Happy belated!

    I can't remember if I gave a pat answer or not :-( but I know what you mean. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say and cliche is the first thing that comes to mind.

    I can remember in just the first year or so of my marriage I called my mom crying. We were overseas one month after we got married and it was really hard. I had called to virtually cry on her shoulder asking what was the point of marriage and she said something along the lines that many years from now I'll find it worth it. I see that now of course but when you are in the midst of something you think is failing it seems impossible. Keep looking forward and "forward" to finding that worth in someone.

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  59. sad to read thatit didnt work out but ibelieve everything happens for a reason
    amsure you will find someone who is worth your love and someoneyou will behappy with
    Just be patient

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  60. When the right one shows up, it'll work.

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  61. I am really sad to read this Launna, just few days back you were so happy about the new guy in your life and now this! Dont get too emotional next time, it only hurts. :-)
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  62. Happy Birthday for last week. You deserve the very best. I learn so much from you all the time.

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  63. First one Happy Birthday!!! Thank you for your words, I would also like to walk, especially for nature!!!
    Kss
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  64. Um domingo maravilhoso para você amiga
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
    Blog:http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br

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  65. Sorry I rambled so much about my bra last time. I just need to keep it in a trapper keeper of some kind in the fridge. Oh..I've learned valuable lessons about iced coffee this week! But I feel badly that I didn't wish you a Happy Birthday. I hope you celebrate each day! I do hope things have gotten better and you are finding some great conversations with those you know. All the best on a blessfull August!

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  66. Dear Launna,
    I wish you an inspiring August... A month that can give you lovely ideas and inner calm :)
    A big kiss from Italy!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  67. Hi Launna!

    Wishing you all the best!

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  68. I'm a little bit late on your birthday, but I wish you all the best everyday :)

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  69. Aquele hidratante para banho é simplesmente maravilhoso. E além disso tem um preço bem bacana! ;)

    Ótimo domingo, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

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  70. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. You really do deserve the best because you are such a beautiful person inside and out, Launna, and by far one of the sweetest bloggers I've "met." Hang in there, my friend, and know that we all love you. XO

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  71. You seem very strong and know what you want and deserve. I can't wait for the day that I read on here someone has swept you off your feet! I believe we all deserve that

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  72. I feel luck is very important in everyone's life.

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