I Am Worthy, Just Because I Am Me

 
I had an interesting week, one with a lot of ups and downs... those are the ones you learn from the most. They are not easy but growth never is and as much as we say how life would be simpler without challenges, at least for me I know that life would be rather boring and unchanging.

I was speaking with someone about an injustice they were dealing with, about how they wanted to get back at the person who had hurt them... I asked them why? Then I said, you know what, people that do things to hurt others have that all come back to them... we don't have to do or say anything. As a matter a fact I pray for the woman that has done countless things to hurt me in the past year and a half... I feel sad for her that she doesn't know her own worth... if she did, she would not waste her time trying to hurt me.
So, I told the person I was talking with that although they have been hurt, the best thing they could do was walk away, don't give that person an ounce of satisfaction by fighting back... I never retaliated and I never will because I know my worth and I don't need to prove it to her or anyone else. I just need to live my life and be the best person that I can be... my worth is not tied up in someone else, especially not in someone else who doesn't know their own.

I am not sure the person I talked to understood but I am hoping they do, because retaliating will only hurt them and keep the issue open which will actually make it worse. I understand that whatever path they take is the one they will have to deal with but I realized even more that I made the right choice in never responding to her and I could have but what would it have proved? I know I have the truth on my side and frankly the truth always has a way of coming out... it cannot be hidden forever.
I had some moments in time brought up to me through Facebook memories and Time Hop... which reminded me that I had very little self worth at one time, that was difficult to see but I also saw where I started to change, where I began to understand the truth. I saw the shift in my thinking, it was subtle at first... I stumbled from time to time with the knowledge of my worth as I think we all do. Basically because we expect so much from ourselves and when we fail we sometimes believe our worth goes with the failure.

This is not true though, our self worth is always there. It is us who needs to remember this and not use it as an excuse to give up our worth and settle for less then we deserve. The old me would have lowered the bar and accepted less, thinking that was all I could have but the new me knows I am worthy, just because I am me....
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102 comments :

  1. i feel you Launna -.-, There's actually one point in my life where I was humiliated by this person, even call me different sh**ts, but I stood up and I laughed at her. I pity her for saying nasty things about me, because she only shows that she's unhappy in her life, she was envious of me and I feel sad for her. I only pray and hope for her to realize things and to just focus on her life of being a mother for her 4 children for her to also feel all the love that I feel.. Being surrounded by my friends, my family and my loved ones, made me feel worthy :))

    xx
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  2. I accidentally deleted my sweet friends comment J. C. Gomes while trying to translate it:

    Nós temos que nos valorizarmos mesmo, Launna!
    Nada de vingança.
    A vida é um curto aprendizado.
    Beijo

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  3. I really like the quotes you are sharing, Launna! We SO need to know our worth and I think many of us forget this!

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  4. Yes, you are more than worthy! It's so hard to leave the bad behavior of others alone sometimes. It's a difficult lesson to learn, but I figure if a person has a problem with me, it's their problem, not mine. Hope you have a wonderful week Launna!

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  5. Awesome post and so inspired!! Thank you for reminding me friend of so many things!!
    Love the quotes too!! Wonderful to see you today!

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  6. I really struggle with this to be honest. I always want to get back at the person for how much they hurt me. I don't in the end but I still get very angry. And I always struggle with self worth being tied to another person. I love your posts because they are so relevant to me.

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  7. Great post
    have a nice day

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  8. Great Post Launna ,i understand what you say!

    lovely Greetings ,kisses :)

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  9. Totally agree. Just distance yourself from the people who are hurtful and don't give them any more chances to be awful.

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  10. Of course my dear Launna : you are worthy!!!!
    Lovely quotes, so inspiring!!!!
    Have a great start of the week!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  11. I totally agree..it's better to walkaway from such kind of people. Beautiful post Launna.
    Happy new week
    xx

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  12. Hiya Launna...I just wanna say that the quotes you always put up here are really nice. I love them all. I connect with them on a different level.....and I agree with all you have said, I stay away from negativity....I can't deal mehnn....I just don't have the space for that in my heart, head or mind....so I distant myself from such people.

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  13. Saying nothing at all could sometimes be the best response. Toxic people should be kept away.

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  14. I agree with you, revenge isn't the solution. It won't undo the damage that's been done. Walking away is better. Leaving it all behind. And then trusting that the universe will somehow take care of payback.

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  15. You've sown a seed for that person, and even if they don't grow right this second from it, chances are great that they might at some point in the future. And kudos to you for taking the time to do it too. :)

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  16. I totally agree with you. I think indifference hurts toxic people. No matter what other people say, as you say, our self worth is always there. Have a wonderful week!

    Jasmine ♥♥♥

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  17. It's important to know you worth it. Everyone should have the power to say that :)

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  18. Sometimes it is hard to hang onto your self worth when others are eating away at it. If you can though you will always be the winner. You Launa, are a winner!

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  19. This post is so relateable to me Launna I am glad u wrote it.. I felt so good reading it,, I had a very close friend and as much as my heart said NO i had to say goodbye to her bcoz i understood my self worth & why be tortured for friendships sake when she doesnt feel the same & treats me so bad.. I am a much diff person nw not that I stop loving ppl bt i also need to understand my self worth in future ..
    May u hv a fruitful week Launna ♥

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  20. Hi my sweet Launna,
    You are a beautiful and strong woman
    I agree with you, revenge is not good. The life is so beautiful.
    Lovely quotes.
    Kisses
    Maggie Dallospedale Fashion diary - Fashion blog

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  21. Hi my dear Launna. First of all, I wannnnnna say helllo hello hellllllo to you, because I missed you so so much!! I was on a vacation, and in a way, it was something good. A much needed vacation to be honest!! But I missed you so much, and can't thank you enough for always cheering me up and brightening my day!! <3

    And now, coming back to this post, I will be honest with you, but I have been through the same thing. My ex boyfriend hurt me really bad (he slept with some random chic and got her pregnant, and then hid the fact that she gave birth to the child afterall!!). Crazy stuff, and even despite that, I still continued clinging onto him, because I "loved" him. Until I realised what the heck am I doing with my life? And so as soon as I realised that, I ran as fast as I could, and have never looked back since. It's been a solid 4.5 years since that incident :/

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  22. I agree that it is best to just walk away. Although saying it is easier than doing it! Reminds me of a quote that says something like "holding a grudge hurts you more than the other person".
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  23. This is such a touching post! Thanks for sharing this to us. :)

    xoxo;
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  24. Self love is the greatest love and each one of us should understand this.

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  25. amazing post....
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  26. What a great title! Great message. Oh..I do know that feeling of walking away. Perhaps that's why I have to wear a mouth guard at night so I won't grit my teeth so much.

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  27. As the saying goes -- You've come a long way baby! I know it isn't an easy journey but you are so persistent and you understand yourself much better than most! Another good saying -- good things come to those who wait! Your time will come!

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  28. Dear Launna,
    I'm happy that you had a spiritual rich week, even though a little heavy, lets' say. Mine was heavy as well... I hope I'm learning as well :)))
    A big hug!

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  29. Amiga a vida é assim mesmo, deixa para lá quem ti machucou e segue
    a vida com sua cabeça erguida e pedindo força a DEUS que ele ti da
    esqueçe que um dia essas pessoas existiu. Tenha uma semana abençoada
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  30. Such wise words, everyone should read them! In the meanwhile, what do you think of following each other, maybe inspire each other? Please let me know! Kisses and have an amazing week! :)

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  31. Its always good not to get back at someone who hurt you. Leave vengeance to God. Hope you are having a great day.
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  32. It is better to walk away knowing you've done nothing wrong then stoop to the other persons level. Sometimes easier said then done but always the right choice.

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  33. I can't always do it - depending in what kind of head-space I am at any given moment - but I always try to remember that people who hurt other people are hurting themselves and that what they need most is compassion. I still think one should walk away, because in most situations showing that compassion is only going to make it worse. but I do believe it's important to walk away with a sense of empathy rather than one of 'I'm taking the moral high-ground' or 'I'm worth more than this/more than what you are trying to make me feel.' it's all about positive energy. and don't ask me what exactly I mean by that. I haven't really figured that out either. but in the end, so much comes down to [hurt] egos. from the person lashing out to the person at the receiving end. and the only way to really end this cycle is to step away from it without making it personal. I'm not saying you do that, but it's so easy to come out of this thinking one is the better person somehow. one isn't. we are all on a journey. we have all purposefully hurt other people in the past when we were low. we might do it again, no matter our intentions. we are all in this together.

    great post xoxo

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  34. That is definitely the right attitude about it! I've found that the best way you can get to people is to not let them affect you in the slightest. Just live your life! "Living well is the best revenge." Especially in a social media era where they can log on and see just how happy you are.

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  35. Thanks for this post, I'm blessed by it and just helped me reinforce some principles.

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  36. selfworth doesn't always come easy but it is sooo important! Great words again!

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  37. Thanks for reminding us on the self worth, it is definintely a must to like your self and know how much you are worth instead of letting others judge us!

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  38. Hi Launna! Such a beautiful post... I agree, it's definitely always better to ignore someone because honestly, that bothers them more! Lots of uplifting quotes... happy I stumbled across your blog! :o)


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  39. Its always good not to get back at someone who hurt you. Leave vengeance to God. Hope you are having a great day.

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  40. Passando para ti deseja um belo dia DEUS seja contigo
    Canal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34
    Blog: http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br

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  41. It's always good to know you are worthy, no matter what mistakes you may have made.

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  42. well said!♥ life is too short and thinking about the past over and over again is such a waste of time. We should move on and forget all the injustice we were dealing with, so we can focus more on present♥ lovely post!

    www.Lorietta.cz

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  43. I completely agree! And I think once we understand that, we start making better and wiser choices. No one should settle with any less if we know what our value is.
    xx

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  44. Such a good reminder. For the longest time in America, my husband and me did not care for what we wanted. We always wondered if we were worthy of things that were expensive and we put our wishes aside to send money home. Now that every one has grown children and are earning, we do not have to do that and now we feel that we are worthy of some nice things too.

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  45. What a great post! I think it is important to remember that our paths to who we are today were long and varied and we can't be too hard on ourselves for things that happened in the past. we keep changing and growing all the time. :) Thanks for sharing!
    ~Jess

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  46. I totally agree with you! Your selfworth is always there!

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  47. I agree with your post Launna. Love your self first that's the most important thing. thanks for the visit =) new post on my blog http://anotsosecretlife2011.blogspot.com/

    P.S my pup who got sick sisnt make it =( it's really sad

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  48. Karma is real, what you do to other person will be done to you.. that's why I try to do good and not hurt anyone intentionally cause I've seen bad karma hit some people I know and it's not pretty. Have a great day Launna! <3 xo

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  49. Each and everyone of us is' Worthy' and we must never forget that.

    And as you say " I had an interesting week, one with a lot of ups and downs... those are the ones you learn from the most. They are not easy but growth never is and as much as we say how life would be simpler without challenges, at least for me I know that life would be rather boring and unchanging." ... that is what life's pattern so often throws our way.

    'Til next time - have a good week

    All the best Jan

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  50. Bom dia querida amiga DEUS te abençoe ricamnete neste belo dia
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  51. I'm waking up every morning looking forward to feeling like that one day :)


    Fashionably,
    Patricia
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  52. Launna!
    Yes I am back! Thanks for the sweet comments. I have to say you blog looks awesome! the layout is super clean and professional, the logo is just beautiful! love the watercolor type. Did you daughter design it for you?

    About your post, I completely agree with you! when someone hurts you, the best you can do is forgive them, and forget about it. Karma will def take care of them!
    Thanks for your wise posts :)
    XOXO

    Milu
    www.hellolupi.com

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  53. Amazing post! Thanks for sharing!
    Have a nice evening!
    Natallia Jolliet
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  54. I believe on Karma Launna. I believe that any negativity I have spread comes back to me tenfolds and I've learnt to think positively and have a positive outlook on life Thanks to friends like you <3

    Xx,
    Nilu Yuleena
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  55. I tend to treat people based on how they treat. It's by God's grace that I am able to let things go easily now

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  56. Hi Launna. How have you been? I just wanted to dropping by to say hi. I will be back to read your post later as soon as I feel better. I been throwing up since yesterday after my posted till now. I had no energy left. I needs lots of rest. I'm still packing and moving out in June:). I'm so tired just typing. Good night sweet Launna.

    Hoping your week has been good for you:). Oxoxo

    Tanya
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  57. sweet post darling
    I wish you an happy day darling
    see my new post
    <<< fashion blogger Pamela Soluri >>>
    kiss

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  58. Passando para ti deseja um dia maravilhoso
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34
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  59. so true <3

    have you seen my latest post ?
    www.v-fashionwise.com

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  60. You are a good friend to try and help with wise words. A lot of energy can be wasted on trying to convince others. I am in the midst of that myself right now and the frustration can be so, well, frustrating, but letting time pass a bit can bring on peace with the situation.

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  61. Thank you for writing: "You are worthy for everyone". I am not used that people says that to me. xoxo

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  62. Blessings.....
    knowing ones worth is really key to having a happy life, it does not mean there will be no struggles it means there will always be triumphs.

    peace and blessings.
    Rhapsody

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  63. You are worthy because God created you! <3 flaws and all, we got em, but we are still loved!

    Thank you so much for the birthday wishes launna!! <3

    God bless,
    Christine
    www.beyoutifulhope.blogspot.com

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  64. so true and so touching <3

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  65. Great points. Especially about Time Hop and Facebook. I have had some memories where I've asked myself how did I get behind where I was then. I realize in saying that I am tampering with my self worth just by questioning myself.

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  66. Trying to get back at someone for a wrong is an unhealthy direction to take.. trust me, I'm fighting the urge right now, with my mean neighbor!! But you made some great points my friend. You are VERY wise! - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  67. I think your advice to your friend was spot on. Over the past few years, I've been slowly cutting the negative people out of my life. It's not an act of revenge----it's more of an act of self-preservation.

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  68. Passando para ti deseja um bom dia, bom final de semana
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xZdo8xMv34
    Blog: http://arrasandonobatomvermelho.blogspot.com.br/

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  69. Very nice post! Have a nice day, thanks for stopping on my blog, kisses

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  70. You gave your friend good advice. I hope she follows it.

    Happy weekend!

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  71. The bad things that people say about you are unlikely true, its just their opinion not a fact. A fact is that you are worthy! Have a great weekend Launna! xo <3

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  72. Totally agrred..i always keep tellin my friends same thing..
    Beautifully penned !


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  73. I love these quotes,
    it is very important for us to know that we are worthy
    without trying. That is why I love my Mom
    she taught me to value myself at such a young age.
    Have a nice weekend.

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  74. Fantastic and strong post! It takes a lot for a person to realise that they are worthy! Sad but true!! Such a fabulous post - strong and courageous. You're growth is inspiring Launna!!

    I have a question on my blog right now - i'd love your opinions and if you could ask anyone else to swing by and give their opinions too I'd really be so appreciative - trying to figure a few wedding things out and want to weigh up peoples opinions :)

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  75. Aquele pré shampoo é muito bom, principalmente para cabelos oleosos. Estou gostando bastante!

    Querer se vingar de alguém que nos fez mal não leva a nada... Eu acredito que quem faz mal as outras pessoas acaba recebendo o dobro de volta. E não é necessário ninguém fazer nada. A vida mesmo se encarrega de fazer isso!

    Ótimo sábado, Launna!

    Beijo! ^^

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  76. Dear Launna,
    I love the title of this post, it's JUST FOR ME :)))
    Thanks a lot...
    Happy Mother's Day :)))

    xoxo
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  77. Passando para ti deseja um feliz dia das mães
    Canal:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNNlFtDc1-o
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  78. Amazing post!
    Have a nice week end!
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  79. Launna, I'm so glad that you began to realize your self-worth over time and rise above yourself, your past and the person who hurt you. You know, sometimes you really feel so angry when people hurt you especially if they are supposed to be friends. Like why do friends even do these sort of things? Well, even if they are not your friends, it still hurts and it still angers especially when you haven't done anything much to warrant that. Revenge and getting back really sound very good but you know what, time heals... time really heals. And the peace you get after ll these years is worthwhile. I always feel that in any conflict, we have to be the better person. We can't control the situation or how other people think or behave but we can control ourselves and as long as we do our part, we would rise to be the better person.

    RYC:
    Launna, I'm so ashamed to say that I haven't been exercising daily though I'm proud to say that I still workout once every few days. Sometimes once I start exercising, I won't stop and I really need the time at night to work on my other stuff. I would like to think that at least I'm being more active than a sedentary lifestyle. I'm also walking a lot more but that also means I take a longer time to get home from work since walking a lot more indicates that my hub isn't able to pick me from the nearest MRT. I often see your walking tracker/app on FB. Keep up the good work! And yes, less carbs but not a total no carbs is the healthy way to go!

    I love reading meaningful quotes and I also love peeking into the lives of other instagrammers. So I hope to see more of your photos together with quotes.

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  80. This is a beuatiful post, Launna. We really need to appreciate ourselves first, and then expect anything nice from others. You gave excellent advice to the person you were speaking with. Hope the person understands it :)
    And thanks for your sweet comment. It was so nice to know you were things about me :)

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  81. This is another great post, Launna. It is so easy to lose sight of our own self-worth. I think we are quicker to put ourselves down and criticize ourselves than others are much of the time. In other words, we get in our own way. Sometimes other people hurt us too, but like you said it's not up to us to seek revenge. Wishing you a Happy Mother's Day! :)

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  82. Totally agree with you, it's definitely better to do like you don't care anymore about this hurting person than showing her/him interest!
    Hope you're fine Launna :) I wish you an amazing weekend

    See you xx

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  83. Totally agree Launna..you are so worth it...worth all the best life has to offer. A huge happy mother's day wish. Hope the day shines in every way for you.

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  84. Thank you for your support Launna! I cannot begin to tell you how happy reading your comments o my posts make me feel! I'm so happy I got to meet you virtually and getting to know you and you've been a God Send <3 Have a lovely week dear Launna! Stay Positive!
    Love,
    Nilu Yuleena
    BIG hair LOUD mouth

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  85. Happy Mother's Day to you, pretty lady!! I hope your day is amazing. :)

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  86. Wishing you a Happy Mum's Day! Hope you had fun.

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  87. Hope you are having a wonderful Mother's Day Weekend!

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  88. don't give satisfaction, true!!!
    I wish you an happy start of week darling
    see my new post
    <<< fashion blogger Pamela Soluri >>>
    kiss

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  89. This post reminds me of a quote I found on Pinterest once that said something like, "How wonderful is it that some of our best days haven't happened yet"
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  90. This is so true, Launna. I'm so happy you were able to talk to her, even if she doesn't understand you were able to say what you needed to say in a calm manner.
    Retaliation is tempting, but how does it help us? I like to think.
    We all have self-worth..we are all deserving of love. There will always be people who will try to be negative and bring you down, but you have to rise up and stand up for yourself, because you deserve love and respect! x

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