I'm Top Priority



The only thing that matters now is my mission.  Nothing will stand in the way anymore.

I never have a time I cannot write, I seem to sit down at any given moment and I can put words to paper... I can remember being really young and writing little stories in my head and then writing more complex ones as I became older.  I think that is why the blog worked for me, I could just come here anytime and write whatever I was thinking about or feeling... I never thought of the end result though, opening yourself up can bring about consequences I never envisioned... maybe I should have but I just had a need to write as I always have.

After Andrey raped me and I realized how I had lost myself and my voice, I started to blog... it was my place to just let everything out.  I didn't blog often and very few people read it in the beginning, I was a total mess emotionally.  I did things back than that I would never do today.  Why not today?  Because I have self esteem, I have self confidence now... I have this because I opened up more about myself, talked myself through some really tough times and proved to myself and a lot of other people that it is more than possible to take your life back and make it so much better, even at the age of 50.
A lot of good things came around for me, I learned a great deal about myself in the past few years but more so once I started my weight loss journey in June of this year.  I remember how I decided that something had to change in my life, I could not imagine being where I was in a year from then.... Once I started taking one day at a time and really working towards my goal, I saw fabulous results, the kind that turned heads.  It was really good for me, I started assessing some of my old patterns.  I realized what little self confidence I had in myself, I had myself convinced that I didn't deserve anything decent, kind or loving.

The more weight I lost the more that I saw how curvy I was and it made me feel good.  I liked and do like that I have made my body look better than it has in years.  I did that, my determination did that, nothing got it my way.  In the past two weeks I let something get in the way, that something changed how I felt about writing here.  I am determined and I still am that I am to write to show everyone that change is possible.  It was and is good for me to write in other places that is just for me, sometimes we need to be able to just lay it all out in one place than leave it there.  That's what I have been doing there... just writing whatever comes to mind.

But by doing that, I have spent upwards of two hours at a time just writing about growing up, being a single mom twice, once when I was younger, another when I was older, the rape... on and on... whatever comes to mind.  I just say it all, all my feelings no matter what they are, they just come out.  The process has been interesting and hard, lots of emotions come out, some that I never suspected.  I purge it all though, in the writing so that I don't carry it with me anymore.  I want my insides to match my outsides... I am not far from my goal and I know that I look so much better than I even I thought I could.

I am grateful that I have gained self confidence before I even get to my goal weight, I learned I had to love myself no matter what weight I was at, that was the only way I would never accept less for myself in the future.  I knew I was on the right path when I got the a ha moment from it this summer, it was realizing that I never knew my worth and how I plan never to lose that again.  I don't plan to ever gain the weight back but if I did, I would still know my worth.  Once I saw my worth, that is when I gained my confidence... that was when I started expecting more.
 
I have a list of things I want in a man and although they may be difficult to reach, I think he is out there, he is just going to have to work harder than most to wow me... I told a friend that earlier and I meant it.  I think he is out there, time will tell but until then I am not hanging with guys that are not worth my time.  I am spending more time looking after myself, continuing with the exercise and weight loss, finishing my two courses to have my PCP so that I can run payroll anywhere down the road if I wanted to... it is always good to have options.

I may only write here sporadically, sometimes often, sometimes not... it will all depend on what time I have after I have done the things I need to do, exercising, writing in the other blog (which is where my book will come from) and getting my PCP (payroll compliance practitioner) through work.  There is only so much of me and my time to go around.  Also, I am looking at getting a councilor... I need to find someone who will challenge me, not be entertained by me.  Somehow I will have to fit that into my busy life but it is important, so I am making that top priority.. I am making me top priority. 

42 comments :

  1. I just got a big lump in my throat. I didn't know your back story. I knew it was something big but couldn't put my finger on it and didn't know you had ever shared it in the beginning. I am proud of you for speaking out and finding yourself again to move out, onward, upward and forward. And its amazing how fitting something into a busy life "just fits" when it's right. You'll find it.

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    1. Thank you Kenya, I did share about the rape a couple of times, I've shared a lot of myself... sometimes too much, it just felt good to get it out..

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  2. I like that you are transparent with your heart and feelings. Not many people are, and it's endearing.

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    1. Thank you Rosey, I appreciate that you find it endearing... :)

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    1. Awe, thank you Inge... I am sure I will meet him, he is out there... I deserve a great guy :)

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  5. A lot of projects and plenty of illusions! Congratulations!

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    1. Thank you Cristina... I am on a mission to better myself;-)

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  6. What an inspiring post!! I admire your transparency! <3

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    1. Thank you K.I.S.S... I will visit and follow you :-)

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  8. Writing only works when you're honest and I feel that you are always completely honest.

    /Avy

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    1. Thank you Avy... I am honest about how I feel:-)

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  9. I think having a private place to write your thoughts and feelings can be very therapeutic and healing. It sounds like it works that way for you as well. Good idea to get your PCP too so that you have more options.

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    1. Thank you Daisy... it's always good to have options :-)

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  10. I always love your honesty and openness. I am glad your self-confidence has grown as you've made such a great lifestyle change. And writing is such good medicine isn't it?

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    1. Thank you Keith, sometimes I was too opened.. I was just being me and using writing to purge some things. Yes writing is great medicine ;-)

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  11. very inspiring post as always Launna =) i love reading your post because i could learn something from it =) thank you for dropping by on my blog and for the sweet comment =)http://anotsosecretlife2011.blogspot.com/

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  12. You are a beautiful, strong woman Launna. Just to let you know that I did create a new private blog for myself where I just type away all my thoughts unedited and without judgment. So far I have only done it three times and it is already a lot of help. Thanks so much for the inspiration and thank you for being all that you are. Much love to you and God bless! ♡ :-)

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    1. Thank you Irene, it feels good to be able to write freely....

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  13. I love your trasparencyl Launna, it's always a pleasure to read your posts... you give us a great opportunity to learn a lot from them!
    Have a lovely day darling!

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    1. Thank you for all the lovely comments Paola;-)

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  14. Sometimes it's really hard to make your goals your priority but you still need to try your best.Love this motivational post again my dear :)
    Enjoyed it.
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    1. Thank you Ozden... I appreciate the sweet words ;-)

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  15. Thanks for your lovely comment


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  16. Good for you! For most of us, especially women, it is sooooo much easier to take care of other people than it is to take care of ourselves and our own needs. We can lose ourselves in the shuffle, and that's never good. What is good, though, is your writing. Putting your feelings and concerns down on paper (um, or on computer...) is the next best thing to having a therapist. It's DIY healing at its best.

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    1. Thank you Susan, I am getting a ton from writing what I feel like writing. It is quite eye opening :)

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  17. Launna
    I have watched you change so much this past year alone. You are seriously doing a remarkable job at changing your life for the better.
    Keep going girlfriend you got this!!

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  18. Wow, I know I am somewhat new to your blog but this is so strong of to write about this and I think writing can be so thereaputic so you're so smart to start a blog and you're doing a great job. Every day is a new day. :)

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    1. Thank you Dale, I appreciate the comment :)

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  19. Hi Launna im here again..just two words for you "Be Strong" take care n will come back to read ur inspired blog ^_^

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    1. Thank you Wawa... you are the sweetest ;-)

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