I really was a very negative person for many years of my life and I am so glad I stopped wasting time and I now choose to be positive and happy. When I pointed out that she would be an incredible partner for the right man and that she never knew when it could happen. She didn't share my vision, that's when I remember that I never shared that vision when other people told me the same thing.
Since I never believed I was enough, I never met a quality person, I settled for less then what was the best for me. I read about dating/marrying at the level of our self esteem, I certainly had no self esteem when I married Andrey, if I had any, I never would have married him. I actually believed he was the best I could do and that is so very sad.
Being free from him has allowed me to really think about what I felt about myself and I had to admit that I had attracted that type of person to me as I believed so little of myself. Now I expect the best, nothing less... I am a wonderful woman, I deserve the best and I am enough. One of my ways of continuing to be happy regardless of the situations in my life, is because I choose to surround myself with fantastic people who see the best in me.
I am not saying that we cannot be sad or feel down, that is normal, we all have those days. I just refuse to let it linger, I can't or won't allow myself to live in that place, it draws all the energy out of you to feel that way. I choose to use my energy to be happy and smile. When I reconnected with David, he told me that what drew me to him then was that I was so positive and happy, he wanted that feeling. I hadn't tried to be positive to draw David to me but that happened because I was happy and showed it.